3 Difficult Parts of My Personality (and of Yours Too)

On the Path... [View in Web Browser]( [Access your FREE 15-minute coaching call]( Hi {NAME}, Have you ever taken the time to list out all of your positive and negative traits and characteristics? Recently I was doing some of this in my journal. Now, my journal is very important to me, and I tend to especially lean on it when things aren’t going my way. Whenever I’m suffering emotionally or struck in life, it is the greatest source of healing. On my bookshelf behind me I have old journals dating back close to 20 years, and when I dig through them I see the pattern of using them as a means to soothe myself, to tap into my deepest inner guidance, and to express truths which seem too dark and uncomfortable to speak out loud. As Ernest Hemingway said, “write hard and clear about what hurts.” Pain is a teacher, and as Paul Chek says, “when we are living out of alignment with our dream path or soul-path in life, we consciously or unconsciously attract pain and painful experiences to our life.” There is a deep truth to this, and there is a lot we can learn from pain. So, in continuing to strive for self-mastery and full self-expression in this short life I get, I recently sat down to figure out why some things still feel like a struggle for me. Why some areas of my life are still painful. I landed upon the question of ‘why does my life seem difficult in certain areas?’ And of course, the journaling quickly revealed to me, as it typically does, that I alone am the source of my suffering, and that I alone have the power to change it. Here’s the top 3 things that came up, and I wanted to share them with you, because, not surprisingly, these are 3 things I see very often in my coaching clients. (If you haven’t yet accessed your free 15-minute coaching call, please do so [here](.) 1.) I have a problem with authority. Now, in terms of resisting the transgressions of those in authority who wish to violate my sovereignty and opportunity, this can be a very admirable trait. However, the greatest advances I’ve ever made in my personal growth have come when I’ve been able to surrender to my higher self, that is, surrender my ego to the authority of God... whatever that means to you. I've even had some profound experiences of surrendering to a higher authority in my work with shamanic plant medicines. If you look at the 12 steps of Alcoholics Anonymous, you see that step 2 refers to what I’m talking about here. Step 2: Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. The ego can be terribly resistant to the painful truth of life. So much so that it can drag you all the way down into the hell of alcoholism and addiction, rather than allow you to turn yourself over to an authority greater than your ego. 2.) I’ve never felt truly safe in my life. My childhood was fraught with chaos, fighting, yelling, passive aggressiveness, and outright violence. I used to come home from school and immediately be thrown into fight or flight mode because my abusive older brother would be in a rage about some random thing and would take it out on me. He even hurt me so bad on several occasions that I had to get stitches, just for basically existing in my own home. This type of trauma can affect you for your entire life without realizing it, and it’s only been within the last couple of years that I’ve begun to unravel the trauma bonds that have kept me living in distrust of others and of the world at large. 3.) I tend to self-medicate my problems and emotional discomfort. For years I tried to drown my problems with alcohol, tobacco, cannabis, pills and other drugs. I was doing what so many of you do, running from an uncomfortable feeling and an unwanted emotion, never knowing how to accept and address the root causes. Substances were always my go to pain reliever, but someone who self medicates can use anything to regulate their negative emotional states, including distraction, drama, food, sex, work, exercise and spending money. Doom scrolling is something that many of my clients do to avoid the painful truth of their lives. I no longer destroy my mind and health by abusing substances. Instead I deal directly with the emotional currents below the surface of my life, and this is something I work with others on in my [coaching practice](. So, again I asked you, what are your positive and your negative traits, and what are the most difficult qualities that hold you back from experiencing the happiness and abundance you deserve? [Access your FREE 15-minute coaching call]( What’s up in my personal life? I took a vacation! Yes, a proper, real vacation with my wife and 3 kids. What a great time. We went to Florida and the place we stayed at had terrible internet, so even though I had planned on working while I was there, I had no choice but to give myself a break. Also, I’ve been very focused on my physical health and development lately, and am feeling very strong and energetic. It rocks. Finally, I’ve decided to grow out the mustache a bit for an event next month. People call me Mario when it gets big. LOL. Anyhow, I'm back in the driver's seat after some much needed rest. If you're interested at all in what my coaching has to offer for you, book a 15-minute call, [here](. 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