a heartwarming story (not)

hosting a live call next Friday ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  "She used to tell this story all the time that was supposed to be heartwarming," Jeff* says. He’s winding up for a banger of a story about a popular coach we all know. "When her parents got divorced, her mom was totally poor. Y’know, because of her mindset,’" he says in a friendly yet mocking tone. Her dad got out with all the money, I guess. "One day she’s driving around in a limousine with her rich dad and she says to him, ‘The world looks better through the window of the limousine, daddy.’" Jeff embodies the dad in an Oscar-worthy performance as he mimics the dad’s reply in a gentle parenting tone, "And don’t you forget it, honey." We all explode in a fit of laughter. What a touching story! Someone should put that coach on PBS! I had two friends visit last week and we had the best time swapping stories about all the goddesses, divas and high-priestesses we’ve written for and/or paid money to (usually both), many of whom turned out to be abusive assholes. There’s nothing quite like good goss in a group of ex-culties with a combined total of about three decades in the coaching world. It felt good to connect and to see that my experiences in the coaching industry have not been unique, that I’m not exaggerating or inflating the issues when I talk about how dodgy it is. Survivors of coach abuse really do need a place for that kind of sharing. I don’t know if there are any yet. That’s not my wheelhouse and frankly I don’t have the skills to host such a group. If you start one, let me know. But I do have some answers and I have spent a lot of time thinking and writing about how we can do better, especially in the marketing of these offers. Next Friday I’m hosting a call to answer whatever questions you have about the state of the business/personal development coaching industries (the two are almost always blurred) in terms of how they are marketed. As I said, I love coaching and coaches. My best friend is a coach. I have a writing coach, a business coach (who I prefer to think of as a mentor), a pleasure coach I just wrapped up with, and a book coach I just hired to help me with my book outline. I am 100% supportive of keeping this industry going, and for coaches having profitable, values-driven businesses where everybody wins. But it will take some work to get there. Wanna keep this conversation going with me in a live setting? Live Q&A next week on Friday Next week on Friday, Nov. 4 @ 11 am ET, I'll be holding a live Q&A session. I'd particularly love to answer your questions about marketing in the coaching industry (in which I also include courses and group programs, of course), and how we can ethically sell and deliver coaching services. I wish I could accommodate more time zones, but this is what I’ve got right now. I’ll schedule another for later this month if people are interested and showing up. ⮕⮕⮕ To ask a question, just click Reply to this email. ⬅⬅⬅ I'll collect as many questions as I can reasonably answer, and the call will go about an hour. You don't need to register to attend — I'll shoot you a Zoom link the day before. xo, Tarzan P.S. Last week I wrote probably my most raw and important story to date about my recovery from cults and high-control groups. It’s [right here on Substack]( and you should probably get some tissues before you click that link. P.P.S. Jeff’s safety is important to me, so I’ve used a pseudonym. Your safety is important to me too. If I answer your question I will not share your identity. If you need/want to share any details of your story to help me understand your question, and you would like me to keep those details in confidence, please say so. Want to access your fave emails on the go? Subscribe to the [Tarzan Reads Her Emails]( podcast]( to, well, hear Tarzan read her emails. 🤷‍♀️ [New recordings released every Tuesday and Friday. Exclusively for my email subscribers]( Enjoy the email? Why not share it with a friend? [Facebook](  [Twitter](  [Linkedin](  [Email]( Inbox getting a little crowded? Looking to reduce the number of emails you receive? I hear ya, {NAME}! Simply choose how often you want to hear from me by clicking one of the links below. [Send 'em as you write 'em!]( [One a week would be perfect.]( [Can I get a monthly digest?]( This email was sent to: {EMAIL}. [Click here to update your info](. Tarzan Kay Global Inc., PO Box 1036, Fonthill, ON L0S1E0, Canada | [Unsubscribe](