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 â â â â â â â â â â â  â â â â â â â â â â â â â  â â â â â â â â â â â â â "Sheâs so skinny," says our server at a diner in the Calgary airport. [Tarzan and her friends take a selfie with a beautiful mountains, houses and trees covered in snow as their background]( Weâre topping up on overpriced drinks and so-so food during a 2-hour layover on our way to Revelstoke, British Columbia. The server passes me a limp-looking caesar salad and adds, "Someone better feed this one. Whatâs your secret, anyway?" This conversation makes me want to crawl under the table. How is my body size appropriate for casual conversation? We just met, lady. Normally I adore tactless people. I suffer from tactlessness myself, so I can give it as good as I can take it. But thereâs no humour in it today. "Iâm getting divorced," I say, in the same voice you might use to say "these jeans come from Target." People comment on my size all the time. Itâs become a little blasé, actually, a sort of backhanded compliment that Iâve become adept at deflecting. I have a closet full of clothes that donât fit me anymore, colourful Italian wool suits and such, from pre-COVID times. [Tarzan wearing a pink outfit with big round yellow earrings and yellow shoes, with her pink glasses, holding a yellow cellphone while sitting on a brown sofa chair]( I havenât felt like eating since about 1995. Divorce makes everything taste like sand. When someone comments on my weight, they donât realize they are actually commenting on my grief. The missing fat on my bones is the outward expression of the gut-wrenching pain of loss. Divorce is not a small conversation. Itâs not a table topic. Itâs really not for strangers to bring up over croutons at the airport. And yet⦠Sometimes what we *think* is casual commentary is actually a loaded topic. Itâs not so easy to brush aside. (To be clear, random body commentary is never okay. But itâs not always so black and white.) Iâve made this mistake loads of times in emails, casually making big statements but leaving them open-ended, for my readers to tie up for themselves. But my people are no pushovers. They ask questions and hold my feet to the fire. If youâre building a strong email list of subscribers who really care what you have to say, theyâll push back on your emails too, when youâve inadvertently struck a nerve. Itâs so important to take the time to explain when you get email replies asking, "WTW, {NAME}?! I donât get it." (I love [BombBomb]( for sending quick and thoughtful replies.) Those complainers, those questionners, the ones who flood my inbox with queries that are hard to answerâ¦theyâre often my best customers and my favourite people. Theyâre the subscribers who stick around for years and years. Iâm always down for a true exchange of thoughts, feelings and ideas. To be honest, big conversations are the only kind I know how to have. And Iâm always down to hear my subscribers in the fullest expression of themselves, even when theyâre expressing anger toward me. In this case, our casual airport dinner ended in our waiter telling me at least four times, "Iâll pray for you," which I loved. I found it quirky, inappropriate, and exactly my style. It was all I could do not to retort, "Youâd better be praying to Kanye since he is my personal Jesus." â¦except that is exactly the sort of off-handed one-liner you should never just casually drop and walk away from. Or should you? I guess weâll find out. With love,
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