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#1. Very good advice for a new manager.A long time ago I was interviewing to manage the engineerin
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#1. Very good advice for a new manager.A long time ago I was interviewing to manage the engineering t [View online]( [Coach Tony]( Coach Tony [@tonystubblebine]( #1. Very good advice for a new manager.
A long time ago I was interviewing to manage the engineering team at a startup. This team included Jack Dorsey, who built the first version of Twitter on that team. But I was woefully lacking in experience and so I was just very direct during my interview about being ready to grow.Â
So I asked one of the board members, a very successful venture capitalist, âHow would you hope that Iâll grow in this job?â
He gave a great answer. âThe emotion will go out of saying no. Young managers know what decision to make, but they get hung up out of fear of letting someone down. They burn a lot of time and cycles fretting. Donât do that. Make the decision you think is best and move on.â
Thatâs the first time I heard a variant of Brené Brownâs âClear is kind, unclear is unkind.â
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#2. In order to say no respectfully, you first need respect.Â
If you only set boundaries and push your ideas on people, then you will lose them. First, you need to listen and care. You canât do that silentlyâââyou have to do it in a way thatâs visible and felt by the people you manage.Â
I liked this framing from [Argue Like a Buddha: The 4 Skillful Responses to Conflict]( by [Joe Hunt](. Being direct to be kind is to be a âdestroyer.â
Before being a destroyer, itâs first necessary to have the patience and wisdom to pacify, enrich, and magnetize. Through this, you establish a level of trust and a solid foundation for being firm and forcefulâââwhen and if necessary.
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#3. We won because âAll the parts fit.âÂ
Iâm from San Francisco and live in Brooklyn, so I get to follow two very talented but very different teams. The Brooklyn Nets started the season with three superstars, but obviously no chemistry. They didnât make the playoffs.
The San Francisco Warriors started the team with a lot of talent thatâs getting old and coming off injuries. But the coach and the captains have bought into role clarity. Everyone knows and embraces their role, and everyone cheers each other for filling those roles.Â
I watched the Warriors win last night to advance to the Championship. Their leader, Steph Curry, explained why, âAll the parts fit.â
Itâs an example of overlooking chemistry to focus on talent.Â
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