A key to thriving in middle adulthood, according to psychology.

Remember that wherever your heart is, there you will find your treasure.~ Paulo Coelho- - - - - #1. S [View online]( [Coach Tony]( Coach Tony [@tonystubblebine]( Remember that wherever your heart is, there you will find your treasure. ~ Paulo Coelho - - - - - #1. Some depth on purpose, according to psychology. I had coffee this week with my friend [marci alboher]( to talk about purpose. She’s long worked in this space and is in the middle of a related research project. So if any recent talk about purpose has resonated with you, she pointed me to two resources. One is UC Berkeley’s Greater Good organization and [their purpose resources](. The other is Marci’s own article, [Find Purpose by Connecting Across Generations](. A key note: … [W]hat 20th century psychologist Erik Erikson described as “[generativity](,” or making a mark by working to make the world a better place for younger generations. Erikson believed that this was key to thriving in middle adulthood (roughly ages 40–65). Often it involves investing directly in young people who will live long after we’re gone. - - - - - #2. The FAD mantra for rapid email processing. This comes from an Inbox Zero coach ([Marshall Hughes]() and his system for getting your email under control. FAD is File, Act, Defer: 1. FILE: Move it to Archive. - This is the action for every email you don’t have to act on now, and won’t have to act on in the future. Be honest and fair with yourself. Are you really going to act on 220 emails? 2. ACT (this is good only if it is 1–2 minutes): then move it to Archive. - Some people find using a timer on emails a great help. Hit the 2-minute timer, and get it done! If you run over time, consider deferring for later. 3. DEFER: either flag it for follow up at a specific day and time, create a task, or set a calendar reminder — then move it to Archive. [His whole system is very well tested](, and something I’d recommend to anyone who gets a lot of emails. - - - - - #3. Tips for your amateur wedding minister. This is a little out of left field, but somebody asked me on Twitter what advice I’d have for a Universal Life Church “minister” performing their first wedding. That’s the online church that will ordain anyone, including me. And I’ve done six weddings: both of my sisters, my oldest sister’s best friend, one of my best friends from high school, a receptionist at a place I used to work, and a couple that I pitched at a party. There are no divorces on my perfect track record. I recommend this idea: if you are getting married, have someone who knows and loves you be the minister. If that’s your existing minister, great. Otherwise, choose a friend or sibling. I’ve had to rely on the Universal Life Church (ULC) over the years to provide various documents to me so that I could register as a minister under various state laws. California needs nothing. But Hawaii and New York both needed “proof of good standing.” The ULC delivered and I trust them. So, on to my tips. I have two. One is that the bride and groom may jokingly ask the minister to be funny. The minister should ignore them. Nobody wants the minister to be funny. Then two, the minister’s role is best thought of as an MC rather than a keynote speaker. The job is to smoothly move the ceremony from high point to high point: procession, to vows, to rings, to kiss, etc. The minister should give a loving intro — but that intro should be short and sweet. - - - - - Tips or feedback? [Send me a response on Twitter.]( Open Opportunities: * Habit Coach Certification: Early bird pricing for the next class of Habit Coach Certification is live until the end of April. ( Don’t miss out on the other issues by Coach Tony [Become a member for $5 per month]( Did you enjoy this issue? [Yes]( [No]( [Coach Tony]( Coach Tony [@tonystubblebine]( Tips, inspirations, and knowledge on productivity, happiness, health, and making an impact on our world. Official email of the Better Humans publication on Medium. (@bttrhumans) You can manage your subscription [here](. In order to unsubscribe, click [here](. If you were forwarded this newsletter and you like it, you can subscribe [here](. Created with [Revue by Twitter](.