Why are legos fun but IKEA isn’t?

Live in the present moment.I’ve put together a lot of IKEA furniture recently but their bunk bed is g [Coach Tony]( Coach Tony [@tonystubblebine]( Live in the present moment. I’ve put together a lot of IKEA furniture recently but their bunk bed is grandmaster level difficult. I took a full hour to complete step five and then realized there are thirty-five steps. All of the frustration I have with assembling any furniture is that my goal is to be done. So every mistake delays the goal. But when I was a kid with a new LEGO set my goal was to figure it out. Assembly was the fun part. We think of being goal-oriented as a positive. But it’s also the source of unnecessary suffering. Goals draw you out of the present moment. And so, like many parts of self-improvement, there is an art to being goal-directed but process-oriented. This bunk bed has a purpose and a deadline (goal), but I didn’t let those distract me from enjoying the many hours of mastering the assembly (process). Victory. _ Reading well is the most underexplored self-improvement tactic. Here’s my spiel. Forget reading to remember. You should read in order to transform yourself. This quote gets at this: Sönke encourages us to read with a pen in hand. Not to take notes in the margins, or to highlight “important” passages of the text. But to write about the ideas in our own words. Connecting the ideas to our own life and asking questions for further research. From [Elaboration Is the Key to Learning What You Read]( by [Sam’s Blog]( A reader writes: Not a fan of TikTok, but darn funny! Good. TikTok is a time suck and nobody should go there. Just keep subscribing to my newsletter and I’ll curate the best TikToks for you every Tuesday. Perfectionism leads to paralysis. Here’s a good example of how high stakes creates paralysis and then the very simple solution. A reader writes: I’m writing a ‘father of the groom’ speech. Agonising over exactly the correct language. I like you’re idea of getting a very rough draft first and improving it. _ Take your goals to the next level by finding a coach for yourself in our [coaching directory](. Don’t miss out on the other issues by Coach Tony [Become a member for $5 per month]( Did you enjoy this issue? [Yes]( [No]( [Coach Tony]( Coach Tony [@tonystubblebine]( Tips, inspirations, and knowledge on productivity, happiness, health, and making an impact on our world. Official email of the Better Humans publication on Medium. (@bttrhumans) You can manage your subscription [here](. In order to unsubscribe, click [here](. If you were forwarded this newsletter and you like it, you can subscribe [here](. Created with [Revue by Twitter](.