Also: Jon Stewartâs "calm-down" paternalism isnât funny in 2024 [Donate ❤️]( [View in Browser](  February 25, 2024 Dear Cog reader, There is no faith greater than handing your teenager the car keys, strapping yourself into the passenger seat and letting your child drive down the street. You will swallow the voice inside shouting, âDonât hit that tree!â You will struggle to keep your voice calm as you suggest that your child look â look! â both ways before turning onto another street. Linda K. Wertheimer captured this parental ritual of ceding control in an [essay this week]( about her sonâs latest milestone: turning 16 and getting his learnerâs permit. âMy son was going to become a driver,â she writes. âI was thrilled. I was terrified.â Lindaâs fear transcended the normal parental anxiety about teaching her son to drive. In her family, driving was laced with trauma. Lindaâs older brother Kevin, her best friend, died in a car accident when he was 23. State troopers said Kevin apparently fell asleep at the wheel on a winding road in rural Utah. His red Jeep rolled down a cliff. This coming Friday will be the 38th anniversary of his death, a date she marks each year, along with his birthday. âMy biggest fear after losing Kevin was losing anyone else I loved,â she writes. Lindaâs essay examines the way we all bring our previous lives â the joy and the trauma â into parenting. She recognized that her familyâs grief could alter the way she parented her son, whose middle name is Kevin, for the uncle he never met. âFrom that very first moment I held Simon in my arms, I was determined not to pass on that scar to him,â she writes. Iâve known Linda for two decades, since we worked together at The Boston Globe. Iâve long admired how she writes about the sorrows that many people keep hidden â [grief]( [postpartum depression]( [family illness]( â and reminds us that theyâre forever paired with love. I remember her excitement when she told me in the fluorescent hallways of the old Globe building that she was pregnant with Simon, her only child, at 42. Sixteen years later, sheâs learning to let him go. Until next week, Kathleen Burge
Editor, Cognoscenti
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