Also: The reasons for climate optimism [Donate ❤️]( [View in Browser](  August 27, 2023 Dear Cog reader, Thereâs an unexpected interloper in [Bill Evilleâs essay]( this week about the ache of parenting older children: Jimmy McNulty, a character from HBOâs series âThe Wire.â If youâve seen the show, you know McNulty (played by the dashing Dominic West): Heâs the frustrating, self-sabotaging, occasionally brilliant detective whose lifeâs work is busting Baltimoreâs drug dealers and kingpins. I agree with the critics: âThe Wireâ is among the [best series ever made](. I watched it in one gulp in early 2009, just after a move from Boston to Washington, D.C. I was desperately lonely, and âThe Wireâ helped me through it. (My husband and I got our first dog in D.C.; we named him Bodie, after a âWireâ character.) The show has also been an oft companion in Bill's life. Once upon a time, a stranger mistook him for West, a welcome mis-identification (for Bill). What I didnât necessarily see coming was Bill using the trials and tribulations of McNulty, Omar, Avon Barksdale and the like to soothe his infant son in the middle of the night. Billâs son, Hardy, is now 19 and a college sophomore. But for years, Bill was a stay-at-home dad. He managed registering his kids for activities and found friendship with other parents (mostly moms) at the local park. He dressed simply for the role: a uniform of black and gray T-shirts, which he imagined would stand up to the splatter and spit up of parenthood. He was wearing one of those utilitarian, black, 19-year-old T-shirts while drinking a beer with a fellow dad and friend a couple of weeks ago. His friend asked, âDo you think itâs more sad or weird when a kid leaves home?â Bill answered weird; he could count on one hand the number of times heâd seen his son in the past year. It was bizarre to think more about the dog than his own son. âI was prepared to feel sad saying goodbye at college drop-off, and to avoid Hardyâs empty room upon returning home,â he writes. âWhat I did not see coming, however, was a loss of feeling as the weeks turned to months.â Billâs kids are older than mine, so I donât know yet what itâs like to let go â or at least to let go as he describes. But I do understand the bigger idea heâs getting at: That parenting, in all its twists and turns, allows us to feel a âfuller spectrum of emotions, from love to rage, from grief to worry to ecstatic joy and back again." He's also inspired me to watch "The Wire" for the third time. P.S.â Cog is taking a publishing hiatus next week, to work on longer-term projects and prepare for a busy fall. Weâll be back in your inboxes after Labor Day. Enjoy these final sweet days of summer. Cloe Axelson
Senior Editor, Cognoscenti
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[My sonâs a college sophomore, and Iâm still learning how to be a dad](
Parenting taught me how to feel a fuller spectrum of emotions, from love to rage, from grief to worry to ecstatic joy and back again, writes Bill Eville. [Read more.](
[My sonâs a college sophomore, and Iâm still learning how to be a dad](
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[Summer camp is for everybody](
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[Donât get stuck in a vortex of doom. There are plenty of reasons for climate optimism](
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[The biggest threat to our students is gun violence](
The issue of gun violence is not theoretical for us, write educators Sydney Chaffee and TK Nagayoshi. It has become an unavoidable part of our work with children, diverting our time and attention from teaching. But preventing gun violence for kids is not just about what happens in schools. [Read more.](
[Zen and the art of lawn maintenance](
A "reel mower" may conjure images from the 1950s, but the environmental imperatives of the 21st century have enhanced, not diminished, the virtues of this humble landscaping device, writes Rich Barlow. [Read more.](
[Zen and the art of lawn maintenance](
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The Cop Slide might not have been what the city of Boston envisioned for its plaza, writes Miles Howard, but for a brief moment in time, it belonged to all of us. [Read more.](
[A cop, a slide and a fleeting moment of viral joy](
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