How the male gaze launched an internet debate about who summer dresses are really for.
vox.com/culture CULTURE The Wednesday edition of the Vox Culture newsletter is all about internet culture, brought to you by senior reporter Rebecca Jennings. The Wednesday edition of the Vox Culture newsletter is all about internet culture, brought to you by senior reporter Rebecca Jennings. âï¸ Who are sundresses really for? ð Much like âis a hot dog a sandwichâ or âdoes not liking Taylor Swift mean you hate womenâ (no and no), âsundress seasonâ is one of those things that sparks perennial debate on the internet. The term entered the popular imagination in 2010, when an episode of How I Met Your Mother had Barney (Neil Patrick Harris) extolling the virtues of the garment. âThe sundresses, Ted! I donât think I can make it another eight months with no sundresses,â [he says](, then poses a riddle: âWhat piece of womenâs attire most stokes a manâs desire?â âWhat lightweight outfit, pink or white, makes the front of my slacks abnormally tight?â The answer, of course, is the sundress, which has claimed cult status among horny straight men ever since and still, more than a decade later, manages to drive online debate. âWhen you realize itâs almost sundress season,â reads the caption of [one viral TikTok]( of a man smiling in the grass and listening to Natasha Bedingfieldâs âPocketful of Sunshine.â âIf youâre a lady watching this, do your man a favor and buy âem all,â [said another](. But like, what is a sundress? In mid-April, Jacqueline Ryan, a 24-year-old in Baltimore, posed the [question to her TikTok]( following. âI see all these videos of men saying how much they love sundresses,â she said, âWhat is a sundress? I own every dress. Which one is the sun one?â The video ended up getting more than 9 million views, but even after thousands of comments, no one could [provide a definitive answer](. [Alcohol alternatives] Getty Images Thatâs when Randy Trembacki, a 30-year-old video producer in Austin, [replied with a lengthy]( video, complete with visual aids, to show what he believed men thought of when they spoke excitedly about sundress season: a mini-dress with a fitted top and flowy bottom, usually in bright colors or floral print. âIâm not a psychiatrist, but I think itâs a mixture of the [fact that] itâs cute and also sexy at the same time, but without being trashy,â he says over the phone when I ask why men keep talking about them. âIt accentuates the female form, but in a conservative way.â This, to some, wasnât quite telling the whole story. [Black women]( and men clarified that when they talk about âsundress season,â theyâre referring to dresses that are tight not only in the bodice but fitted all the way through the skirt. âThis is the dress that men break their necks to look at,â [one TikToker explained]( while wearing a stretchy, form-fitting maxi-length dress. The thirst account [@SundressSzn]( has been posting examples of women wearing these types of dresses since 2010. Nikki Martin, a fit expert who has worked in the fashion industry for two decades, says she can understand the confusion among people from different backgrounds or generations. âThereâs a difference between your granny saying âsundressâ and the kid from Harlem or Brooklyn saying âsundress season,ââ she explains. âItâs taken on a new meaning in African American culture for a certain generation.â âI call it the [Skims takeover](,â she adds, referring to Kim Kardashianâs brand of skin-tight dresses and sets. âYou have the younger generation where now everything is Skims, bodycon, and tight, and so people don't necessarily adhere to the correct terminology. They think everything is now a sundress.â [Her TikTok video]( explained that the term âsundressâ actually does have a specific meaning and a clear history. A sundress is sleeveless, lightweight, and casual, usually with a more fitted bodice and a skirt that flows outward. Thereâs a specific reason for this: The sundress as we know it today was born in postwar America, when designers began to target an active consumer base with more leisure time than ever. The resulting category â [sportswear]( â would provide the foundations of American fashion for the next century, and remains what most people today wear. Designers like Claire McCardell and Carolyn Schnurer were particularly responsible for the silhouette and feel of the sundress, designed to be âunfussy, required minimal foundation garments and could be worn for a variety of occasions,â [according to The Met](. By the â60s, Florida socialite Lilly Pulitzer [reimagined the sundress]( to be even looser and more casual, meant to be worn without the girdles, slips, or longline bras popular into the decade (Pulitzer herself ensured they were double-lined so that she could go without underwear). Unlike the stiff cotton poplin Pulitzerâs dresses were made of, modern clothing tends to be stretchier and more fitted, made with polyester, viscose, and other fabrics that are cheap to produce but [terrible for the environment](. Thatâs the thing about fashion: It changes, and yesterdayâs sundress wonât necessarily be tomorrowâs. The reason weâre talking about sundresses at all is not because of the evolution of womenâs fashion but because of the male gaze. Sundress discourse, especially when men are driving it, feels reminiscent of an earlier era, one where womenâs magazines regularly touted features about âwhat guys REALLY think of your outfitâ and offered advice on how to dress âfor your man.â That doesnât happen as much anymore; social media ushered in an era of wider understanding of feminism and body positivity, which the media and entertainment industries reflected and sold back to us. Since then, viral âhornyâ clothing items have usually been ones worn by men to be admired by women and gay men, from [gray sweatpants]( to [thigh-baring short shorts]( to the guy from Normal Peopleâs [chain necklace](. Weâre currently in a strange era of online gender dynamics, though, with [some research showing]( that young women are leaning more progressive while young men are heading to the right. This has created a renewed appetite for gender essentialist rhetoric by both men and women (take a look at any of the [most viral âdating adviceâ content]( for a sample of this sort of nihilistic, âmen are from Mars, women are from Venusâ viewpoint). The result is a brewing gender war, fueled in part by a [backlash against Me Too](, with influencers gaining clout by spouting controversial takes on sex and gender norms. âI think men are becoming more vocal about their opinions online,â says Ryan when I ask why the âsundress seasonâ discourse seems to be more potent this year. Take, for instance, the man [who went viral for complaining]( about âthese fucking wrestling singletsâ that he saw women wearing (by which he means athleisure onesies and sets). âItâs sundress season, baby, come on! Us men are waiting, bring âem out!â he said. That guy was rightfully roasted in the comments section, but the popularity of his video shows that when we talk about sundresses, what weâre really talking about is who gets to decide what women put on their bodies, and for what purpose. How I Met Your Motherâs resident sleaze discussing sexy sundresses played as a standard sitcom joke in 2010, but in 2024, women are more likely to be asking, âWhy on earth should I care what a man thinks about my clothes?â Itâs a common refrain for men to say that they love sundresses because they provide âeasy accessâ to sex. Itâs just as easy to imagine that being a reason why a woman might not want to wear one, so as to avoid being sexualized. These days, a man on the internet complaining that women arenât wearing sundresses like they used to reads as [reactionary, trad, or antifeminist](, not that he appreciates women. It was never really about sundresses, then. Martin guesses that the men involved in the sundress debate, if you can call it that, donât really care about the precise definition anyway. âPeople are saying, âLook, lady, we donât give a damn what a sundress is. We just want to see you walk by.ââ âAt the end of the day, I think everyone should wear whatever they consider a sundress this summer, and we're all gonna be happy,â echoes Trembacki. This year, though, itâs more of a loaded decision than ever. Clickbait - Are home pages ⦠[back](?!
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