Harvard negotiator teaches you how to argue in a way that leads to better understanding

[1]( [Harvard negotiator teaches you how to argue in a way that leads to better understanding]( Conflict is something that most people don't like. It can easily escalate into an argument, tempers can get flared and feelings hurt. But it doesn't have to be that way. Dan Shapiro, a Harvard negotiator, demonstrates how to argue effectively in a new insightful four-minute video. The video covers three keys to an [effective argument]( that can leave the other party feeling heard, validated and understood. This may all sound like some sort of magic trick, but the man has got some solid points, especially as it seems like people's ears stop working when someone disagrees with them. Immediately in the video, Shapiro states that he personally doesn't feel comfortable around conflict, which is kind of surprising since his job is negotiation. I'm not sure if everyone has seen how negotiations work but sometimes the exchange can get pretty heated. Don't worry, he goes on to explain how conflict can actually be pretty helpful. The professor talks about how America has fallen into a "tribal trap" where you disbelieve and discredit everything someone with opposing views says. [Read the story]( [2]( [Coal miner shows up covered in soot so son wouldn't miss his first Kentucky basketball game]( A photo of Kentucky coal miner Michael McGuire, 29, went viral because it was a moving example of a hardworking guy doing whatever it takes to be with his family. As [The Athletic reports]( on Saturday, October 22, McGuire worked a long shift that was supposed to end at 4 p.m. but he didn't get off until 5 p.m. He had tickets to see the annual University of Kentucky Blue-White scrimmage game at Appalachian Wireless Arena with his family so he went straight from work, covered in coal dust, to the arena. McGuire couldn’t miss his 3-year-old son’s first basketball game. Plus, the [Blue-White game]( is a Kentucky Wildcat tradition where the team splits in half and plays each other. This year, proceeds from the game [went to benefit]( flood victims in eastern Kentucky. “It’s normal for us,” his wife, Mollie, told [The Athletic.]( nothing for us to go out to eat or him to come to our son’s tee-ball games or family events covered in coal dust … So we’ve just gotten used to it, coal dust everywhere. We’re kind of proud of it. It’s just what you’ve got to do around here to make a living.” What wasn’t normal was the public’s reaction to his sooty appearance. [Read the story]( Did a friend forward this to you? [Subscribe here]( [3]( [How eating organically really does save the planet]( When I was a kid, I loved picking blackberries. I spent hours in the scalding hot sun pulling the fattest ones off the bushes and collecting them in a bucket, careful to avoid the thorns. My dad trained me to watch for snakes, because they like blackberries too, and my mom taught me how to turn those berries into [mouth watering blackberry cobbler.]( If I was feeling brave, I’d accompany my dad to the big lake in the woods behind our house, where he’d hang out for hours fishing for freshwater bass. I was fascinated by the way the hook caught in their wide mouths as they twisted on the line. When he’d caught enough, we—and by that I definitely mean he—moved on to the next stage: fileting their scaly bodies with an electric knife, and prepping the meat for frying. I didn’t realize until many years later that I was raised on a mostly organic diet, which kind of blew my mind since we were a blue-collar family living in one of the poorest parts of the state. Exactly zero members of my household knew how to recycle, and even if we did, our neck of the woods certainly didn’t offer recycling bins. I had never even heard the word “organic” until I was much older; after all, aren’t organic foods mostly for the wealthy upper class? In the words of my daddy, “that ain’t us.” Or was it? When I really think about it, I remember eating green beans and tomatoes straight from the garden, and pecan pie made from the nuts that fell from grandma’s pecan trees. Even now, I have several friends with egg-laying chickens and a neighbor who makes homemade jam, salsa, and pickles. Come to think of it, I was eating organic way before it was cool. [Read the story]( [4]( [Jon Stewart just conducted an unforgettable interview with lawmaker peddling election lies]( [Jon Stewart]( stepped out of the spotlight to work on a cause he felt passionately about, getting adequate funding for veterans who got [sick from burn pits]( while in combat zones. But last year he took to the desk again for his new show on Apple TV+, "The Problem With Jon Stewart," and this second season is shaping up to be doozy of musical chairs with a new politician in the hot seat every week. Clips from the rapid-fire interviews are going viral, in part for his oxymoronic signature style of questioning but largely due to his excellent research and fact-checking. This episode with Arizona Attorney General Mark Brnovich is a prime example of his skill when inquiring about election fraud. When Stewart asks a question, you should probably believe he already knows the answer, and this seems to catch some people off guard. The talk show host's [last clip to go viral]( was of him grilling Arkansa Attorney General Leslie Rutledge about her state's laws that ban gender-affirming care for minors. There were moments that appeared to expose that the guest was not prepared for Stewart to ask such hard and pressing questions but the host persisted. [Read the story]( [5]( [Artist's unusual techniques and tools mesmerize viewers as he paints magical scenes]( Watching someone [create a piece of art]( can be a fascinating experience even when using traditional methods, but when an artist utilizes unique tools and techniques, it's all the more mesmerizing. (Have you seen the guy who creates huge, hyperrealistic drawings with [just a basic Bic ballpoint pen]( Absolutely amazing.) Then, when you add an element of soothing sounds on top of it—such as [Bob Ross' calm voice and wholesome commentary]( for example—watching art come to life becomes an almost meditative experience. Enter Jay Lee, a painter who has grown a huge following [on YouTube]( with his wordless painting tutorials. Lee's techniques are unconventional from the get-go, as he often starts his paintings by applying streaks and globs of paint directly on the canvas. As he blends the paint with calming instrumental music in the background, you can start to see the beginnings of a background take shape. He also pulls in various unconventional tools to create different effects, such as crumpled-up aluminum foil, batches of cotton swabs rubber-banded together, sprigs of pine, forks, hair combs and more. He does use traditional paintbrushes as well, but the combination of tools he uses creates interesting textures while saving tons of time. [Read the story]( Find us on the World Wide Web: [Facebook]( [Instagram]( [Twitter]( [Website]( [LinkedIn]( Copyright © 2022 GOOD | Upworthy, All rights reserved. 1370 N St Andrews Pl, Los Angeles, CA 90028 You can [update your preferences]( or [unsubscribe from this list](.