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The science that proves how you can have political debates but still get along and get things done
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Perhaps the worst part about 2020 isn't that it's thrown so much at us. It's that we've taken all th
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[The science that proves how you can have political debates but still get along and get things done]( Perhaps the worst part about 2020 isn't that it's thrown so much at us. It's that we've taken all the shit we've had to wade through and started flinging it at each other. The election. Racial justice. COVID. Literally small pieces of fabric for your face. And it's tearing us apart. A University of Nebraska-Lincoln survey of 800 Americans found that one in five had a friendship that was "damaged" because of a political argument. The unfortunate thing about it all is that we have more in common than we think we do. We just suck at discussing it. According to More in Common, a group that works to address underlying drivers of polarization, Americans believe that more than half the country holds extreme views, but it's actually closer to 30%. The problem is that we've been misunderstanding each other, not that our views are wildly dissimilar. [Read the Story]( [Man buys the bank building where he was refused a loan when he had no money 18 years ago]( Adam Deering made a big bet on himself back in 2002 and it paid off. The trouble was that, at the time, the people he needed help to make it happen â Royal Bank of Scotland in Urmston, Greater Manchester â didn't have the same faith in him. His story is a great tale about the power of believing in yourself topped by the oh-so-satisfying cherry of sweet revenge. "I quit my job as a salesman aged 21 because I knew I had it in me to create a successful business, but I didn't have a penny to my name so I needed a bank loan," he said. [Read the Story]( [You don't have to wait for an apology to forgive someone who hurt you]( Forgiveness is hard for most of us, but it's harder for some than others. When we've been harmed in some wayâphysically, emotionally, or bothâwe tend to carry the pain around with us. Anger and resentment are natural responses to being hurt, of course, and the longer or more severe the wounding, the more likely we are to feel those feelings long-term. What we usually wantâor think we wantâis for the person who did the hurting to acknowledge our pain. We want them to fully understand what we feel, to know the impact of their words or actions. And we want an apology as proof that the person not only get, but also regrets, what they've said or done to us. Some of us will hold onto our anger and resentment indefinitely, waiting for that all-important apology to come before we even consider the idea of forgiveness. But if we value our own well-being, we may want to rethink that order. [Read the Story]( [A new app can help you translate your cats meows]( As great as being a cat owner is, one of the most frustrating parts about it is not being able to understand your cat. You can't really get a straight answer from questions like, "What's so important that you feel you need to block my computer screen while I'm working" or "Why do you keep on peeing on everything?" But thanks to technology, we might be able to better understand our cats, even though we don't speak the same language or even have the same type of vocal chords. Javier Sanchez, a former Amazon engineer who worked on Alexa, has developed a new app that can translate your cat's cute mews into human words. It's called MeowTalk, and it incorporates similar technology to that of Alexa to bridge the language barrier between human and cats. [Read the Story]( [Hate vs. debateâa tale of two e-mail responses to an article I wrote]( I've been writing for the people of the internet for more than a decade, so I'm used to my fair share of hate mail. I don't generally share the details of my inbox with the public (choosing instead to send screenshots to my close friends so we can vent about the insanity of the world together), but two e-mails I received from people who had similar complaints about an article I wrote seem like they offer a lesson of sorts about how we shouldâand shouldn'tâcommunicate with each other. A few months ago, I wrote an article about some people's reactions to the murder of Cannon Hinnant, a 5-year-old North Carolina boy shot and killed by a neighbor while out riding his bike in front of his house. It was a terrible, tragic story. Anti-BLM forces quickly jumped on it, complaining that the national media didn't cover the story like they would if the races were reversed (Hinnant was white, his killer was Black). A #SayHisName campaign accompanied the complaint, usurped from the BLM movement. My piece pointed out the reasons why that complaint was problematic. [Read the Story]( Find us on the World Wide Web: [Facebook]( [Instagram]( [Website]( Copyright © 2020 GOOD | Upworthy, All rights reserved.
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