Myth-destroying therapist explains why it's 'loving' for couples to go to bed angry

September 06, 2024 | [Read Online]( [fb]( [fb]( [fb]( [fb](mailto:?subject=Post%20from%20the%20Upworthiest&body=New%20Post%3A%20%0A%0Ahttps%3A%2F%2Fnewsletter.upworthy.com%2Fp%2Fnew-post-226f) [Myth-destroying therapist explains why it's 'loving' for couples to go to bed angry]( Love isn't that simplistic. Just about everyone who has been married has been told countless times by older, more experienced couples that one of the most essential rules is, [“Don’t go to bed angry.”](They swear it’s best for a relationship to hash out the disagreement before bed and ensure it’s resolved before anyone gets[any shut-eye.]( That advice makes a lot of sense. It’s hard to get to sleep after fighting with [your significant other.](The argument keeps playing over and over again in your head. You may be angry. You may be hurt. That’s a bad position to be in, if you need to get your 40 winks. [Read the story]( [Mom says she won't be raising 'tough boys' to avoid this one toxic trait]( “See these boys? These are our boys. And we have decided not to raise tough boys.” [Parenting]( has evolved in myriad ways, but certainly one of the more potent shifts has been attitudes towards [raising boys.]( As a society, we have seen how detrimental the whole “[men should be strong](and never show emotion” thing can be, and more and more parents are trying to not pass that outdated belief onto their sons. Still, you’ll definitely run across an adult—be it a parent, grandparent, teacher, babysitter, etc— saying “boys don’t cry!” or “toughen up” from time to time whenever a young boy shows sensitivity. And that is exactly why a video posted by [Jen Hamilton](, a mom of two boys, is such an important watch, because in it Hamilton deftly explains how associating masculinity with toughness teaches boys that only one emotion is allowed expression. [Read the story]( [Somene finally wrote a novel about father-daughter relationships and it’s a must-read.]( Nearly 80 percent of all books are bought by women. The first time I sat down to write a fictional story (about 13 years ago), I wrote a screenplay jam-packed with stuff a 20-something year old guy thought was cool. Since then I've become a father to two amazing girls, and for a long time my writing career was put on the backburner. (Turns out, you suddenly have a lot less free time as a parent.) But in early 2021, after many long months of COVID lockdown, I wanted to try writing something straight from the heart, something that better reflected who I am now — nostalgic, sentimental, both excited for and terrified of watching my girls grow up — and I wanted to try it as a novel. [Read the story]( [15 things most women don't realize that men find attractive]( Men aren't just staring at your body. There is so much more to a woman being considered attractive by a man than having a specific [waist-to-hip ratio]( or a perfectly [symmetrical face](. Sure, it’s a lot easier to be considered beautiful when you’ve won the genetic lottery, but men are paying attention to a lot more than a woman’s measurements. Guys can get a bad rap for being shallow, but the average dude isn’t only[attractive to](women who look like they've been [Photoshopped](. According to a [viral AskReddit post](, he’s looking for a woman with a natural look and a down-to-earth personality. A Redditor asked men on the Reddit AskMen forum to share the following: “Minor things are very attractive to women, but they never seem to realize it?” [Read the story]( [fb]( [tw]( [ig]( [yt]( [tk]( [in]( Update your email preferences or unsubscribe [here]( © 2024 GOOD | Upworthy. All rights reserved 1370 N St Andrews Pl Los Angeles, CA 90028, United States of America [[beehiiv logo]Powered by beehiiv]( [Terms of Service](