Lemonade Wisdom: From the Rearview Mirror

FROM THE REARVIEW MIRROR When you are "in it" (the custody battle) -- the fog is thick. It's a different type of fog than the one we experienced while in the relationship. The fog in the relationship is dark - no lighthouse up ahead illuminating our path. No map to find our coordinates - blindly trying to feel our way around and navigate our way. Desperately trying to hold onto the optimism that has served us over the years as if it were a life raft. With each day, hope and optimism feels further out of reach with the waves crashing on us, we often struggle to find our breath. The fog of the custody battle is different - we've seen the stark contrast between the glimmers of sunshine up ahead and the thick darkness that we've been standing in. We yearn to bask in the warm, comforting rays of the sun. We have seen that there is hope and a better life for ourselves and our child(ren). Those around us encourage us to walk out of the darkness and into a brighter new life - all we want is peace, love and light for ourselves and for our children. These things are difficult to articulate when we are in it - and even though I have court tomorrow and technically, I'm still in this system, I have personally had enough distance to see it with a clarity that is painful. The messages that we're given is to leave abusive, toxic relationships but there is missing a fine print disclaimer that we were not given: FINE PRINT DISCLAIMER WARNING: YOU ARE ENTERING NEW TERRITORY WHICH WILL INCLUDE TWO NEW FORMS OF ABUSE: POST SEPARATION ABUSE AND INSTITUTIONAL BETRAYAL. By entering the family court system of your own free will, you will be subjected to an archaic, barbaric, patriarchal, and misogynistic twilight zone where common sense is replaced by victim blaming, gaslighting and utter disregard for you or your child(ren)'s safety and well-being. Along with your case number, you will be assigned your own personal terrorist and this person will be given free reign to use your children as pawns and weapons. Any attempts to prevent your children from being used as pawns and weapons will result in you being labeled an "alienator." If you attempt to speak out about any of this abuse, you will be met with a gag order to silence you and at that point, things will get even worse. ### If this feels familiar to you, I am sending you a hug. For the past year, I've been working on revisions to my first book and as I read back through the past 13-years of my life, it's difficult to grasp that this is real life - that this is MY life and it's YOUR life. If my words today resonate with you, I am sorry... as isolating as this journey felt for so many years - I truly wish it was just one mom's battle. I wish this was fiction - I wish that no one else understand my words and more than anything, I wish this system prioritized you and your children. I see you and I stand with you. Together, we will continue fighting for our children. If you haven't already, please join our efforts to pass Kayden's Law in all 50 states by going to www.nationalsafeparents.org and select, "join the advocacy community." Thank you for being a part of my little village of Lemonade Warriors! Love and Light, Tina [Sign Up]( June 1st is the launch of the 2022 WNAAD Tele-Summit! I am part of the 2022 World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day (WNAAD) Tele-Summit as a speaker! And today, June 1st is not only Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day worldwide, but it is also, the day that the summit launches with FREE access to all the speakers for 24 hours. This year, the summit is proud to feature experts, including myself that spans a wide array of recovery-oriented topics about narcissistic and psychopathic abuse by an even wider array of presenters—therapists, authors, field researchers, and survivor coaches--all bringing their own unique strategies for healing. You are invited to ‘binge-listen’ to as many speakers that spark your interest on June 1st for 24 hours. Here is the lineup and I hope you will drop by for my interview and all the others that resonate with you. From me and WNAAD, we welcome you to the healing journey this summit is sure to provide. We want to know about your experience with [Linda J. Gottlieb]( of Turning Points (alienation quack-ery). There are reports that she physically assaulted a 13-year old girl at her reunification program. [Click here to share your experience](. About this campaign: We are pulling names from our database to feature -- you can add your family court professional by going to [intheirbestinterest.com]( and click, "submit." We want to know who IS and who IS NOT acting in their best interest? "Lynn Steinburg took a child molester's word as fact - during an televised interview, Steinberg stated, "This father was being accused of sexually molesting and assaulting his daughter and I knew he had diabetes and couldn't get an erection." Journalist asked, "How do you know he couldn't get an erection?" Steinberg responded, "He told me." If your case has been affected by Lynn Steinberg, [let us know here](. About the "Tell Us More" campaign: We are pulling names from our database to feature -- you can add your family court professional by going to [intheirbestinterest.com]( and click, "submit." “Red-Flag Reflection: At the time, I remember questioning whether this was all too good to be true. I had never been treated this kindly and I wanted to believe that this was what adult dating felt like. In hindsight, if things seem too good to be true, they probably are. A nice gesture, yes. Over the top given that we had just met, yes.” When I wrote my book, I was still harnessed by my fear of the system and the potential repercussions on my case, and my children. Now that my children are safe, I look forward to sharing our full story. Beginning on May 24, you will find my book available on Amazon, Kindle, Audible and at Barnes and Noble. Our topic of discussion: How do I navigate or respond when the other party denies, attacks and reverses anything and everything?\ Go to @onemomsbattle on Instagram. Not able to join live, we will post the video for you to watch later! APRIL - Medium: [The History of Kayden's Law]( MARCH: - NBC Nightly News: "[Angelina Jolie on Protecting Women from Abuse]( - Texas Observer: "[The Murderer's Little Boy]( - USA Today: "[Kanye West's behavior is 'triggering' for those who have been in Kim Kardashian's shoes]( - People Magazine: "[Lala Kent Says Randall Emmett 'Started Relationship' with 23-Year-Old the Same Month Daughter Ocean Was Born]( - The Sun: ["Vanderpump Rules’ Lala Kent is fighting for full custody of daughter Ocean, 11 months, after Randall Emmett’s ‘cheating’"]( FEBRUARY: - [Huffington Post: "Kanye West's Behavior Is Triggering For Anyone Who's Been Harassed By An Ex"]( - [Financial Wellness Hour]( - [Reader's Digest: "I Was Stalked with an Apple AirTag—Here’s What I Wish I’d Known."]( JANUARY: - [Give them Lala: Tina Swithin and Personality Disorders]( Are you interested in FREE divorce coaching? We are now accepting applications -- if chosen, you will be paired with a student coach from the High Conflict Divorce Coach Certification Program. Before applying, please read this post in its entirety: Divorce coaching is beneficial for purposes of support and strategy. With this said, a person does not need to be going through a divorce to use a divorce coach. Our students are trained to serve as strategy partners for those who were never married and for those who are struggling post-divorce decree (co-parenting, communication, documentation, etc). This is a win-win experience for both student coach and volunteer client -- especially if the volunteer client is on the fence about hiring a divorce coach or doesn't have the financial means to do so. Please note: these are student coaches and we not able to take on cases of sexual abuse or, cases that have an extensive or complex history in the family court court system. We appreciate your understanding. Before applying, you must to be able to commit to the following: - Week of June 5-11: one introductory session (one-hour in length). - Week of June 12-18: second session (30-minutes minimum). - Survey: immediately following the second coaching session, a survey will be sent to you and is due within 48-hours of receipt. If you can answer, "yes" to schedule flexibility between June 5 and June 18 and you agree to submit the survey within 48-hours of your final coaching session, you are invited to apply here: Application: [( Password: VClientM21 If your application is accepted, you will be introduced to your student coach on June 3 or June 4, 2022. In an effort to raise awareness on post separation abuse, we have created a campaign using the words of the abuser. The abuser’s own words paint a picture that is undeniable yet the family court system continues to give the abuser the benefit of the doubt to the detriment of children. Each and every day, children are being sent into abusive situations because “parental rights” continue to trump children’s rights to safety. For each quote that we use, One Mom’s Battle will make a $10 donation to the National Family Violence Law Center at the George Washington University. To Participate: Send the post separation abuse words of your abuser to postseparationabuse@gmail.com Do you need a divorce coach? Divorce coaching is a relatively new profession however, clients and attorneys are finding that the divorce coach fills a void that existed in the past. [(CLICK HERE)]( Need an attorney or therapist? Friends of OMB is a database of professionals who have been recommended to us by OMB followers or clients. [(CLICK HERE)]( Following the OMB Blog? Stay "in the know" on topics related to family court, calls-to-action, narcissistic abuse and post separation abuse. 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