Are you being gaslighted? How to spot it and stop it

Are you being gaslighted? How to spot it and stop it | practice (split each time) | Look for these factors if your team seems distracted Created for {EMAIL} | [{NAME}]( at [{NAME}]( [For more relevant content - Update Your Profile]( | [Web Version]( August 12, 2024 CONNECT WITH SMARTBRIEF  [LinkedIn]( [Facebook]( [X]( [SmartBrief on Leadership]( Innovative Ideas. Ahead of the Curve. [SIGN UP]( ⋅ [SHARE]( ADVERTISEMENT Leading the Way [] [Are you being gaslighted? How to spot it and stop it]( [Are you being gaslighted? How to spot it and stop it]( (ariya j/Getty Images) If a boss or colleague has ever denied making a promise or deliberately withholds information or shifts blame to you for something they did, they could be gaslighting you, write Saima Ahmad and Melissa Wheeler, who recommend keeping detailed records of all interactions, setting boundaries and seeking the support of other colleagues or human resources if it persists. "You are not responsible for the perpetrator's behavior, but you can empower yourself to reclaim your sanity and work in a healthier environment," they write. Full Story: [Psychology Today]( (8/7) [LinkedIn]( [X]( [Facebook]( [Email]( [] Put it into practice: Leaders can seek to end gaslighting at a policy level by educating teams on how to spot it and respond to it and [setting clear consequences for those engaged in it](, write Ahmad and Wheeler. "It's important to remember that gaslighting is a form of abuse." Leadership Looks Different In the C-suite. Learn how high-potential execs embrace a growth mindset — and get promoted. 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[LinkedIn]( [X]( [Facebook]( [Email]( [] About The Editor [] Candace Chellew Candace Chellew Chellew We hear a lot about the concept of gaslighting these days, but back when I was in my second radio job, I had no idea what it was. As I reflect, I realize my immediate boss was a gaslighter. He would often withhold vital information from me so I would end up looking stupid in front of higher management and would deliberately hide one of my paychecks somewhere in the building and force me to look for it. He thought it was funny! (Pro tip: Messing with people's money is not funny.) I've never been happier to leave a job, and it's true what they say that people leave managers and not jobs. I was not the only person who left that radio station over this manager's terrible treatment. The sad thing is that he's still working at that station to this day. I would have loved to have had [the advice Melissa Wheeler and Saima Ahmad offer](. I would have documented each time this "manager" left me in the dark or played hide-and-seek with my money and perhaps sought support from my more senior managers. Instead, I found another job, which was the best thing for me because, ultimately, leaving propelled my career forward. So, [perhaps I owe him a thank-you note](. If this newsletter helps you, please tell your colleagues, friends or anyone who can benefit. Forward them this email, or [send this link](. What topics do you see in your daily work that I should know about? Do you have any feedback you'd like to share? [Drop me a note](mailto:candace.chellew@futurenet.com). And while you're at it, please send me photos of your pets, your office and where you spend your time off so we can share them. [LinkedIn]( [X]( [Facebook]( [Email]( Sharing SmartBrief on Leadership with your network keeps the quality of content high and these newsletters free. 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