SelfGrowth.com: Grudges and Forgiveness & 3 Tips to Stop Jealousy

 [SelfGrowth.com]  Self Improvement Newsletter Improve Your Life Today!  9/12/16 issue:  Grudges and Forgiveness & 3 Tips to Stop Jealousy Email for: {EMAIL} * Self Improvement and Personal Growth Weekly Newsletter * Issue #939, Week of September 12-13, 2016 Publisher: David Riklan - [] In this issue: -- Quotes of the Week -- Article: Expert Q&A: Grudges and Forgiveness - By Dr. LeslieBeth Wish, Ed.D., MSS -- Article: 3 Tips for Stopping Jealousy Before It Snowballs into Something Unstoppable - By Susie and Otto Collins -- Book Review: Why Me? - by Sarah Burleton -- How to Advertise in the Self Improvement Newsletter -- How to Subscribe and Unsubscribe from this Newsletter ------------------------------------------------------------ *** Quotes of the Week *** ------------------------------------------------------------ "Purpose is what gives life a meaning." - Charles Henry Parkhurst, 1842-1933 "The great lesson is that the sacred is in the ordinary, that it is to be found in one's daily life, in one's neighbors, friends and family, in one's backyard." - Abraham Maslow, 1908-1970 "Most of the shadows of this life are caused by our standing in our own sunshine." - Ralph Waldo Emerson, 1803-1882 ------------------------------------------------------------ *** ARTICLE: Expert Q&A: Grudges and Forgiveness - By Dr. LeslieBeth Wish, Ed.D., MSS *** ------------------------------------------------------------ If you're like myself and many of my clients, you find forgiveness a difficult prospect. Big questions such as "When is it too late to ask for an apology?", "Is forgiveness necessary for personal and spiritual growth?", and "Should someone apologize for being truthful?" complicate the process. Of course, most of us do not hold grudges and ask for apologies on such a grand scale. Yet, we certainly can tell stories about the rifts in our families. For example, brothers don't speak to brothers because business ventures went belly up. Or, siblings squabble over inheritances. Even worse, families break up when they take sides over the guilt or innocence of an abusing parent. The offended and the offenders present compelling explanations, but the offended are often the ones who feel that they are left holding the hot potato question: Should I forgive-or forgive, forget or forsake the relationship forever. My clients suffer long-term anguish over this dilemma. Most religions promote forgiveness. The message is that forgiveness heals wounds, brings people together, allows for human error and advances each party's emotional and spiritual growth. As you read this, you might be pondering whether to forgive your mother, sibling or colleague. And, like most people, you might also be feeling a mix of guilt and outrage at the same time. I wish I could give you a definitive answer about what to do. Even in my profession of mental health, there is division about the better approach. In my many years of counseling people, I've seen leaps in personal and family growth occur from both positions. The best I can offer is this guide. Ultimately, you must decide, based on your circumstances and religious beliefs, whether to forgive or not. ** To read the full article, [go here.] ------------------------------------------------------------ *** ARTICLE: 3 Tips for Stopping Jealousy Before It Snowballs into Something Unstoppable - By Susie and Otto Collins *** ------------------------------------------------------------ We've all seen cartoons in which a character shapes snow into a ball, perhaps to build a snowman. As the ball of snow is rolled, it grows bigger and bigger. Pretty soon that snowball is quite large and here comes a slope or hill... The next thing we see are the arms and legs of our beloved mouse, dog or other cartoon character sticking out from this gigantic snowball that is quickly rolling down the hill, continuing to grow and knock out anything in its way. Giant out-of-control snowballs are funny in cartoons, but there's nothing funny when jealousy snowballs in your relationship. If you've ever been jealous, you probably know what we're talking about. Let's say that you have a tendency to get jealous. You and your partner are out together at a bar, restaurant, party, with friends or some other place. Then, you see your partner look at or talk with another person who, to you, seems attractive and is maybe even being too friendly to your man or woman. Jealousy begins to form right then and there. With every worrisome or irritated thought about your partner, this other person and the whole situation, your "snowball" of jealousy grows and grows. What at first seemed to be manageable feelings are now starting to fill your entire mind. You can't seem to focus on anything else but what is possibly happening (or about to happen) between your mate and this other person. From there, the out-of-control jealousy might lead you to make a scene, confront your partner and the other person or simply storm out of the room. There's no doubt about it. Jealousy can severely damage your relationship and you. But the good new is this: You can stop jealousy before it becomes that unmanageable and huge "snowball." ** To read the full article, [go here.] ------------------------------------------------------------ *** BOOK REVIEW: Why Me? - by Sarah Burleton *** ------------------------------------------------------------ In the blink of an eye, Mom ran up behind me and pushed me into the fence. Instinctively, I reached out my arms to stop my fall and ended up grabbing the live fence. My hands clamped around the thin wires, and my body collapsed to the ground as the electricity coursed through it. I opened my eyes and saw my mother standing over me with the strangest smile on her face. "Oh, my God, I'm going to die!" I thought in panic. Imagine never being able to close your eyes and remember the feel of your mother's arms wrapped around you. Now imagine closing your eyes and remembering your mother's tears splashing down on your face as she is on top of you, crying as she is trying to choke you to death. My mother left me these memories and many more during my traumatic childhood. After many years of struggling with trying to understand "Why Me?" I took back control of my life and started saying, "It was me, now what am I going to do?" The answer is my book, "Why Me?". It is my childhood journey through the terrors of physical and mental abuse from first grade until the day I moved out. It is my way of letting the world know what was really going on behind closed doors. ***** The list price of this book is $9.99. 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