SelfGrowth.com: Are You Emotionally Dependent & Prevent Relationship Burnout

 [SelfGrowth.com]  Self Improvement Newsletter Improve Your Life Today!  9/5/16 issue:  Are You Emotionally Dependent & Prevent Relationship Burnout Email for: {EMAIL} * Self Improvement and Personal Growth Weekly Newsletter * Issue #938, Week of September 5-6, 2016 Publisher: David Riklan - [] In this issue: -- Quotes of the Week -- Article: Are You Emotionally Dependent? - By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. -- Article: 7 Strategies for Preventing Relationship Burnout - By Laura L. Richter, LMFT, Ph.D. (cand) -- Book Review: The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself - by Michael A. Singer -- How to Advertise in the Self Improvement Newsletter -- How to Subscribe and Unsubscribe from this Newsletter ------------------------------------------------------------ *** Quotes of the Week *** ------------------------------------------------------------ "Character is the real foundation of all worthwhile success." - John Hays Hammond, 1855-1936 "Take time to deliberate; but when the time for action arrives, stop thinking and go in." - Andrew Jackson, 1767-1845 "Nothing endures but change." - Heraclitus, 535 BC-475 BC ------------------------------------------------------------ *** ARTICLE: Are You Emotionally Dependent? - By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. *** ------------------------------------------------------------ Discover the difference between needs coming from emotional dependency and authentic needs that we have within a relationship. Every few weeks I do a free webinar. People can listen on their computers or on the phone; they can write in asking questions or they can ask me directly on the phone. Here is one of the questions a woman - I will call her Susan - asked in a webinar on emotional dependency: "When we are in a relationship and we have made our needs clear to our partner, is hanging on in the hope they will follow through with promises to meet our needs a sign of emotional dependency?" The answer is - it depends on what needs you are taking about. There are some needs we have that can only be met by another person, and there are other needs that we need to learn to meet ourselves. 'Needs' Coming From Emotional Dependency "I need your attention." "I need your approval." "I need for you to have sex with me when I want sex." "I need you to make me feel lovable and worthy." ** To read the full article, [go here.] ------------------------------------------------------------ *** ARTICLE: 7 Strategies for Preventing Relationship Burnout - By Laura L. Richter, LMFT, Ph.D. (cand) *** ------------------------------------------------------------ It's not unusual. The glow of a new relationship begins to dim as time goes by. As excitement and novelty turn to contentment and familiarity, the relationship begins to shift and become more predictable. Excitement wanes and you may begin to wonder how to get it back. This is normal. But whether you have been married for 20 years or dating for 2 months, it's the responsibility of both partners to keep the fire beneath the glow burning. Most happy couples will tell you that maintaining that glow is grounded in taking care of each other and taking care of the relationship. It's important to maintain physical and emotional connection. Here are a few strategies to consider. 1. Keep in touch. I mean that literally! Take time to cuddle, kiss and hold each other. Studies show that couples who share in physical intimacy are happier in their relationships. Touch doesn't have to end in sex, (but it can be fun when it does). The important thing is that physical contact keeps you intimately connected. A touch can melt away anger and fear and speak volumes about how much you care. 2. Be happy to see each other at the end of the day. Remember when you first met, how exciting it was to see each other? Greeting each other with that same kind of interest at the end of a busy day will set the tone for more pleasant and enjoyable evenings. How your partner sees you behaving - body language, tone of voice, facial expressions - tells him or her how to respond to you. Step outside of yourself for a moment and be aware of how your partner is seeing you. Are you walking in happy, sad, stressed, or angry? Place troubles and worries on the back burner for just a brief time. Take a few moments to reconnect with each other before you start delving into issues about the kids, the bills, the in-laws, and whatever other challenges you're having. The issues will still be there when you are ready to address them. Keep it light and loving. ** To read the full article, [go here.] ------------------------------------------------------------ *** BOOK REVIEW: The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself - by Michael A. Singer *** ------------------------------------------------------------ If you've ever wondered what it would it be like to free yourself from limitations, soar beyond your boundaries, and discover true inner peace and serenity, The Untethered Soul can show you the way. Whether this is your first exploration of inner space, or you've devoted your life to the inward journey, this book will transform your relationship with yourself and the world around you. By tapping into traditions of meditation and mindfulness, Singer shows how the development of consciousness can enable us all to dwell in the present moment and let go of painful thoughts and memories that keep us from achieving happiness and self-realization. Copublished with the Institute of Noetic Sciences (IONS) The Untethered Soul begins by walking you through your relationship with your thoughts and emotions, helping you uncover the source and fluctuations of your inner energy. It then delves into what you can do to free yourself from the habitual thoughts, emotions, and energy patterns that limit your consciousness. Finally, with perfect clarity, this book opens the door to a life lived in the freedom of your innermost being. ***** The list price of this book is $21.95. 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