The Phrase ‘You've Got This’ Needs To Die

Banish it! 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But today, Diana Park is railing against a very popular phrase: “You’ve got this.” She writes: “When a family member said it to me as I was crying on our lunch date, explaining how I didn’t even know how to tackle this new life of mine, it spit me into a tunnel of rage. It didn’t encourage me at all. And it certainly didn’t make me feel more capable. It made me feel like they were saying: ‘I don’t know what to tell you but deal with it.’” Maybe you feel the same… or maybe it’ll open your eyes. Kelly Faircloth, Executive Editor [READ MORE](%2F%2Fwww.scarymommy.com%2Flifestyle%2Fthe-phrase-youve-got-this-needs-to-die%3Futm_campaign=52604%26utm_medium=scaryMommyDailyV2%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=33bffe7e-9403-4594-a37e-5a45d2b75c10/3/0100018517df174b-874cf68b-dba2-4374-992e-0c7fb19d02b0-000000/fdvAJc89WC2RRV-2GJ-KcF4glT4=300) [Latest] [Latest] %2F%2Fwww.scarymommy.com%2Flifestyle%2Fhow-often-should-you-clean-your-microwave%3Futm_campaign=52604%26utm_medium=scaryMommyDailyV2%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=33bffe7e-9403-4594-a37e-5a45d2b75c10/1/0100018517df174b-874cf68b-dba2-4374-992e-0c7fb19d02b0-000000/XrPMfdE84mb-AWpVTJTN6q1TQmY=300 ADD IT TO THE KIDS' CHORE CHART [How Often Should You Clean Your Microwave? 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