How Lockdown Drills Can Retraumatize Kids Who Have Experienced Domestic Violence

A very important read. %2F%2Fwww.scarymommy.com%2Flifestyle%2Fbest-deals-prime-early-access-sale%3Futm_campaign=39219%26utm_medium=scaryMommyDailyV2%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=33bffe7e-9403-4594-a37e-5a45d2b75c10/1/01000183ce0cf840-669ae3ff-cb17-4bbf-ad39-2dfede635b30-000000/YCkIySMgiyVlzjhqunQMq16UAu0=291 [Scary Mommy](%2F%2Fscarymommy.com%2F%3Futm_campaign=39219%26utm_medium=scaryMommyDailyV2%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=33bffe7e-9403-4594-a37e-5a45d2b75c10/1/01000183ce0cf840-669ae3ff-cb17-4bbf-ad39-2dfede635b30-000000/MA5xPPbYtY284UScCXV3PtllSzM=291) Oct 12, 2022 %2F%2Fwww.scarymommy.com%2Fparenting%2Flockdown-drills-can-retraumatize-kids-experiencing-domestic-violence%3Futm_campaign=39219%26utm_medium=scaryMommyDailyV2%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=33bffe7e-9403-4594-a37e-5a45d2b75c10/1/01000183ce0cf840-669ae3ff-cb17-4bbf-ad39-2dfede635b30-000000/vf8YyQHLrq6nIgj30D48kvzrhBE=291 [How Lockdown Drills Can Retraumatize Kids Who Have Experienced Domestic Violence](%2F%2Fwww.scarymommy.com%2Fparenting%2Flockdown-drills-can-retraumatize-kids-experiencing-domestic-violence%3Futm_campaign=39219%26utm_medium=scaryMommyDailyV2%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=33bffe7e-9403-4594-a37e-5a45d2b75c10/2/01000183ce0cf840-669ae3ff-cb17-4bbf-ad39-2dfede635b30-000000/eNQv_PnercmdBQLTCJ9msiiEfK8=291) Today, Scary Mommy has partnered with The Trace, a nonprofit newsroom covering gun violence in America, for a package on gun violence. I think many of us worry about the potential impact of lockdown drills on our kids and whether they’re the traumatizing modern-day equivalent of the old duck-and-cover nuclear drills. But there’s a group that they’re especially hard on, and that’s kids who have experienced domestic violence at home. As The Trace’s Jennifer Mascia reports: “‘It wasn’t the fact that we were pretending there was an active shooter that really scared me,’ said Jane, now 17, whose name has been changed to protect her privacy. ‘It was being cramped in a dark, small space, and the quiet.’ It was so silent, she said, that ‘my classmates’ whispering scared me.’” Give it a read, and a lot of thought. Kelly Faircloth, Executive Editor [READ MORE](%2F%2Fwww.scarymommy.com%2Fparenting%2Flockdown-drills-can-retraumatize-kids-experiencing-domestic-violence%3Futm_campaign=39219%26utm_medium=scaryMommyDailyV2%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=33bffe7e-9403-4594-a37e-5a45d2b75c10/3/01000183ce0cf840-669ae3ff-cb17-4bbf-ad39-2dfede635b30-000000/PjEbLMhpBeoNAzC2L35KCsUwrzM=291) %2F%2Fwww.scarymommy.com%2Flifestyle%2Fbest-deals-prime-early-access-sale%3Futm_campaign=39219%26utm_medium=scaryMommyDailyV2%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=33bffe7e-9403-4594-a37e-5a45d2b75c10/2/01000183ce0cf840-669ae3ff-cb17-4bbf-ad39-2dfede635b30-000000/TvDIiz6-dWw8sumNk55cD9LNYvU=291 [Latest] [Latest] %2F%2Fwww.scarymommy.com%2Fentertainment%2Fhocus-pocus-kathy-najimy-real-witches-interview%3Futm_campaign=39219%26utm_medium=scaryMommyDailyV2%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=33bffe7e-9403-4594-a37e-5a45d2b75c10/1/01000183ce0cf840-669ae3ff-cb17-4bbf-ad39-2dfede635b30-000000/iw95mxGadGgmWomBEeIgRN74wcM=291 AHEAD OF HER TIME [Watch A Resurfaced Clip Of 'Hocus Pocus' Star Kathy Najimy Talking About "Real Witches"](%2F%2Fwww.scarymommy.com%2Fentertainment%2Fhocus-pocus-kathy-najimy-real-witches-interview%3Futm_campaign=39219%26utm_medium=scaryMommyDailyV2%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=33bffe7e-9403-4594-a37e-5a45d2b75c10/2/01000183ce0cf840-669ae3ff-cb17-4bbf-ad39-2dfede635b30-000000/5d38Wy8PA3ZeccbaPZk_KMgtVNM=291) In a 1993 TODAY show clip that’s gone viral, Najimy shared that she was concerned about portraying a witch. 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