Itâs been decades since sociologists first noticed that thereâs an emotional component to work. In retrospect, it seems obvious: As the service economy grew, it meant the system (âThe Man,â if you will) needed workers in people-facing roles to have sunny demeanors that reflected well on their employers. And because those workers were generally women, gender dynamics played a major role.
The service sector is still growing, but more significantly, our concept of what emotional labor isâand who performs itâhas become much more nuanced. Although the phrase once conjured a flight attendantâs forced smile, today itâs shorthand for a certain type of gendered inequity that manifests itself in offices, homes, and relationships of all kinds.
If you poll a dozen people on their definition of emotional labor, youâll likely get close to a dozen different answers. Thatâs because unpacking the intersection of work life, home life, and gender is no easy task.
But hey, somebodyâs got do itâright, ladies?
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Emotional labor
May 15, 2018
Heavy lifting
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Itâs been decades since sociologists first noticed that thereâs an emotional component to work. In retrospect, it seems obvious: As the service economy grew, it meant the system (âThe Man,â if you will) needed workers in people-facing roles to have sunny demeanors that reflected well on their employers. And because those workers were generally women, gender dynamics played a major role.
The service sector is still growing, but more significantly, our concept of what emotional labor isâand who performs itâhas become much more nuanced. Although the phrase once conjured a flight attendantâs forced smile, today itâs shorthand for a certain type of gendered inequity that manifests itself in offices, homes, and relationships of all kinds.
If you poll a dozen people on their definition of emotional labor, youâll likely get close to a dozen different answers. Thatâs because unpacking the intersection of work life, home life, and gender is no easy task.
But hey, somebodyâs got do itâright, ladies?
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By the digits
[95%:]( Proportion of new job growth that will be in the service sector by 2024, according to the US Bureau of Labor Statistics
[14%:]( Amount by which a man who stayed late at work and offered to help a coworker was ranked more favorably than a woman who did the same thing, in a 2005 study
[1 in 5:]( Number of men in the US who do some form of housework on a given day, compared to almost [half of all women](
[52%:]( Proportion of women who say theyâre burning out from carrying their familiesâ mental load, according to the 2017 Modern Family Index
[49:]( Pages of comments in the condensed MetaFilter thread on emotional labor
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What is emotional labor?
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Once upon a time, the phrase had a very [narrow meaning](. The term was coined by sociologist Arlie Hochschild in [The Managed Heart: Commercialization of Human Feeling](. Published in 1983, her book described the need for workers to regulate their emotions to satisfy their customers (and ultimately, their employers). Hochschild argued that employeesâparticularly those in service-oriented industries, such as flight attendants, bank tellers, or restaurant waitstaffâwere required to smile, be polite, and act engaging toward customers (even the most brutish ones), which could lead to them to feel estranged from their own emotions.
A decade later, professors Mary Ellen Guy and Meredith Newman argued that [emotional labor exacerbates the wage gap]( between genders. Emotive tasks in the form of âcaring, negotiating, empathizing, smoothing troubled relationships, and working behind the scenes to enable cooperation, are required components of many womenâs jobs,â they noted, yet because these tasks are âexcluded from job descriptions and performance evaluations, the work is invisible and uncompensated.â
These days, weâre using the term more generally (and, to some, [frustratingly]( to refer to what you might otherwise describe as â[shit someone does that goes unrecognized]( more simply, â[the mental load]( And usually, the someone who tends to get stuck doing that kind of stuff is a woman.
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[Emma]( hilariously illustrates how men and women have differing perspectives on emotional labor in her post [The Mental Load â You Shouldâve Asked.](
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Brief history
[1977:]( Harvard professor Rosabeth Moss Kanter notes that women perform a lot of labor in the office with very little returns in her book Men and Women of the Corporation.
[1983:]( Sociologist Arlie Hochschild coins the term âemotional laborâ in The Managed Heart: Commercialization of Human Feeling.
[1991:]( A study suggests that in contrast to other jobs where employees are required to be chipper, bill collectors were hired for their propensity to show irritation to debtors.
[1993:]( Professors Mary Ellen Guy and Meredith Newman argue that emotional labor contributes to exacerbating the wage gap between genders.
[1996:]( Researchers use the term âemotional proletariatâ to describe service roles, largely occupied by women, in which workers âare required to display friendliness and deference to customers.â
[1999:]( Research examines the heavy emotional labor involved in the traditionally masculine role of police work.
[2005:]( A study posits that physicians engage in emotional labor through the empathy they feel for their patients.
[2010:]( HBR chronicles a surge in studies of emotional labor as it applies to the C-suite.
[2015:]( On daily blog site The Toast, writer Jess Zimmerman turns the lens of emotional labor on personal relationships.
[2017:]( A popular article in Harperâs Bazaar pinpoints the way these dynamics play out in the home.
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Pop quiz
Which is not technically an emotional labor situation?
Maintaining a smiling dispositionFaking an orgasmOrganizing a Secret Santa event
Correct. Technically no, but this invisible work falls disproportionately on women.
Incorrect. Researchers have argued that certain women endure unsatisfying sex to provide their male partners with feelings of power and sexual skillfulness.
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Quotable
âFor Black women, emotional labor is conveniently couched within the ‘Strong Black Woman’ stereotype. Black women are expected to be responsible for themselves, their partners, their children, their parents, their communities, their work and school responsibilities and, maybeâ¦eventuallyâ¦if thereâs time⦠their own well-being â all without ever breaking a sweat.â
â Lincoln Hill on [Unbound](
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How does emotional labor play out in modern workplaces?
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In conversation, âemotional laborâ can capture everything ranging from organizing office get-togethers, taking notes during meetings, maintaining a smiling disposition, and mentoring colleagues. For someone looking to turn a blind eye to emotional labor, the termâs expansiveness provided a convenient âoutâ of the conversation. After all, if everything is emotional labor, then nothing is, right?
To be sure, organizing the office Secret Santa doesnât exactly fit Hochschildâs original definition (i.e. the requirement to satisfy the emotional needs of a customer). Thereâs a subtler dynamic in todayâs workplace exchanges: It boils down to the touchy-feely work that women do that goes unrecognized, and the way this impacts their career trajectories and compensation.
University of Notre Dame sociology professor Jessica Collett [told the Guardianâs Rose Hackman]( that âeven in prestigious industries men and women may both be engaged in the same degree of emotional labor formally, but women are expected to provide extra emotional labor on the side.â For example, she says, both men and women might be expected to schmooze with clients âbut women may be expected, on top of this, to contribute to office harmony by remembering colleaguesâ birthdays, or making small chit-chat to staff.â
And if a woman doesnât do these things? [Research suggests]( sheâs penalized, whereas men who refuse this kind of work suffer no ill effects. Meanwhile, when men do take on the extra labor, theyâre ostentatiously praised (âIsnât he sweet and generous with his time?â) while women get no extra credit.
Organizational psychologist Adam Grant and Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg give this invisible work another name: âOffice Housework.â In [a joint op-ed in the New York Times]( in 2015, they referenced research that suggested âprofessional women in business, law and science are still expected to bring cupcakes, answer phones and take notesâ and that âwomen engage more privately in time-consuming activities like assisting others and mentoring colleagues.â
Men, on the other hand, âare more likely to contribute with visible behaviorsâlike showing up at optional meetings.â The result: âWomenâs communal contributions tend simply to âdisappear,ââ and women burn out faster âbecause they fail to secure their own oxygen masks before assisting others.â
Fun fact!
Emotional-labor researchers look at how workers engage in âsurface actingâ (faking it outwardly) or âdeep actingâ (meaning they actually alter their real feelings to be in line with expectations). Interestingly, itâs the “faking-it” mode that exacts [a greater toll]( on mental health.
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In this NSFW Sex and the City clip, the ladies question why men should âget a medal for correctly identifying a feeling.â
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Ready to tackle emotional labor in your home?[Annaliese Griffin has some suggestions for where to begin]( it doesnât even have to be Motherâs Day.
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âEven having a conversation about the imbalance of emotional labor becomes emotional labor.â
â Gemma Hartley in [Harperâs Bazaar](
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Poll
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