The Evening: Gaza cease-fire to start tomorrow

Also, a car explodes at the U.S.-Canada border. 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Here’s the latest at the end of Wednesday. - A pause in Gaza fighting tomorrow - A car explosion at the Canada border - Plus, how to avoid family drama ~/AAAAAQA~/RgRnQRBMP0TiaHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubnl0aW1lcy5jb20vbGl2ZS8yMDIzLzExLzIyL3dvcmxkL2lzcmFlbC1oYW1hcy1ob3N0YWdlLWdhemEtd2FyP2NhbXBhaWduX2lkPTU3JmVtYz1lZGl0X25lXzIwMjMxMTIyJmluc3RhbmNlX2lkPTEwODQyNyZubD10aGUtZXZlbmluZyZyZWdpX2lkPTc3Njc0OTUyJnNlZ21lbnRfaWQ9MTUwNzgwJnRlPTEmdXNlcl9pZD1hYTQ5MWVmN2YxZDk2NGU0OTc5ZmI3ODRlNzRlMDFkN1cDbnl0QgplVkyLXmU0QGnBUht0cmlzdHJhbWJhbGR3aW45MEBnbWFpbC5jb21YBAAAAAM~ The aftermath of an airstrike in Khan Younis, Gaza, today. Agence France-Presse — Getty Images A cease-fire in Gaza is set to begin tomorrow A four-day pause in combat between Israel and Hamas [will begin at 10 a.m. local time tomorrow](~/AAAAAQA~/RgRnQRBMP0TraHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubnl0aW1lcy5jb20vMjAyMy8xMS8yMi93b3JsZC9taWRkbGVlYXN0L2lzcmFlbC1oYW1hcy1nYXphLWNlYXNlZmlyZS5odG1sP2NhbXBhaWduX2lkPTU3JmVtYz1lZGl0X25lXzIwMjMxMTIyJmluc3RhbmNlX2lkPTEwODQyNyZubD10aGUtZXZlbmluZyZyZWdpX2lkPTc3Njc0OTUyJnNlZ21lbnRfaWQ9MTUwNzgwJnRlPTEmdXNlcl9pZD1hYTQ5MWVmN2YxZDk2NGU0OTc5ZmI3ODRlNzRlMDFkN1cDbnl0QgplVkyLXmU0QGnBUht0cmlzdHJhbWJhbGR3aW45MEBnbWFpbC5jb21YBAAAAAM~), according to officials from both sides. However, Israel said that it expected no hostages to be released before Friday. The two sides announced early this morning that they had agreed to an exchange of prisoners for hostages and a pause in fighting — the first extended break in almost seven weeks of war — but spent much of the day hammering out details. The deal calls for the release of at least 150 Palestinian women and teenagers jailed by Israel in exchange for at least 50 women and minors taken hostage during the Hamas assault in Israel on Oct. 7. But as if to highlight that there was no lull in the war yet, the Israeli military said today that it “continued to fight in the Gaza Strip,” and Hamas said it had agreed to a truce but “our hands will remain on the trigger.” Israel’s government said that during the pause the hostages would be freed in four groups, each with at least 10 people. It was unclear whether the Palestinian prisoners, most of them from the West Bank, would be set free in stages, but an Israeli official said the first would be released before any Israeli hostages. In an atmosphere of deep mutual mistrust, both Palestinians and Israelis worried that the deal might yet fall through. In Gaza, residents [expressed hope](~/AAAAAQA~/RgRnQRBMP0TqaHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubnl0aW1lcy5jb20vMjAyMy8xMS8yMi93b3JsZC9taWRkbGVlYXN0L2dhemEtY2Vhc2UtZmlyZS1pc3JhZWwtd2FyLmh0bWw_Y2FtcGFpZ25faWQ9NTcmZW1jPWVkaXRfbmVfMjAyMzExMjImaW5zdGFuY2VfaWQ9MTA4NDI3Jm5sPXRoZS1ldmVuaW5nJnJlZ2lfaWQ9Nzc2NzQ5NTImc2VnbWVudF9pZD0xNTA3ODAmdGU9MSZ1c2VyX2lkPWFhNDkxZWY3ZjFkOTY0ZTQ5NzlmYjc4NGU3NGUwMWQ3VwNueXRCCmVWTIteZTRAacFSG3RyaXN0cmFtYmFsZHdpbjkwQGdtYWlsLmNvbVgEAAAAAw~~), but doubted that the deal would bring an end to the war. At the White House, news of the deal was met with relief. President Biden and his aides were using the agreement to push the Israeli government [to take broad measures aimed at lessening harm to Palestinian civilians](~/AAAAAQA~/RgRnQRBMP0TtaHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubnl0aW1lcy5jb20vMjAyMy8xMS8yMi91cy9wb2xpdGljcy9pc3JhZWwtcGF1c2UtaHVtYW5pdGFyaWFuLWFpZC1nYXphLmh0bWw_Y2FtcGFpZ25faWQ9NTcmZW1jPWVkaXRfbmVfMjAyMzExMjImaW5zdGFuY2VfaWQ9MTA4NDI3Jm5sPXRoZS1ldmVuaW5nJnJlZ2lfaWQ9Nzc2NzQ5NTImc2VnbWVudF9pZD0xNTA3ODAmdGU9MSZ1c2VyX2lkPWFhNDkxZWY3ZjFkOTY0ZTQ5NzlmYjc4NGU3NGUwMWQ3VwNueXRCCmVWTIteZTRAacFSG3RyaXN0cmFtYmFsZHdpbjkwQGdtYWlsLmNvbVgEAAAAAw~~). The explosion at Rainbow Bridge in the Niagara Falls region caused the closure of the bridge. Derek Gee/The Buffalo News, via Associated Press Two people died in a car blast at the U.S.-Canada border A vehicle exploded today at the Niagara Falls International Rainbow Bridge border crossing between the U.S. and Canada, killing two people and injuring a border officer. The car was speeding from the U.S. side, but the cause of the explosion was not immediately clear. A law enforcement official said investigators believed the explosion resulted from the impact of a crash. No explosive devices were found, and Gov. Kathy Hochul of New York said an initial investigation had found no evidence that the crash was related to terrorism. At the request of the U.S., all four bridges between Canada and the U.S. in the Niagara area were closed. [Here’s the latest](~/AAAAAQA~/RgRnQRBMP0TuaHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubnl0aW1lcy5jb20vbGl2ZS8yMDIzLzExLzIyL255cmVnaW9uL3JhaW5ib3ctYnJpZGdlLWV4cGxvc2lvbi1uaWFnYXJhLWZhbGxzP2NhbXBhaWduX2lkPTU3JmVtYz1lZGl0X25lXzIwMjMxMTIyJmluc3RhbmNlX2lkPTEwODQyNyZubD10aGUtZXZlbmluZyZyZWdpX2lkPTc3Njc0OTUyJnNlZ21lbnRfaWQ9MTUwNzgwJnRlPTEmdXNlcl9pZD1hYTQ5MWVmN2YxZDk2NGU0OTc5ZmI3ODRlNzRlMDFkN1cDbnl0QgplVkyLXmU0QGnBUht0cmlzdHJhbWJhbGR3aW45MEBnbWFpbC5jb21YBAAAAAM~). [Sam Altman, wearing a dark suit, appears on a blue stage.] Sam Altman, the chief executive of OpenAI. Justin Sullivan/Getty Images Sam Altman returned to OpenAI First he was fired, then he found another job and [now he’s back](~/AAAAAQA~/RgRnQRBMP0TjaHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubnl0aW1lcy5jb20vMjAyMy8xMS8yMi90ZWNobm9sb2d5L29wZW5haS1zYW0tYWx0bWFuLXJldHVybnMuaHRtbD9jYW1wYWlnbl9pZD01NyZlbWM9ZWRpdF9uZV8yMDIzMTEyMiZpbnN0YW5jZV9pZD0xMDg0Mjcmbmw9dGhlLWV2ZW5pbmcmcmVnaV9pZD03NzY3NDk1MiZzZWdtZW50X2lkPTE1MDc4MCZ0ZT0xJnVzZXJfaWQ9YWE0OTFlZjdmMWQ5NjRlNDk3OWZiNzg0ZTc0ZTAxZDdXA255dEIKZVZMi15lNEBpwVIbdHJpc3RyYW1iYWxkd2luOTBAZ21haWwuY29tWAQAAAAD): Sam Altman was reinstated as the chief executive of OpenAI late last night. His return coincided with the departure of several board members who had pushed him out last week. The debacle illustrates how [the creation of artificial intelligence systems is testing whether businesspeople](~/AAAAAQA~/RgRnQRBMP0TjaHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubnl0aW1lcy5jb20vMjAyMy8xMS8yMS90ZWNobm9sb2d5L29wZW5haS1hbHRtYW4tYm9hcmQtZmlnaHQuaHRtbD9jYW1wYWlnbl9pZD01NyZlbWM9ZWRpdF9uZV8yMDIzMTEyMiZpbnN0YW5jZV9pZD0xMDg0Mjcmbmw9dGhlLWV2ZW5pbmcmcmVnaV9pZD03NzY3NDk1MiZzZWdtZW50X2lkPTE1MDc4MCZ0ZT0xJnVzZXJfaWQ9YWE0OTFlZjdmMWQ5NjRlNDk3OWZiNzg0ZTc0ZTAxZDdXA255dEIKZVZMi15lNEBpwVIbdHJpc3RyYW1iYWxkd2luOTBAZ21haWwuY29tWAQAAAAD), who want to make money from A.I., can work in sync with researchers, who worry that it could potentially become a threat to jobs or humanity. [Jewell Thomas sits in a chair wearing a V-neck blouse, white pearls and a gray sweater draped over her shoulders. Her daughter, Angela Jemmott, rests her hands on the chair Mrs. Thomas is sitting in.](~/AAAAAQA~/RgRnQRBMP0TeaHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubnl0aW1lcy5jb20vMjAyMy8xMS8yMi9oZWFsdGgvbG9uZy10ZXJtLWNhcmUtaW5zdXJhbmNlLmh0bWw_Y2FtcGFpZ25faWQ9NTcmZW1jPWVkaXRfbmVfMjAyMzExMjImaW5zdGFuY2VfaWQ9MTA4NDI3Jm5sPXRoZS1ldmVuaW5nJnJlZ2lfaWQ9Nzc2NzQ5NTImc2VnbWVudF9pZD0xNTA3ODAmdGU9MSZ1c2VyX2lkPWFhNDkxZWY3ZjFkOTY0ZTQ5NzlmYjc4NGU3NGUwMWQ3VwNueXRCCmVWTIteZTRAacFSG3RyaXN0cmFtYmFsZHdpbjkwQGdtYWlsLmNvbVgEAAAAAw~~) Jewell Thomas, whose family pays $4,000 a month for home health aides. Bryan Meltz for The New York Times Long-term care insurance often falls short Private long-term care insurance is designed to prevent people from entering financial ruin because of the accelerating costs of care, but [it has largely proved inadequate](~/AAAAAQA~/RgRnQRBMP0TeaHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubnl0aW1lcy5jb20vMjAyMy8xMS8yMi9oZWFsdGgvbG9uZy10ZXJtLWNhcmUtaW5zdXJhbmNlLmh0bWw_Y2FtcGFpZ25faWQ9NTcmZW1jPWVkaXRfbmVfMjAyMzExMjImaW5zdGFuY2VfaWQ9MTA4NDI3Jm5sPXRoZS1ldmVuaW5nJnJlZ2lfaWQ9Nzc2NzQ5NTImc2VnbWVudF9pZD0xNTA3ODAmdGU9MSZ1c2VyX2lkPWFhNDkxZWY3ZjFkOTY0ZTQ5NzlmYjc4NGU3NGUwMWQ3VwNueXRCCmVWTIteZTRAacFSG3RyaXN0cmFtYmFsZHdpbjkwQGdtYWlsLmNvbVgEAAAAAw~~) for most of the millions of older Americans who might need assistance with daily living. For decades, the industry severely underestimated how many policyholders would use their coverage and how long they would live, leaving many older people without the financial security they thought they were insuring. Here’s what to know [if you’re considering long-term care insurance](~/AAAAAQA~/RgRnQRBMP0ToaHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubnl0aW1lcy5jb20vMjAyMy8xMS8yMi9oZWFsdGgvbG9uZy10ZXJtLWNhcmUtaW5zdXJhbmNlLWV4cGxhaW5lZC5odG1sP2NhbXBhaWduX2lkPTU3JmVtYz1lZGl0X25lXzIwMjMxMTIyJmluc3RhbmNlX2lkPTEwODQyNyZubD10aGUtZXZlbmluZyZyZWdpX2lkPTc3Njc0OTUyJnNlZ21lbnRfaWQ9MTUwNzgwJnRlPTEmdXNlcl9pZD1hYTQ5MWVmN2YxZDk2NGU0OTc5ZmI3ODRlNzRlMDFkN1cDbnl0QgplVkyLXmU0QGnBUht0cmlzdHJhbWJhbGR3aW45MEBnbWFpbC5jb21YBAAAAAM~). More top news - Weather: Most holiday travelers probably won’t encounter flight delays or jammed roadways because of weather conditions. Forecasters say [it will be calm through the weekend](~/AAAAAQA~/RgRnQRBMP0TfaHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubnl0aW1lcy5jb20vMjAyMy8xMS8yMi91cy90aGFua3NnaXZpbmctd2VhdGhlci1mb3JlY2FzdC5odG1sP2NhbXBhaWduX2lkPTU3JmVtYz1lZGl0X25lXzIwMjMxMTIyJmluc3RhbmNlX2lkPTEwODQyNyZubD10aGUtZXZlbmluZyZyZWdpX2lkPTc3Njc0OTUyJnNlZ21lbnRfaWQ9MTUwNzgwJnRlPTEmdXNlcl9pZD1hYTQ5MWVmN2YxZDk2NGU0OTc5ZmI3ODRlNzRlMDFkN1cDbnl0QgplVkyLXmU0QGnBUht0cmlzdHJhbWJhbGR3aW45MEBnbWFpbC5jb21YBAAAAAM~). - Politics: House Speaker Mike Johnson is facing complaints from some hard-right Republicans as he [struggles with the job’s steep learning curve](~/AAAAAQA~/RgRnQRBMP0TjaHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubnl0aW1lcy5jb20vMjAyMy8xMS8yMi91cy9wb2xpdGljcy9taWtlLWpvaG5zb24tcmVwdWJsaWNhbnMuaHRtbD9jYW1wYWlnbl9pZD01NyZlbWM9ZWRpdF9uZV8yMDIzMTEyMiZpbnN0YW5jZV9pZD0xMDg0Mjcmbmw9dGhlLWV2ZW5pbmcmcmVnaV9pZD03NzY3NDk1MiZzZWdtZW50X2lkPTE1MDc4MCZ0ZT0xJnVzZXJfaWQ9YWE0OTFlZjdmMWQ5NjRlNDk3OWZiNzg0ZTc0ZTAxZDdXA255dEIKZVZMi15lNEBpwVIbdHJpc3RyYW1iYWxkd2luOTBAZ21haWwuY29tWAQAAAAD). - Elections: Officials say the mailing of powder-filled envelopes to election offices in five states indicates a [rise in threats to the safety of election workers and the election system.](~/AAAAAQA~/RgRnQRBMP0TraHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubnl0aW1lcy5jb20vMjAyMy8xMS8yMi91cy9mZW50YW55bC1sZXR0ZXJzLWVsZWN0aW9uLXdvcmtlcnMtdGhyZWF0cy5odG1sP2NhbXBhaWduX2lkPTU3JmVtYz1lZGl0X25lXzIwMjMxMTIyJmluc3RhbmNlX2lkPTEwODQyNyZubD10aGUtZXZlbmluZyZyZWdpX2lkPTc3Njc0OTUyJnNlZ21lbnRfaWQ9MTUwNzgwJnRlPTEmdXNlcl9pZD1hYTQ5MWVmN2YxZDk2NGU0OTc5ZmI3ODRlNzRlMDFkN1cDbnl0QgplVkyLXmU0QGnBUht0cmlzdHJhbWJhbGR3aW45MEBnbWFpbC5jb21YBAAAAAM~) - Alaska: Three people were killed and three others were missing after [a landslide struck homes](~/AAAAAQA~/RgRnQRBMP0TbaHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubnl0aW1lcy5jb20vMjAyMy8xMS8yMi91cy9hbGFza2EtbGFuZHNsaWRlLXdyYW5nZWxsLmh0bWw_Y2FtcGFpZ25faWQ9NTcmZW1jPWVkaXRfbmVfMjAyMzExMjImaW5zdGFuY2VfaWQ9MTA4NDI3Jm5sPXRoZS1ldmVuaW5nJnJlZ2lfaWQ9Nzc2NzQ5NTImc2VnbWVudF9pZD0xNTA3ODAmdGU9MSZ1c2VyX2lkPWFhNDkxZWY3ZjFkOTY0ZTQ5NzlmYjc4NGU3NGUwMWQ3VwNueXRCCmVWTIteZTRAacFSG3RyaXN0cmFtYmFsZHdpbjkwQGdtYWlsLmNvbVgEAAAAAw~~) this week in Wrangell. - Britain: The government said that it would [cut taxes for millions of workers](~/AAAAAQA~/RgRnQRBMP0TvaHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubnl0aW1lcy5jb20vMjAyMy8xMS8yMi9idXNpbmVzcy91ay1lY29ub215LWF1dHVtbi1zdGF0ZW1lbnQtamVyZW15LWh1bnQuaHRtbD9jYW1wYWlnbl9pZD01NyZlbWM9ZWRpdF9uZV8yMDIzMTEyMiZpbnN0YW5jZV9pZD0xMDg0Mjcmbmw9dGhlLWV2ZW5pbmcmcmVnaV9pZD03NzY3NDk1MiZzZWdtZW50X2lkPTE1MDc4MCZ0ZT0xJnVzZXJfaWQ9YWE0OTFlZjdmMWQ5NjRlNDk3OWZiNzg0ZTc0ZTAxZDdXA255dEIKZVZMi15lNEBpwVIbdHJpc3RyYW1iYWxkd2luOTBAZ21haWwuY29tWAQAAAAD) starting early next year. - Soccer: Despite a holiday deal on tickets, M.L.S. fans will [pay more to see Lionel Messi.](~/AAAAAQA~/RgRnQRBMP0T0aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubnl0aW1lcy5jb20vMjAyMy8xMS8yMi9zcG9ydHMvc29jY2VyL2xpb25lbC1tZXNzaS10aWNrZXQtcHJpY2UtcmVkLWJ1bGxzLW1scy5odG1sP2NhbXBhaWduX2lkPTU3JmVtYz1lZGl0X25lXzIwMjMxMTIyJmluc3RhbmNlX2lkPTEwODQyNyZubD10aGUtZXZlbmluZyZyZWdpX2lkPTc3Njc0OTUyJnNlZ21lbnRfaWQ9MTUwNzgwJnRlPTEmdXNlcl9pZD1hYTQ5MWVmN2YxZDk2NGU0OTc5ZmI3ODRlNzRlMDFkN1cDbnl0QgplVkyLXmU0QGnBUht0cmlzdHJhbWJhbGR3aW45MEBnbWFpbC5jb21YBAAAAAM~) TIME TO UNWIND [An illustration of people coming out of a cornucopia, carrying plates with food; some people look frustrated and overwhelmed, while others are drinking and relishing the food.](~/AAAAAQA~/RgRnQRBMP0T0aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubnl0aW1lcy5jb20vMjAyMy8xMS8yMC93ZWxsL2ZhbWlseS9hdm9pZC1mYW1pbHktZHJhbWEtdGhhbmtzZ2l2aW5nLWNocmlzdG1hcy5odG1sP2NhbXBhaWduX2lkPTU3JmVtYz1lZGl0X25lXzIwMjMxMTIyJmluc3RhbmNlX2lkPTEwODQyNyZubD10aGUtZXZlbmluZyZyZWdpX2lkPTc3Njc0OTUyJnNlZ21lbnRfaWQ9MTUwNzgwJnRlPTEmdXNlcl9pZD1hYTQ5MWVmN2YxZDk2NGU0OTc5ZmI3ODRlNzRlMDFkN1cDbnl0QgplVkyLXmU0QGnBUht0cmlzdHJhbWJhbGR3aW45MEBnbWFpbC5jb21YBAAAAAM~) Eleanor Davis Embrace connections over the holidays Family friction is a Thanksgiving tradition about as old as the holiday itself. But it doesn’t have to be. We asked readers for the strategies they turn to when family relations get spicy. Hundreds wrote in offering [tips, tricks and solidarity](~/AAAAAQA~/RgRnQRBMP0T0aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubnl0aW1lcy5jb20vMjAyMy8xMS8yMC93ZWxsL2ZhbWlseS9hdm9pZC1mYW1pbHktZHJhbWEtdGhhbmtzZ2l2aW5nLWNocmlzdG1hcy5odG1sP2NhbXBhaWduX2lkPTU3JmVtYz1lZGl0X25lXzIwMjMxMTIyJmluc3RhbmNlX2lkPTEwODQyNyZubD10aGUtZXZlbmluZyZyZWdpX2lkPTc3Njc0OTUyJnNlZ21lbnRfaWQ9MTUwNzgwJnRlPTEmdXNlcl9pZD1hYTQ5MWVmN2YxZDk2NGU0OTc5ZmI3ODRlNzRlMDFkN1cDbnl0QgplVkyLXmU0QGnBUht0cmlzdHJhbWJhbGR3aW45MEBnbWFpbC5jb21YBAAAAAM~). Readers explained how controlling the setting, connecting with those who were struggling or even bringing a guitar and singing with loved ones helped their families avoid old grudges and political disagreements. As for cleaning advice, we have that, too. Here’s a guide to getting a handle [on the cleaning that comes with cooking a big meal](~/AAAAAQA~/RgRnQRBMP0TiaHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubnl0aW1lcy5jb20vMjAyMy8xMS8yMC9kaW5pbmcvdGhhbmtzZ2l2aW5nLWRpbm5lci1jbGVhbi11cC5odG1sP2NhbXBhaWduX2lkPTU3JmVtYz1lZGl0X25lXzIwMjMxMTIyJmluc3RhbmNlX2lkPTEwODQyNyZubD10aGUtZXZlbmluZyZyZWdpX2lkPTc3Njc0OTUyJnNlZ21lbnRfaWQ9MTUwNzgwJnRlPTEmdXNlcl9pZD1hYTQ5MWVmN2YxZDk2NGU0OTc5ZmI3ODRlNzRlMDFkN1cDbnl0QgplVkyLXmU0QGnBUht0cmlzdHJhbWJhbGR3aW45MEBnbWFpbC5jb21YBAAAAAM~). [Joaquin Phoenix wields a sword while wearing a Napoleon style hat in a scene from the movie. ](~/AAAAAQA~/RgRnQRBMP0TcaHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubnl0aW1lcy5jb20vMjAyMy8xMS8yMS9tb3ZpZXMvbmFwb2xlb24tbW92aWUtaGlzdG9yeS5odG1sP2NhbXBhaWduX2lkPTU3JmVtYz1lZGl0X25lXzIwMjMxMTIyJmluc3RhbmNlX2lkPTEwODQyNyZubD10aGUtZXZlbmluZyZyZWdpX2lkPTc3Njc0OTUyJnNlZ21lbnRfaWQ9MTUwNzgwJnRlPTEmdXNlcl9pZD1hYTQ5MWVmN2YxZDk2NGU0OTc5ZmI3ODRlNzRlMDFkN1cDbnl0QgplVkyLXmU0QGnBUht0cmlzdHJhbWJhbGR3aW45MEBnbWFpbC5jb21YBAAAAAM~) Joaquin Phoenix in “Napoleon.” Kevin Baker/Apple Original Films/Columbia Pictures After turkey, head to the movies Napoleon Bonaparte, the French emperor, maintains a ubiquity 200 years after his death that far exceeds the other influential figures of his time. That’s rarely been more obvious than today, as Ridley Scott releases his latest movie, “Napoleon.” Our critic, Manohla Dargis, wrote that the film was “consistently surprising partly because it doesn’t conform to the conventions of mainstream historical epics, which is especially true of its startling, adamantly unromanticized title character.” [Read her review](~/AAAAAQA~/RgRnQRBMP0TiaHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubnl0aW1lcy5jb20vMjAyMy8xMS8yMi9tb3ZpZXMvbmFwb2xlb24tcmV2aWV3LXJpZGxleS1zY290dC5odG1sP2NhbXBhaWduX2lkPTU3JmVtYz1lZGl0X25lXzIwMjMxMTIyJmluc3RhbmNlX2lkPTEwODQyNyZubD10aGUtZXZlbmluZyZyZWdpX2lkPTc3Njc0OTUyJnNlZ21lbnRfaWQ9MTUwNzgwJnRlPTEmdXNlcl9pZD1hYTQ5MWVmN2YxZDk2NGU0OTc5ZmI3ODRlNzRlMDFkN1cDbnl0QgplVkyLXmU0QGnBUht0cmlzdHJhbWJhbGR3aW45MEBnbWFpbC5jb21YBAAAAAM~). Also in theaters today: Bradley Cooper’s biopic on Leonard Bernstein, which is [a New York Times critic’s pick](~/AAAAAQA~/RgRnQRBMP0TmaHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubnl0aW1lcy5jb20vMjAyMy8xMS8yMi9tb3ZpZXMvbWFlc3Ryby1yZXZpZXctbGVvbmFyZC1iZXJuc3RlaW4uaHRtbD9jYW1wYWlnbl9pZD01NyZlbWM9ZWRpdF9uZV8yMDIzMTEyMiZpbnN0YW5jZV9pZD0xMDg0Mjcmbmw9dGhlLWV2ZW5pbmcmcmVnaV9pZD03NzY3NDk1MiZzZWdtZW50X2lkPTE1MDc4MCZ0ZT0xJnVzZXJfaWQ9YWE0OTFlZjdmMWQ5NjRlNDk3OWZiNzg0ZTc0ZTAxZDdXA255dEIKZVZMi15lNEBpwVIbdHJpc3RyYW1iYWxkd2luOTBAZ21haWwuY29tWAQAAAAD). [A man wearing a green hat while in blue jeans and a long sleeve white shirt gestures with both hands in the air toward the balloon of Snoopy from the “Peanuts’ comics. ](~/AAAAAQA~/RgRnQRBMP0TraHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubnl0aW1lcy5jb20vMjAyMy8xMS8yMi9ueXJlZ2lvbi90aGFua3NnaXZpbmctcGFyYWRlLWJhbGxvb25zLXNhZmV0eS5odG1sP2NhbXBhaWduX2lkPTU3JmVtYz1lZGl0X25lXzIwMjMxMTIyJmluc3RhbmNlX2lkPTEwODQyNyZubD10aGUtZXZlbmluZyZyZWdpX2lkPTc3Njc0OTUyJnNlZ21lbnRfaWQ9MTUwNzgwJnRlPTEmdXNlcl9pZD1hYTQ5MWVmN2YxZDk2NGU0OTc5ZmI3ODRlNzRlMDFkN1cDbnl0QgplVkyLXmU0QGnBUht0cmlzdHJhbWJhbGR3aW45MEBnbWFpbC5jb21YBAAAAAM~) Handlers for the Beagle Scout Snoopy balloon. Emma Rose Milligan for The New York Times Dinner table topics - Chief balloon officer: Behind New York City’s painstaking operation to test balloons and clear streets [for the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade](~/AAAAAQA~/RgRnQRBMP0TraHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubnl0aW1lcy5jb20vMjAyMy8xMS8yMi9ueXJlZ2lvbi90aGFua3NnaXZpbmctcGFyYWRlLWJhbGxvb25zLXNhZmV0eS5odG1sP2NhbXBhaWduX2lkPTU3JmVtYz1lZGl0X25lXzIwMjMxMTIyJmluc3RhbmNlX2lkPTEwODQyNyZubD10aGUtZXZlbmluZyZyZWdpX2lkPTc3Njc0OTUyJnNlZ21lbnRfaWQ9MTUwNzgwJnRlPTEmdXNlcl9pZD1hYTQ5MWVmN2YxZDk2NGU0OTc5ZmI3ODRlNzRlMDFkN1cDbnl0QgplVkyLXmU0QGnBUht0cmlzdHJhbWJhbGR3aW45MEBnbWFpbC5jb21YBAAAAAM~). - Can’t see TV: The strange $55 million saga of [a Netflix series you’ll never see.](~/AAAAAQA~/RgRnQRBMP0TkaHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubnl0aW1lcy5jb20vMjAyMy8xMS8yMi9idXNpbmVzcy9jYXJsLXJpbnNjaC1uZXRmbGl4LWNvbnF1ZXN0Lmh0bWw_Y2FtcGFpZ25faWQ9NTcmZW1jPWVkaXRfbmVfMjAyMzExMjImaW5zdGFuY2VfaWQ9MTA4NDI3Jm5sPXRoZS1ldmVuaW5nJnJlZ2lfaWQ9Nzc2NzQ5NTImc2VnbWVudF9pZD0xNTA3ODAmdGU9MSZ1c2VyX2lkPWFhNDkxZWY3ZjFkOTY0ZTQ5NzlmYjc4NGU3NGUwMWQ3VwNueXRCCmVWTIteZTRAacFSG3RyaXN0cmFtYmFsZHdpbjkwQGdtYWlsLmNvbVgEAAAAAw~~) - J. Crew at 40: After filing for bankruptcy in 2020, the American retailer [is hoping for a renaissance](~/AAAAAQA~/RgRnQRBMP0TtaHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubnl0aW1lcy5jb20vMjAyMy8xMS8yMi9zdHlsZS9hdC00MC1qLWNyZXctc2hha2VzLW9mZi1hLW1pZGxpZmUtY3Jpc2lzLmh0bWw_Y2FtcGFpZ25faWQ9NTcmZW1jPWVkaXRfbmVfMjAyMzExMjImaW5zdGFuY2VfaWQ9MTA4NDI3Jm5sPXRoZS1ldmVuaW5nJnJlZ2lfaWQ9Nzc2NzQ5NTImc2VnbWVudF9pZD0xNTA3ODAmdGU9MSZ1c2VyX2lkPWFhNDkxZWY3ZjFkOTY0ZTQ5NzlmYjc4NGU3NGUwMWQ3VwNueXRCCmVWTIteZTRAacFSG3RyaXN0cmFtYmFsZHdpbjkwQGdtYWlsLmNvbVgEAAAAAw~~). - Stretch marks: Various so-called imperfections now appear so often in ads and images for lingerie [that some consumers doubt their veracity](~/AAAAAQA~/RgRnQRBMP0TWaHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubnl0aW1lcy5jb20vMjAyMy8xMS8yMi9zdHlsZS9zdHJldGNoLW1hcmtzLWFkcy5odG1sP2NhbXBhaWduX2lkPTU3JmVtYz1lZGl0X25lXzIwMjMxMTIyJmluc3RhbmNlX2lkPTEwODQyNyZubD10aGUtZXZlbmluZyZyZWdpX2lkPTc3Njc0OTUyJnNlZ21lbnRfaWQ9MTUwNzgwJnRlPTEmdXNlcl9pZD1hYTQ5MWVmN2YxZDk2NGU0OTc5ZmI3ODRlNzRlMDFkN1cDbnl0QgplVkyLXmU0QGnBUht0cmlzdHJhbWJhbGR3aW45MEBnbWFpbC5jb21YBAAAAAM~). 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Watch: Here’s the [best TV to stream this Thanksgiving](~/AAAAAQA~/RgRnQRBMP0TqaHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubnl0aW1lcy5jb20vMjAyMy8xMS8yMi9wb2RjYXN0cy9jdWx0dXJlLWRlc2std2F0Y2hpbmctdGhhbmtzZ2l2aW5nLmh0bWw_Y2FtcGFpZ25faWQ9NTcmZW1jPWVkaXRfbmVfMjAyMzExMjImaW5zdGFuY2VfaWQ9MTA4NDI3Jm5sPXRoZS1ldmVuaW5nJnJlZ2lfaWQ9Nzc2NzQ5NTImc2VnbWVudF9pZD0xNTA3ODAmdGU9MSZ1c2VyX2lkPWFhNDkxZWY3ZjFkOTY0ZTQ5NzlmYjc4NGU3NGUwMWQ3VwNueXRCCmVWTIteZTRAacFSG3RyaXN0cmFtYmFsZHdpbjkwQGdtYWlsLmNvbVgEAAAAAw~~). Read: In “Longstreet,” Elizabeth R. Varon dissects the life and legacy of a Confederate general [who became a devoted supporter of Reconstruction](~/AAAAAQA~/RgRnQRBMP0ToaHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubnl0aW1lcy5jb20vMjAyMy8xMS8yMi9ib29rcy9yZXZpZXcvbG9uZ3N0cmVldC1lbGl6YWJldGgtci12YXJvbi5odG1sP2NhbXBhaWduX2lkPTU3JmVtYz1lZGl0X25lXzIwMjMxMTIyJmluc3RhbmNlX2lkPTEwODQyNyZubD10aGUtZXZlbmluZyZyZWdpX2lkPTc3Njc0OTUyJnNlZ21lbnRfaWQ9MTUwNzgwJnRlPTEmdXNlcl9pZD1hYTQ5MWVmN2YxZDk2NGU0OTc5ZmI3ODRlNzRlMDFkN1cDbnl0QgplVkyLXmU0QGnBUht0cmlzdHJhbWJhbGR3aW45MEBnbWFpbC5jb21YBAAAAAM~). Listen: Set the table with [this Thanksgiving playlist](~/AAAAAQA~/RgRnQRBMP0T0aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubnl0aW1lcy5jb20vMjAyMy8xMS8yMS9hcnRzL211c2ljL2FtcGxpZmllci1uZXdzbGV0dGVyLXRoYW5rc2dpdmluZy1wbGF5bGlzdC5odG1sP2NhbXBhaWduX2lkPTU3JmVtYz1lZGl0X25lXzIwMjMxMTIyJmluc3RhbmNlX2lkPTEwODQyNyZubD10aGUtZXZlbmluZyZyZWdpX2lkPTc3Njc0OTUyJnNlZ21lbnRfaWQ9MTUwNzgwJnRlPTEmdXNlcl9pZD1hYTQ5MWVmN2YxZDk2NGU0OTc5ZmI3ODRlNzRlMDFkN1cDbnl0QgplVkyLXmU0QGnBUht0cmlzdHJhbWJhbGR3aW45MEBnbWFpbC5jb21YBAAAAAM~). 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We asked three food stylists for advice on [preparing and arranging dishes to make them as attractive as possible](~/AAAAAQA~/RgRnQRBMP0TsaHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubnl0aW1lcy5jb20vMjAyMy8xMS8yMi9pbnNpZGVyL3RoZS1qdWljeS1zZWNyZXRzLWJlaGluZC1mb29kLXN0eWxpbmcuaHRtbD9jYW1wYWlnbl9pZD01NyZlbWM9ZWRpdF9uZV8yMDIzMTEyMiZpbnN0YW5jZV9pZD0xMDg0Mjcmbmw9dGhlLWV2ZW5pbmcmcmVnaV9pZD03NzY3NDk1MiZzZWdtZW50X2lkPTE1MDc4MCZ0ZT0xJnVzZXJfaWQ9YWE0OTFlZjdmMWQ5NjRlNDk3OWZiNzg0ZTc0ZTAxZDdXA255dEIKZVZMi15lNEBpwVIbdHJpc3RyYW1iYWxkd2luOTBAZ21haWwuY29tWAQAAAAD). One tip: Embrace the mess. “A little bit of a mess, a couple of drips, goes a long way to make something feel more approachable,” one stylist said. Have a happy Thanksgiving. Thanks for reading. We’ll be off tomorrow and Friday for Thanksgiving. I’ll be back on Monday. — Matthew We welcome your feedback. Write to us at evening@nytimes.com. 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