‘I Live in Hell’

Mental trauma in Ukraine, Black evangelicals and more. 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Plus, [the split between Black and white evangelicals](~/AAAAAQA~/RgRl9sZ0P0TpaHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubnl0aW1lcy5jb20vMjAyMy8wMy8xNC9tYWdhemluZS9ibGFjay1ldmFuZ2VsaWNhbHMuaHRtbD9jYW1wYWlnbl9pZD01MiZlbWM9ZWRpdF9tYV8yMDIzMDMxNyZpbnN0YW5jZV9pZD04NzkyMSZubD10aGUtbmV3LXlvcmstdGltZXMtbWFnYXppbmUmcmVnaV9pZD03NzY3NDk1MiZzZWdtZW50X2lkPTEyNzk5NyZ0ZT0xJnVzZXJfaWQ9YWE0OTFlZjdmMWQ5NjRlNDk3OWZiNzg0ZTc0ZTAxZDdXA255dEIKZAl0QRRkyK_7jlIbdHJpc3RyYW1iYWxkd2luOTBAZ21haWwuY29tWAQAAAAA) and [a look into the life of a brilliant inventor](~/AAAAAQA~/RgRl9sZ0P0TkaHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubnl0aW1lcy5jb20vMjAyMy8wMy8xNS9tYWdhemluZS9jZmNzLWludmVudG9yLmh0bWw_Y2FtcGFpZ25faWQ9NTImZW1jPWVkaXRfbWFfMjAyMzAzMTcmaW5zdGFuY2VfaWQ9ODc5MjEmbmw9dGhlLW5ldy15b3JrLXRpbWVzLW1hZ2F6aW5lJnJlZ2lfaWQ9Nzc2NzQ5NTImc2VnbWVudF9pZD0xMjc5OTcmdGU9MSZ1c2VyX2lkPWFhNDkxZWY3ZjFkOTY0ZTQ5NzlmYjc4NGU3NGUwMWQ3VwNueXRCCmQJdEEUZMiv-45SG3RyaXN0cmFtYmFsZHdpbjkwQGdtYWlsLmNvbVgEAAAAAA~~) whose innovations caused unmitigated damage to human health and the planet. FEATURES [[Article Image] Antoine d'Agata/Magnum, for The New York Times](~/AAAAAQA~/RgRl9sZ0P4QIAWh0dHBzOi8vd3d3Lm55dGltZXMuY29tL2ludGVyYWN0aXZlLzIwMjMvMDMvMTQvbWFnYXppbmUvdWtyYWluZS1zb2xkaWVycy1wc3ljaGlhdHJpYy1ob3NwaXRhbC5odG1sP2NhbXBhaWduX2lkPTUyJmVtYz1lZGl0X21hXzIwMjMwMzE3Jmluc3RhbmNlX2lkPTg3OTIxJm5sPXRoZS1uZXcteW9yay10aW1lcy1tYWdhemluZSZyZWdpX2lkPTc3Njc0OTUyJnNlZ21lbnRfaWQ9MTI3OTk3JnRlPTEmdXNlcl9pZD1hYTQ5MWVmN2YxZDk2NGU0OTc5ZmI3ODRlNzRlMDFkN1cDbnl0QgpkCXRBFGTIr_uOUht0cmlzdHJhbWJhbGR3aW45MEBnbWFpbC5jb21YBAAAAAA~) [‘I Live in Hell’: The Psychic Wounds of Ukraine’s Soldiers Inside a psychiatric hospital in Kyiv, the growing mental trauma of the war is written on every soldier’s face. 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