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Do I Share My Concerns? Within the past year, my younger sister and her husband have been going through the process of adopting an infant through a private agency. They were recently approved to adopt and are now in the process of locating a match. Though they have two young biological children, my sister has always envisioned having a larger family and adopting. She and I are very close and share our struggles with each other, and one night last week, she called in hysterics. She and her husband were fighting, and she felt she was âlosing her mindâ and wondered if they were âcrazyâ to be adopting. I love my brother-in-law very much and do not judge them for fighting. But they fight often (at least once a week) and end up not speaking to each other. They are in weekly couples counseling, and my sister speaks with a therapist as well. I fear that they are not in a good place to adopt and that the stress that comes with a new baby will not be good for their relationship. I find myself wondering if I should share my concerns with them. Our other family members have similar concerns as well. â Name Withheld From the Ethicist: Adoption agencies in this country are required to conduct a home study, and when a couple are seeking to adopt, the study typically includes an assessment of the relationship. Itâs possible that this troubled pair havenât been entirely forthcoming with the home-study specialist. In the United States, there are many more parents looking to adopt than there are babies in need of adoption; agencies can and should be selective. You worry that the adoption would be bad for your sister and brother-in-law, but the basic issue here is the welfare of a vulnerable child. It isnât ideal for children to enter a home in which their presence brings further stress to a stormy relationship. Your sister and her husband should indeed be urged to rethink their decision. The most effective approach, though, may be to get the rest of the family aligned on this matter and pick the person you think is best placed to speak for all of you. Thoughts? If youâd like to share a response to todayâs dilemma with the Ethicist and other subscribers in the next newsletter, fill out [this form](~/AAAAAQA~/RgRls-VHP0TaaHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubnl0aW1lcy5jb20vMjAyMy8wMS8yMC9tYWdhemluZS9ldGhpY2lzdC1jb21tZW50cy5odG1sP2NhbXBhaWduX2lkPTI4MiZlbWM9ZWRpdF90ZV8yMDIzMDEyNSZpbnN0YW5jZV9pZD04MzYyOCZubD10aGUtZXRoaWNpc3QmcmVnaV9pZD03NzY3NDk1MiZzZWdtZW50X2lkPTEyMzQ3NyZ0ZT0xJnVzZXJfaWQ9YWE0OTFlZjdmMWQ5NjRlNDk3OWZiNzg0ZTc0ZTAxZDdXA255dEIKY9BHYNFjtr7Y71IbdHJpc3RyYW1iYWxkd2luOTBAZ21haWwuY29tWAQAAAAA). FROM THE ARCHIVES Back in 2021, the Ethicist answered another question about whether to intervene in a siblingâs decision regarding adoption. 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He wrote: âAm I wrong to insist that my husbandâs sister and brother-in-law either maintain the home as a condition of continued occupancy or allow us to sell it, recover the money invested and perhaps provide them with a more limited subsidy?â In his response, the Ethicist noted: âYou need to be mindful of the legitimate expectations â and dependencies â that arise from largess. ⦠In aiming to help raise the kids, you effectively took on caregiving responsibilities for the parents too. Those canât be renegotiated on the fly.â (Reread the full question and answer [here](~/AAAAAQA~/RgRls-VHP0TeaHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubnl0aW1lcy5jb20vMjAyMy8wMS8yMy9tYWdhemluZS9yZWxhdGl2ZXMtcmVudC1ldGhpY3MuaHRtbD9jYW1wYWlnbl9pZD0yODImZW1jPWVkaXRfdGVfMjAyMzAxMjUmaW5zdGFuY2VfaWQ9ODM2Mjgmbmw9dGhlLWV0aGljaXN0JnJlZ2lfaWQ9Nzc2NzQ5NTImc2VnbWVudF9pZD0xMjM0NzcmdGU9MSZ1c2VyX2lkPWFhNDkxZWY3ZjFkOTY0ZTQ5NzlmYjc4NGU3NGUwMWQ3VwNueXRCCmPQR2DRY7a-2O9SG3RyaXN0cmFtYmFsZHdpbjkwQGdtYWlsLmNvbVgEAAAAAA~~).) ⬥ Great advice to seek professional help for the sister. Being a part of a nuclear family has responsibilities beyond caring for the children. The couples should each also engage attorneys experienced in family law. A written agreement would clarify expectations and duties. â Daniel ⬥ The Ethicistâs advice is off. This is a no-win situation which has gone on way too long. The ungrateful brother and sister-in-law have had it easy compared to most who pay their own rent or mortgage. I see them as long term freeloaders who need to be given a deadline or a new set of rules. Especially now that the children are grown. â Rose ⬥ This arrangement was dysfunctional from the start. This is about one family enabling another for completely selfish reasons. And as might have been predicted things just went from bad to worse. The well-to-do couple was essentially buying a relationship with the other coupleâs children to meet their own needs. â Lowell ⬥ I fully agree with the Ethicist. One further thought: When children become teenagers, they become reclusive from their adult counterparts, although they still need them desperately. They will come back if the adults show them care and concern during their teenage years. â Mary ⬥ Anyone who opens a gifting spigot with a family member, especially one as generous as buying them a house, should both expect and be prepared to continue giving in both large and small ways over the years. 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