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Hey {NAME},
So...there's something I've been deeply afraid to share with you and it's something thatâs happened in my life over the last few years:
Major abundance.
There is the gratitude and joy of it -- the âIâm proud of myself.â But there is also the feeling that this is the most confronting thing Iâve ever felt.
Letâs rewind to make sense of why this is so confronting for me: For many years growing up, I did not fit in. Anywhere, really.
But what I eventually discovered was that I began to be accepted when I did two things: 1) Be the humble, Nice Girl, and 2) Achieve things and be a leader.
And so, my identity as the People-Pleasing High-Achiever was born. I used to think this was a good thing. On one side it can be, but it wasnât until a few years ago that I realized the shadow side of this behavior: It was an identity Iâd unconsciously created for myself in order to be accepted.
So, when my business began making millions of dollars per year, at first it was thrilling.
Then? It was terrifying.
Could I be a Humble Nice Girl AND abundant?
Could I fiercely own my power AND be âthe girl next doorâ?
Was I worthy enough for any of it?
And does desiring nicer things make me a bad person?
And deep down, I desperately feared what others would think of me for being a young, abundant woman, so Iâd do crazy things like park a block away when going to friendsâ houses so they wouldnât see that I drove a Porsche.
I also spent the first few years of my business trying to look and act like everyone else in my industry. I thought that the only way to have and maintain success was to follow a rigid blueprint called âhow everyone else did it.â
I learned to deny the things that made me original for fear that they were simultaneously âtoo muchâ and ânot enough.â
But my god, what the world doesnât need is more women who are afraid of their power.
Instead, we get to shift the paradigm away from indoctrinating women with the belief that they should be more pleasing, more rule-following, and more quiet if they want to be accepted.
We get to create a reality where women donât question their inherent deservability.
And letâs be clear, this is about SO much more than just âmoney.â
To me, itâs about how our feelings towards abundance and wealth actually equate to our feelings about our own worthiness.
Do we truly believe that we are allowed to want MORE from our lives? And if not, what does this mean about how we value ourselves?
So, from here on out, Iâm going to share the fullness of who I am instead of hiding pieces of myself that I think might make you uncomfortable.
For a long time, I didnât want you to see my fullest expression for fear that it would be âtoo muchâ for you.
I didnât want you to see my abundance for fear that you wouldnât like me anymore. But I am witness to a society that causes people to deny who they are in order to fit in, and I am deciding to opt out of that system.
And hereâs my favorite part: From here on out, Iâm going to help you see your own inherent worthiness, too, {NAME}. Iâm going to show you that you can live your life however the fuck you want, instead of living by someone elseâs definition of success.
Together weâll rewire any of the scarcity thatâs keeping you small so that you can allow in the immense possibility, abundance, and level of self-expression that so desperately wants to reach you.
Honestly, sharing this with you conjures up the first line of Eminemâs Lose Yourself -- âpalms are sweatyâ¦â But this is me, and in a lot of ways, this might be you, too.
Letâs rise together.
Do you want to go deeper on this topic? Here are some questions that you can dig into in a journal, a conversation with a trusted friend, or even by hitting reply to this email right now.
- Where are you holding back in your life for fear of what others may think of you if you?
- What identity are you clinging to that's keeping you small?
- What new identity wants to emerge from you?
- How would you show up in 2020 if you were being your most fully expressed self?
- What's one small thing you can do over the next few days to step closer to your highest, most unapologetic self?
All my love,
Mel
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