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Have you ever been in the midst of dealing with a tough relationship and could feel how the effects
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Have you ever been in the midst of dealing with a tough relationship (of any kind â friendship, romantic, coworker, neighbor, family...) and could feel how the effects of that ONE thing were seeping into all the cracks and crevices of the other parts of your life? And maybe, on the other hand, you can think of how a good, positive relationship in your life became a support systemâa life-giverâfor the other areas of your life! Weâre relational beings. Not in all the same ways, but there isnât a single human alive who has popped out of the womb needing and wanting nobody! We need people. And weâre complicated as heck, so sometimes things can get messy between us. As we continue to step out of a year of isolation and into a new normal, Iâm feeling anxiety around being in the flesh with other humans and getting back to friendships that donât happen over text or Zoom calls. At the same time, Iâm wildly excited for hugs and quality time with the people Iâve missed. Relationships are the burden and the blessing of being alive. You even have to tend to your relationship with yourself, too. And I think trying to compartmentalize how weâre doinâ with our people (even if the complicated relationship isnât always with someone we really want to have as âour peopleâ) can only make us frustrated. Frustrated that we canât turn off or not think about it when weâre in work mode. Angry or ashamed when years down the road, we still feel the effects of that rocky relationship. Anxious when we have to encounter and work on the conflict. Broken when we realize that âfixing itâ isnât an option. Understanding that tending to our relationships with others is, I believe, a key part of wholeness. Wholeness as a state of being, not necessarily like a perfect juggling act of everything in life. Not wholeness as in âeveryone is happy and likes me!â Not wholeness as in zero conflict ever. Wholeness as an attitude. Wholeness as a sense that your life and who you have (and who has you) are representations of the REAL you. Your true self. I wanted to write you a little letter about this because itâs been something Iâve been writing about, talking about with others, and even teaching aboutâit was this monthâs theme over on [GrowthDay!]( And because I know it matters. We all have far too many examples of the wrong way to see others. Iâve seen a lot of people treat their relationships like a separate entity. Or like burdens that exist only to create stress or anxiety. Or like pawns on a chessboard to be controlled and manipulated. Or like the enemy. Or like currency, to be spent and traded. And I want to see that change, not just in my industry or my neighborhood. Everywhere. Caring about people can be complicated (even being cared for can be complicated!), and we donât always get to do it the way we want to. But beginning by understanding that the relationships in our lives have a profound effect on the entirety of who & how & what we are⦠Well, I think it's a really great start. Iâm learning and growing and doinâ my best, and I know you are, too. Weâre doinâ it together and I wouldnât have it any other way! Jenna [Unsubscribe]( Jenna Kutcher 340 S Lemon Ave #4227 Walnut, California 91789 United States
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