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I LOVE making recommendations to my friends for things — food, clothes, hot To view this email as a web page, [click here]() {NAME}, I LOVE making recommendations to my friends for things — food, clothes, hot sauce brands, etc. [Image] One thing I notice is that people spend so much of their day making decisions that it’s a RELIEF if someone else makes a decision for them. That’s why people tend to LOVE it when you help them make decisions on what to order from new restaurants or which hot sauce to pick. [Hot sauces] Ask me which of these hot sauces is best Today, I want to talk to you about being a leader. This is about more than offering to pick the menu for your friends. It's about being liked and admired by the people in your life. It's about being unforgettable. It’s about having great social skills. Social skills are some of the most important, but overlooked, skills of all. - With good social skills, you get promoted faster - With good social skills, you get better relationships — both as a single person and coupled up - With good social skills, LIFE IS WAY MORE FUN On the other hand, if you never think about social skills as something you can develop and improve … you’re just like everyone else. So, let’s talk about the social skills you need to become a leader. (Notice: Our minds have lots of invisible scripts about leaders, like leaders have to be seen as dominating or bossy or a jerk, but none of those things are necessarily true at all.) We can all think of leaders who are very strong, and we can also think of leaders who are very loud, and we can also think of leaders who are very quiet and lead in their own way. We can choose what kind of leader we want to be. Leadership starts with behavior. Anyone can think to themselves, “I want to be a leader,” but I’m going to talk about a few specific behaviors you can use to start leading today. (Again, leading is not about being pushy or being the loudest person in the room. Leading is about taking responsibility for offering choices to people and for bringing out the best in yourself and in others.) How do you become a leader? The first step is to start getting proactive. A proactive leader takes 60 seconds to research topics they can talk about — what’s in the news, what’s trending, what do people in this group want to talk about, etc. They ask themselves: - How do I want people to feel? - Do I want them to feel liked? - Do I want them to feel entertained? - Do I want them to feel attracted? When was the last time you did this? Have you ever done this? Most people spend their mornings chewing on a day-old bagel and mindlessly browsing their emails and social media feeds. What if you took 60 seconds before you jumped into your first Zoom call of the day, summoned an incantation (“What Would Ramit Do Right Now?”), and decided how you want people to feel around you? Plan your strategy, even for just 60 seconds, so that when you go in to any meeting (whether personal or professional), you’re not depending on others to entertain you — you’re starting off ready to go by adding value to others first. Your day would be completely different. You would be taking the first step toward being a leader. Being a proactive leader applies everywhere: deciding where to eat, what movie to see, what to do this weekend — there are a million examples. In fact, a lot of times it doesn’t even matter what the decision is. It just matters that someone speaks up and says, “Let’s try this.” That is the power of being a leader. It’s not about flexing your muscles all the time. It’s also about making simple suggestions, knowing that you’re adding value or helping others. Leadership is just one social skill. Being a leader is just one aspect of social fluency. My program on these skills, [How to Talk to Anybody](), gives you the building blocks to talk to anyone, anywhere, at any time … whether it’s one-on-one or in a group setting … whether you're trying to get a job or build a friendship. These skills are universally applicable during the most pivotal moments of our lives. [How to Talk to Anybody]() You don’t learn social skills from a book. In How to Talk to Anybody, you’ll learn the exact words, body language, and even subtle “connection” strategies to use. And we’ll show you how to practice these skills until they become second nature. We’ll start off with “low-stakes” practice, like with the local FedEx delivery guy and your barista. If you’re nervous, we’ll give you small “cheats” to use at first. Then we’ll go deeper, showing you how to blend these new strategies with your friends, your co-workers, even your family. You can’t live a Rich Life without knowing how to skillfully interact with other people. To ask for what you want. To negotiate. To lead people. To feel confident when talking with new people or with VIPs. You need to feel in control and in command of whatever situation is unfolding around you. That’s what I show you in How to Talk to Anybody. [Learn about our amazing course, How to Talk to Anybody]() [Signature] P.S. Imagine walking into a room or hopping on a call or interview and knowing exactly what to say, leaving people smiling and remembering you. Now imagine being able to apply those same principles to your coworkers … your partner … and everyone around you. [Social skills can change your life](). P.P.S. This is the best hot sauce, btw. [Dos Toros Habanero Hot Sauce] WHAT TO DO NEXT Join. What if you could talk to anyone, anytime, using the power of body language to create an instant connection? 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