A Rich Life is impossible without good social skills
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- [An easy way to get better at selling](#module2) []A Rich Life is impossible without good social skills Why? - With good social skills, you get promoted faster
- With good social skills, you get better relationships â both as a single person and coupled up
- With good social skills, LIFE IS WAY MORE FUN When it comes to social skills, there are many nuances. The smallest things can have a major impact on how people perceive you. Here are 19 counterintuitive insights about social skills Iâve learned over the years (with a bonus #20): - Small talk is awesome. Itâs not a waste of time. It's the early part of a dance where you feel each other out, get to know each other when the stakes are low, and establish a common bond. Donât skip it. - What do you really want? If you donât know that, you canât communicate it. - It's OK to say no. You can do it politely, you don't have to be mean, but you decide what you want to do. Use this: âI really appreciate the offer, but Iâm going to have to pass. Iâm forcing myself to stay focused on X. Again, Iâm flattered, and thank you for the offer.â - You have communication patterns from childhood that you donât even know about. Ask a good friend, âWhat are my verbal tics?â Listen and thank them. This is really hard. Itâs also one of the best ways to improve. - Dream teacher: Pick someone you admire, study their social skills, and try to apply one thing. Is that weird? Maybe. Whatâs weirder: Never trying to improve your social skills at all. - How come everyone says, âIâm socially awkwardâ or âI have social anxietyâ these days? Unless you have a diagnosed condition, please shut up. You can improve your social skills, and it will change your life. - Being good at social skills means being open about what the other person wants. Being masterful means sometimes not even having to ask. - Social skills are like BO. If you even suspect yours are bad ⦠they're terrible. If youâve never thought about it before ⦠well, everyone could use a little help. - Sometimes, the best thing you can do is STHU. Shut The Heck Up. - If they dish it out, ainât nothing wrong with dishing it back. - People love learning patterns about themselves that they didnât know. Love, love, love it. This is why astrology is so popular. - Most people either dominate a conversation by talking 80% of the time, or delegate responsibility by only talking 20%. Which one are you? - Be interested. People like to talk about themselves. If you want to be perceived as a social genius, just ask people questions about themselves. - SPEAK UP IN LOUD LOCATIONS. - Oh, youâre shy and life is hard? Boohoo. I have hairy toes and slightly crooked teeth. You can improve your social skills. - Everyone communicates differently. Acknowledge it, learn it, master it. - Don't be so serious all the time. If youâre at a bar talking about philosophy and the meaning of life and our existential risk from climate change ⦠give it a rest. Sometimes people just want to have a drink and chill. - You can find something interesting about everyone. - Elite-level social skill: Making fun of yourself with just the right amount of charm. Hereâs a bonus #20... You should join [How to Talk to Anybody]() and watch your social skills massively improve in about 7 days. Itâs fun, itâs eye-opening, and the people around you will notice an amazing difference in a week. [Earnable]() []What beginners need to know (and weâre all beginners) Want to know when social skills are incredibly valuable? - If youâre employed, when youâre negotiating your salary
- If you own your own business, when youâre on a sales call (or when explaining to customers why they should buy) Letâs talk about #2. First of all, itâs normal to be nervous about selling. Weâre not taught how to do this! The first time we try it, weâre not going to be good at it. Weâre not skilled. In any other part of life, we would totally expect this. We wouldnât expect to be a BMX champ the first time we rode a bike. We develop skills over time. Second, our minds play tricks on us. Why? Society tells us that selling is bad. We say things like âI donât wanna be pushyâ or âI donât want to be a sellout.â What weâre really saying is âIf I sell someone something, Iâm winning and theyâre losing.â What if we reframe that? Put yourself in the driverâs seat. Think about something that you happily spend money on. Do you sit there and say, âWait a minute, I just paid them $100. I lost and they wonâ? Of course not! What you say is, âMan, Iâm really happy I could pay them so they could solve that problem for me.â When you first start selling, youâre not going to have the best skills. Thatâs normal! Develop those skills. Donât let the voice in your head talk you out of selling. Remember that youâre solving a problem for your customers or clients, and theyâre happy to pay you for that. In fact, youâd be doing them a disservice to not help them with their problem. So how do you develop those skills? Practice, practice, practice. In my business program Earnable, I show you what skills you need and how to develop them. Earnable includes case studies and word-for-word scripts to help you. [Click here to learn more about everything thatâs included in Earnable](). Here are the takeaways, whether you own a business or not: - Youâre not going to be good at something when you start out
- To get better, we need to reframe the problem, learn what skills we need, and then practice those skills [Signature] WHAT TO DO NEXT UPLEVEL YOUR SOCIAL SKILLS: How to Talk to Anybody will help you massively improve your social skills in about 7 days. [Check it out today](). [SIGN UP]() LEARN THE SKILLS TO SELL: Earnable includes case studies and word-for-word scripts to help you. [Click here]() to learn more about everything thatâs included in Earnable. [SIGN UP]() How did you feel about todayâs email? [insta]() [Twitter]() [twitter]() [youtube]() [Linkedin]() [podcast]() This email was sent to {EMAIL}. If you no longer wish to receive these emails you may [unsubscribe]( at any time. 548 Market St #89946 San Francisco, CA 94104-5401