“I almost called the wedding off”

Here’s a short excerpt from one of my recent podcast episodes. This is so juicy! To view this email as a web page, [click here]() “I almost called the wedding off” Here’s a short excerpt from one of my recent podcast episodes. This is sooo juicy! Michelle: When we were planning our wedding, everyone was responsible for certain things. He comes to me the night before the wedding and says, “Did you bring your checkbook?” I'm like, “No. In all the frenzy, how can I bring my checkbook? Why?” He's like, “Because you have to pay the musicians.” I'm like, “What difference does it make [who pays them]? We're getting married tomorrow.” That stuck with me. I almost called the wedding off, because I just felt like, we're getting married, we're going from separate to joint, why would he ask for my checkbook? And so, that's been the theme for 21 years. Sometimes I refer back to that as the checkbook moment. So this problem started very early. It felt like there was never enough with my husband. It felt like we were always in deficit…. He's never been broke in the sense of lack of money. I think it was just this feeling of, “We don't have enough, we don't have enough,” but the numbers always showed that we DID have enough. He would always make me feel and put this buzz in my ear that it's not enough, we don't have enough money, we have to be more frugal. Charles: I think that's fair. I think that looking back, I had more of a scarcity mindset as opposed to an abundance mindset. But I think the biggest difference was that I'm very intentional. In my mind, if there's no agreement or a plan on how to spend the money, then there's no cap, so I get worried. If you say we're going to spend 100 bucks on groceries or whatever, then that's 100 bucks and I'm good with that. If you say “I don't want to agree on that, I'm going to spend whatever I want,” then I'm going to be nervous, because I think “When is this going to end?” And so that's kind of what led to the friction between spending plan, no spending plan, being frugal, and kind of having that scarcity mindset. There was never in my mind an agreed-upon plan on how we want to spend the money. There are so many insights in what we just heard! Michelle mentioned that she's felt this sense of scarcity since the day they got married. When you're young and you don't have much money, that makes sense. But a lot of us hope that once we're more financially comfortable, that scarcity mindset will change. But simply adding more money doesn't automatically change your feelings about money. Charles used words like "worried" or "I'm going to spend whatever I want." Notice how emotionally charged these words are: "nervous," "friction," "When is this ever going to end?" Also, notice how it's all focused on what can go wrong, but it's never focused on what can go right, and $10 million later, he still feels the same. This is one of the most fascinating conversations I’ve ever had. To listen in on the whole conversation, check out episodes [20]() and [21]() of the I Will Teach You To Be Rich podcast. From dropout to 6 figures (in-depth case study) If you're in the wrong job or at the wrong company — or maybe in the completely wrong industry — what do you do? Years ago, my friend Julie was in this exact spot. She’d already spent a year in law school before realizing that law wasn’t actually the right fit for her. She dropped out and felt lost and embarrassed. Her family expected her to become a lawyer. When she met up with friends, they’d say, “What are you up to?” If you just dropped out of law school, what are you supposed to say? 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