Plus courageous vulnerability  â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â â¡ï¸ Enlightening Bolts Gems of The Weird and Wonderful From Around The Web ð Gathering of The Tribe: A mythological reverie that sets an inspiring context for the wild wave we are riding at this point in humanity's development. If you sometimes feel alone or even crazy but still somehow remain optimistic, I think you'll like this. [Watch it here.](=)â ð¢ What Do You Say To The Sufferer: This piece offers some (hopefully helpful) words of wisdom to those in pain. Worth reading if it's you're the one in pain or if it's someone you love who you're wanting to support. [Read it here.](=)â 𥶠The Wim Hof Method Revealed: This HighExistence guide explores the science and practice of the Ice Man's popular breathing technique. [Read it here.](=)â Did someone forward you this email? Get this newsletter every week when you [sign up here.](â ð Image of The Week â This image by Charles Roger is an example of the Buddhabrot. It's not just a trippy image resembling a meditating guru. It's a mathemtical rendering technique by Melinda Green. It uses the Mandelbrot set which is the most well known fractal (you've probably seen it even if you aren't a math nerd). The Buddhabrot is created through "the probability distribution over the trajectories of points that escape the Mandelbrot fractal." I couldn't begin to tell you what that means but it definitely looks cool. ð Venn Diagram Vision There's an affliction I've dubbed "Venn Diagram Vision" that causes a person to live in a chronic state of compare and contrast. Everything they experience is referenced against an image in their mind about how things *should* be. This is certainly is a useful capacity to cultivate but is certainly not an appropriate way of life. Here's why: When we take the experience we're having and overlay a multi-dimensional set of mental measuring sticks, we push ourselves one step (or more) away from life. The disposition towards the moment becomes not embracing what is, but focusing on what isn't. The most torturous thing about it is that this endless sizing up of things will not end even if we managed to arrive at a reality that perfectly matches up with our vision. By that point, we will have created a new vision and we will use that to compare our once dream, now life, against. Never quite arriving. Pursuits of personal growth and spiritual advancement can cultivate tendencies that make us hyperaware of all the ways they can be better. This is done with good intentions. How can we grow if you aren't aware of the ways we need to grow? And finding ourselves making progress can be a pretty sweet high. But this mental pattern run amok can terrorize us to the point we live in a state where all we see are the fixes that need to be made. This can disconnect us from the beauty and richness of being alive. The moment begins to feel intolerable in the presence of all the flaws. This isn't growth. It's erosion. We try to source our motivation from the brief highs we get from small steps of progress rather than a pervading nourishment that can be accessed in the here & now. This can lead to burnout, breakdowns, and bouts of depression. If we're growing a garden, we have to water our plants and pull the weeds. Sometimes we are so fixated on the horizon that the garden of our lives begins to wither away. So if you're stuck in hyperawareness of ways you can be better, you must practice the opposite: Wanting what's right in front of you. Take off the goggles of Venn diagram vision and embrace what is. Love the world as it is. Love yourself as you are. This is one of the most significant things you can do. ð Courageous Vulnerability Sink your teeth into these poetic words from the luminous mind of David Whyte: "It is always hard to believe that the courageous step is so close to us, that it is closer than we ever could imagine, that in fact, we already know what it is, and that the step is simpler, more radical than we had thought: which is why we so often prefer the story to be more elaborate, our identities clouded by fear, the horizon safely in the distance, the essay longer than it needs to be and the answer safely in the realm of impossibility." "Vulnerability is not a weakness, a passing indisposition, or something we can arrange to do without. Vulnerability is not a choice. Vulnerability is the underlying, ever-present, and abiding undercurrent of our natural state. To run from vulnerability is to run from the essence of our nature. The attempt to be invulnerable is the vain attempt to become something we are not, and most especially, to close off our understanding of the grief of others. More seriously, in refusing our vulnerability, we refuse the help needed at every turn of our existence and immobilize the essential title and conversational foundations of our identity." ð¤ Learn This Word Exaptation: The utilization of a structure or feature for a function other than that for which it was developed. This is a term that emerged out of evolutionary biology but can be used in thinking about innovation as well. Things can be "exapted" in complex environments where they are radically repurposed to serve different needs than was originally intended. This new function creates a capacity or advantage that didn't exist before. â³ From The Archives A hand-picked classic HighExistence article. â[Spaciousness: How to Free Your Mind and Stop Living Reactively](â âSpaciousnessâ is a Buddhist concept that has been profoundly useful and liberating for me. Perhaps it will prove nourishing for you as well. Spaciousness feels like having more space in your mind. It feels like widening the space between stimulus and response, such that you can stop living in reaction and begin responding skillfully to reality. â[Continue Reading](â ð Education Prison System The next issue of our premium newsletter [Stairway To Wisdom](=) is coming out on Friday and we'll be diving into Excellent Sheep by William Deresiewicz. =â This book serves as a stinging indictment of the current education system while also offering an inspiring vision of education's true power. Here's a small taste: âThe system manufactures students who are smart and talented and driven, yes, but also anxious, timid, and lost, with little intellectual curiosity and a stunted sense of purpose: trapped in a bubble of privilege, heading meekly in the same direction, great at what theyâre doing but with no idea why theyâre doing it.â Want access when it's released on Friday plus 52 additional book breakdowns? Sign-up for the Stairway To Wisdom. Right now you can claim a free trial so you can test-drive with zero risk. [Get Your Free Trial](=)
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