🌀🐇 #60 beyond a life's purpose, clouds in paper, 360 rainbow

Plus self-sabotage or strategic ignorance?  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ​ ​ ​ ⚡️ Enlightening Bolts Gems of The Weird and Wonderful From Around The Web 🤔 Instead of Your Life's Purpose: A meditation on meaning that explores the non-linear ways life progresses beyond a simple conception of a personal mission. [Read it here.](​ ❤️ Love Is The Doorway To Heaven: An animate dialogue exploring some of Dostoevsky's thoughts about the reality of hell and heaven within the human psyche. [Watch it here.](=)​ 💪 Best Shape of My Life: This series focuses on Will Smith's weight loss journey don't be fooled: This fitness show is actually a deep exploration of psychology, how coping mechanisms are formed, and how we can transcend them. [Watch it here.](=)​ Did someone forward you this email? Get this newsletter every week when you [sign up here.](​ 🎇 Image of The Week [Tree Art] ​ "Full circle rainbow was captured over Cottesloe Beach near Perth, Australia in 2013 by Colin Leonhardt of Birdseye View Photography. He was in a helicopter flying between a setting sun and a downpour." ⛓ Self-Sabotage or Strategic Ignorance? If you're like most people, you've probably tried to implement changes to your life only to slip back into old patterns at some point. This is extremely common. Many people explain this failure as self-sabotage. When people get motivated to make big changes, it often comes from a place of restlessness in their experience of life. Things have lost their luster. The internal dialogue is harsh. The emotional weather is stormy. So "enough is enough!" I'm going to change things. Then a big plan is built off of this spike in motivation. The transformation is set in motion. Spirits begin to rise. Confidence grows. Until... Something happens that diminishes motivation and the plan begins to fall apart. It could be something small like a bad night of sleep or a hangover after a night of too much fun. Or it could be something larger like a breakup or a job loss. Whatever the size of the disruption, the person slides back into old patterns. Then they return to the harsh internal dialogue and stormy emotions with an added feeling of failure. "Maybe I can't change? Why do I keep sabotaging myself? What's wrong with me?" The answer is... Nothing. Nothing wrong with you. There is very likely something is to be adjusted in your approach. You see, oftentimes, self-sabotage is strategic ignorance. We have to expect the wild curveballs from life that disrupt our motivation rather than remaining blind to them. So here's what you should do: Focus on consistency over intensity. If you start small, you'll be better able to continue when the unexpected strikes. And if you *still* fall off the wagon you must learn to forgive yourself. If you're punishing yourself whenever you slip up then it's worth asking the question: Are you operating from the place where you're already whole and complete or are you striving to reach wholeness? Already complete and whole means you recognize your flaws, you are learning and growing through your failures, and celebrating your successes on this wild ride through life. If you are striving and straining then you are borrowing your wholeness from some imagined actualized version of yourself in the future. If you deviate from that specific vision then your wholeness is held in question leading to self-talk that is callous and cold. The former provides a sustainable, ongoing fuel source for transformation. Our own self love and acceptance. The latter creates a prison that we’ll inevitably rebel against. So start small and be kind. From there you can grow changes into your life like you were planting seeds, nourished by water and sun until they blossom into a garden of beautiful possibilities. ⛅️ Clouds In The Paper Enjoy this passage from Thich Nhat Hanh on the interdependent nature of life: "If you are a poet, you will see clearly that there is a cloud floating in this sheet of paper. Without a cloud, there will be no rain; without rain, the trees cannot grow; and without trees, we cannot make paper. The cloud is essential for the paper to exist. If the cloud is not here, the sheet of paper cannot be here either. So we can say that the cloud and the paper inter-are. “Interbeing” is a word that is not in the dictionary yet, but if we combine the prefix “inter-” with the verb “to be,” we have a new verb, inter-be. Without a cloud and the sheet of paper inter-are. 

If we look into this sheet of paper even more deeply, we can see the sunshine in it. If the sunshine is not there, the forest cannot grow. In fact, nothing can grow. Even we cannot grow without sunshine. And so, we know that the sunshine is also in this sheet of paper. The paper and the sunshine inter-are. And if we continue to look, we can see the logger who cut the tree and brought it to the mill to be transformed into paper. And we see the wheat. We know the logger cannot exist without his daily bread, and therefore the wheat that became his bread is also in this sheet of paper. And the logger’s father and mother are in it too. When we look in this way, we see that without all of these things, this sheet of paper cannot exist. 

Looking even more deeply, we can see we are in it too. This is not difficult to see, because when we look at a sheet of paper, the sheet of paper is part of our perception. Your mind is in here and mine is also. So we can say that everything is in here with this sheet of paper. You cannot point out one thing that is not here-time, space, the earth, the rain, the minerals in the soil, the sunshine, the cloud, the river, the heat. Everything co-exists with this sheet of paper. That is why I think the word inter-be should be in the dictionary. “To be” is to inter-be. You cannot just be by yourself alone. You have to inter-be with every other thing. This sheet of paper is, because everything else is.

 Suppose we try to return one of the elements to its source. Suppose we return the sunshine to the sun. Do you think that this sheet of paper will be possible? No, without sunshine nothing can be. And if we return the logger to his mother, then we have no sheet of paper either. The fact is that this sheet of paper is made up only of “non-paper elements.” And if we return these non-paper elements to their sources, then there can be no paper at all. Without “non-paper elements,” like mind, logger, sunshine and so on, there will be no paper. As thin as this sheet of paper is, it contains everything in the universe in it.” 🤓 Learn This Word Oneironaut: A person who explores dream worlds, usually associated with lucid dreaming. ⏳ From The Archives A hand-picked classic HighExistence article. ​[Carl Sagan on the Shortness of Life and Absurdity of Conflict (Illustrated)](=)​ I just went on death-clock.org to find out when I might die. “You will live to be eighty-nine years, eight months and eleven days old!” it said. I’m twenty-six now, so based on that generous calculation I have 23,190 days, nineteen hours, thirty-four minutes, fifty-three seconds left on this pale blue dot. That’s not too bad I guess. But actually, you can subtract a third of that off for sleep. 15,537 days left. Then there’s two years of watching commercials, one year cleaning, three months stuck in traffic, and three months on the toilet. 14,262 days left. Oh, and ten years of work (applicable to those who dislike their jobs). ​[Continue Reading](=)​ 📢 Ask Your Questions Have a question or something to share that you'd like us to cover on [The HighExistence Podcast?](​ Now you can leave us a voice note sharing what's on your mind. You can tell us about: - A challenge you're facing - Topics you'd like us to explore - Something you'd like more people to know General love notes and messages of appreciation are of course welcome as well. :) We can't promise we'll get to all of the questions but we'll listen to every message sent. ​[Leave us a voice note here.](​ 🎬 Endnote We hope you enjoyed this issue of Down The Rabbit Hole. Feel free to reply and tell us what you think. Want to help us spread the word? We love sharing these gems of wisdom and wonder with you each week. If you love receiving them and want to help us spread the word, here is one quick way you can do that: Forward this email to one friend. That's it. It will take 5 seconds and will help us spread the good vibes and reach more people. We appreciate you. With Wonder, Mike Slavin & The HighExistence Team P.S. Did a friend forward you this email? Read previous issues and sign-up to receive future issues here: [(​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​[Unsubscribe]( | [Update your profile]( | 40 E. Main St. #1137, Newark, DE 19711 [Built with ConvertKit](=)