How to visit family without losing it

No one said this was going to be easy. ͏   ­ ͏   ­ ͏   ­ ͏   ­ ͏   ­ ͏   ­ ͏   ­ ͏   ­ ͏   ­ ͏   ­ ͏   ­ ͏   ­ ͏   ­ ͏   ­ ͏   ­ ͏   ­ ͏   ­ ͏   ­ ͏   ­ ͏   ­ ͏   ­ ͏   ­ ͏   ­ ͏   ­ ͏   ­ ͏   ­ ͏   ­ ͏   ­ ͏   ­ ͏   ­ ͏   ­ ͏   ­ [Healthline]( [Wellness Wire]( Presented by [Zenni]( In a Nutshell I want to start off by saying that I really love my family. But while fulfilling in the long run, being around my mom, dad, and brother isn’t always enjoyable in the moment. Let’s just say I have to put out a lot of effort not to immediately regress from the *perfect* 32-year-old I am now to the angry 12-year-old I once was. People, let me tell you, this is easier said than done! But it’s totally possible. Below, I share some coping strategies that have proven especially helpful over the years. But first, some more on how to feel good this time of year: • [12 ways to create community when you’re a family of one]( • [How to thrive this holiday season with your chosen family]( • [15 life-changing books to spark hope and healing]( Stay sharp, Ginger Wojcik Newsletter Editor, Healthline Written by Ginger Wojcik November 20, 2023 • 4.5 min read [How I keep the peace when I’m home for the holidays]( what’s got us buzzing [How I keep the peace when I’m home for the holidays]( There are plenty of legitimate reasons for not visiting your family for the holidays (or ever), especially if they cause you harm — physical, [psychological](, or otherwise. But if you’re like me, and you still want to see these humans you’ve been randomly assigned to, even if it inevitably means experiencing emotions you thought for sure you’d worked out in therapy by now, there are definitely ways to make this time more enjoyable. - Get your own place. I usually opt for the Motel 6 down the street, but rooms were going for $225 a night last year. Instead, I slept in my car in the driveway for 6 nights. Honestly, having even that amount of privacy made a huge difference for how I felt. - Prioritize exercise. I try to surf every day that I’m home, partially because [exercise]( is one of the quickest, healthiest ways to keep stress low and get a nice mood boost. - Keep close tabs on your emotions. A crucial part of [emotional regulation]( is being able to recognize emotions as they arise. When I’m home, I’m pretty much continuously checking in on my emotional state to put out any fires before they burn me out. - Know your triggers. Alcohol is a big problem in my family, so I’ve [stopped drinking]( altogether while I’m home. Think back on past scenarios. Are there any patterns you’ve noticed that can be avoided in the future? - Don’t lose perspective. Remember that these flawed, complicated people won’t be around forever. 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