We talk with the host of the No. 1 sexuality podcast, Emily Morse. [Healthline]( [Wellness Wire]( IN a nutshell
Welcome back to the last day of our first-ever Wellness Wire Better Sex miniseries! ICYMI: Weâve been giving you tips and tools to maximize your pleasure potential all week long.
What better way to end this series than an entire sexual health newsletter theme? And weâre kicking it off by interviewing the host of the No. 1 sexuality podcast, *the* Emily Morse of â[Sex with Emily](.â
Hereâs everything else thatâs coming your way today: • your [sex tip of the day]( (hint: itâs playtime!) • a [magic wand](, [a lubricant](, and [19 condoms]( walk into a bedroom ... • more health stories you need, like [debunked IUD myths](
Be well,
Morgan Mandriota
Newsletter Editor, Healthline Written by Morgan Mandriota
February 17, 2023 ⢠6 min read
Want to unlock your best sex life? Say hello to your new BFF [Emily Morse](. A doctor of human sexuality and host of the hit podcast, âSex with Emily,â Morse is one of the leading sexperts in the space right now. As a self-proclaimed âlube pusher,â sheâs now the chief sexologist on high quality lubricant brand [Playgroundâs Sex and Wellness Council](. Across all of her roles, everything she does is in the name of pleasure-focused sex education.
If youâve ever wanted to ask a sexpert about sexual health misconceptions, frequently asked questions around intimacy, and how to have better sex, look no further! We asked Morse all of the above, and weâre sharing her answers below.
*This interview has been edited for length and clarity. Q: What inspired you to launch your show? What has been your biggest takeaway from hosting it so far?
A: I started âSex with Emilyâ in my mid-30s, because I wanted to know what created authentic, hot, âgoodâ sex. Whenever anyone told me they had an amazing sex life, I wanted to ask: âWhat do you mean? How? What specifically do you do to make it satisfying?â
Over time, âSex with Emilyâ evolved into a resource to have open, honest conversations about sex, and Iâm so happy that our whole community has grown up around it. Together, weâve moved the culture forward to talk about sex as a completely normal and vital part of your overall health.
One of my biggest takeaways from hosting is we all need help with sex. You never arrive at a place where youâre perfect at sex and youâre done learning. Your sexual needs (and your partnersâ needs) are ever-changing and evolving, whether youâre single, in a relationship, or [polyamorous](. Q: What are some common misconceptions surrounding sexual health and intimacy? Can you bust each of them with the facts?
A: âIf I have a vulva and I need lube for sex, there must be something wrong with me.â
We all need lube! According to data from the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, an estimated 70% of people with vaginas report having experienced insufficient lubrication at one point or another. This has to do with so many factors, including that dayâs [hormone levels](, which are out of your control. So, lose the shame, and [grab the lube](.
âIf I have problems with erection, thereâs something wrong with my penis.â
[Erectile dysfunction]( is very common, and penis owners carry a lot of shame around it. If you [prioritize your heart health]( by doing the basics (e.g., regular exercise, healthy diet, cutting down on alcohol and smoking), your erections [may] become more predictable and long lasting. Thatâs because erections depend on cardiovascular health: blood flowing into the penis to create the erection. Just 30 minutes of walking a day has been linked with a 41% drop in risk for ED.
âIf my partner has to use a toy to orgasm, I must not be enough.â
For hetero couples, the orgasm gap is real. About [95%]( of cis-het men orgasm during sex, compared with [65%]( of cis-het women (which seems to me like an overestimation, actually). Why is this happening? Because for most women, penetrative sex does not [stimulate the clitoris](. Thereâs nothing wrong with you or your penis. She just needs a toy, a mouth, or fingers stimulating her clitoris specifically to climax. Accept this, and be free!
[Greg Grunberg] Q: Whatâs the biggest theme youâve noticed in the sexual issues that face people across genders?
A: Almost everyone struggles with talking to their partner about sex. Theyâre worried that theyâll hurt their partnerâs feelings or take it as a criticism.
I truly believe that if we can [talk about sex]( like we talk about whatâs for dinner, everyone wins. Thereâs no one-size-fits-all solution, but if we can be more forthright and open when discussing sex itself, the answers come more readily. And thatâs true no matter your gender. Q: If you can only share one piece of advice or nugget of wisdom when it comes to boosting your sexual well-being and having a healthier, more pleasurable sex life, what would it be?
A: Prioritize your [solo sex](! Thatâs where youâre going to get useful information about your turn-ons and discover the physical sensations that feel good. I always tell people âyou are responsible for your own orgasm.â Itâs much easier if you explore your own body on the regular. dirty talk
Secrets for Better Sex [Itâs time to play!](
[Itâs time to play!](
Todayâs focus and hot tip: Break out the toys.
Like Morse said above, sex toys are *not* competition. Theyâre our little pleasure pals that want to help us feel good, and they do a great job. Toys can spice up a dull sex life and get you better acquainted with what type of sensations you like. Sex toys can ramp up your sexual satisfaction, which may offer [health benefits]( like increasing immunity, improving sleep, boosting mood, and relieving vaginal pain.
From [butt plugs]( and [dildos]( to [BDSM gear]( and [sex furniture]( (yes, furniture), thereâs a toy out there for anyone and everyone to enjoy. Are you a toy newbie? Donât fret. Shopping can be overwhelming, but weâre here to help.
Click [here]( to read our beginnerâs guide to sex toys. Depending on your sexual health needs, knowledge, and interests, you might also want to check out these articles:
• [how to clean your sex toys](
• [8 best cock rings for erectile dysfunction or fun](
• [sex toys and sexually transmitted infections (STIs)](
Want more insight like this? Email wellnesswire@healthline.com to sign up for our upcoming Better Sex challenge!
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