How You Respond To These Says A Lot About Your Marriage

The Magic Formula For A Happy Marriage ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ Sep. 10, 2023 A touch on the shoulder. Asking “How’d the interview go?” Saying, “You’d never guess what happened to me and the kids today!” These are all quotidian occurrences in a family, part of the rhythms of marriage. But each is an example of something very important: a bid for connection. Coined by relationship expert Dr. John Gottman, bids for connection are an offering of interest and curiosity. They say Hey, I want to know more about you! I care! And the act of turning towards, not away from, your partner’s bids as often as possible is one of the smallest but most important things you can do for the health of your relationship. According to Dr. Gottman’s research, couples that stayed together longer than six years — often the breaking point for marriages — turned towards each other 86% of the time, while those that divorced did so an average of 33% of the time. Here’s what makes them work. LOVE [How You Respond To “Bids For Connection” Can Make Or Break A Marriage]( Turning towards, not away from them[is a small gesture that has big rewards.]( [Read This Story]( The more of them that partners notice and respond to, the more a couple feels connected. FURTHER READING [The Magic Formula For A Happy Marriage]( [7 Big Signs Of A Rock-Solid Relationship]( [8 Communication Exercises That Help Everyone Be Heard]( DIVIDE AND CONQUER [6 Common Chore-Splitting Mistakes That Couples Need To Avoid]( It takes a lot of work to keep a household running. Don’t give yourselves more [by falling into one of these traps.]( [Read This Story]( SELF [How To Be More Intentional In Every Area of Your Life]( It takes a plan, effort, and some sacrifice. [But the end result — being more deliberate in your actions — yields big rewards.]( [Read This Story]( PARENTING STYLES [Peaceful Parenting Is The Hardest Parenting Style. It’s Also The Most Rewarding.]( [But only if you do it right.]( [Read This Story.]( DAD SPECIAL Ariela Basson/Fatherly; Getty Images, Courtesy of Joe Flamm [This Roasted Tomato Sauce Recipe Is What Your Pasta Night Is Missing]( Chef Joe Flamm talks berry budgets and the hilarious (and harsh) realities of feeding small children before [sharing his go-to (and very simple) sauce recipe.]( [Read This Story]( FATHERLY FAVORITES SAMSUNG [The Freestyle Indoor/Outdoor Projector]( Meet your new movie night companion.The Freestyle is one of the smartest projectors out there, engineered to make set up as simple as possible. It automatically adjusts for the angle of projection, the focus, and even tweaks the image color to work with whatever wall on which it's projecting. It works with external batteries or the optional battery pack, making it great for outdoor viewing sessions. $599 [SHOP NOW]( Follow us on: [Want to Advertise With Us? Get in Touch.]( You're receiving this email because you signed up to receive communications from BDG Media. If you believe this has been sent to you in error, please safely [unsubscribe](. Or to manage preferences click [here]( BDG Media, Inc. · 315 Park Ave. South · New York, NY 10010 · USA Copyright 2023 BDG Media, Inc. All rights reserved.