What Men Need To Teach Boys Today More Than Anything

Should Dads And Daughters Wrestle? Hell Yes. [Fatherly](%2F%2Ffatherly.com%2F%3Futm_campaign=33724%26utm_medium=fatherlyDailyV2%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/1/01000182276cc6b7-aef9344b-72ef-41b7-85c7-2a3741be0b84-000000/4kQ7iD6UOhBYI44c6-SfkBNffCA=279) Jul 22, 2022 Over time, “toxic masculinity” has come to encompass everything from man-spreading and the peculiar appeal of Hooter’s chicken wings to mass shootings and sexual assault. But experts are increasingly dismissive of the idea that masculinity is toxic; rather, they believe toxic behaviors are a reaction to perceived threats to the masculinity of a subset of men with poor self-esteem. Put a different way, the real issue is the creeping suspicion that masculinity can be taken away, and the actions this suspicion triggers. So, with masculinity being so precarious, how do you keep yourself from falling into toxic behaviors? And, perhaps more importantly, how do you keep your son from it? What it comes down to is crafting a more positive version of masculinity with the traits you want to see. If masculinity is a construct that needs to be reinforced for some men over and over again, make it bear repeating. SELF %2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fhealth%2Ftoxic-masculinity-fake-male-insecurity%3Futm_campaign=33724%26utm_medium=fatherlyDailyV2%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/1/01000182276cc6b7-aef9344b-72ef-41b7-85c7-2a3741be0b84-000000/DUCpGlfUJ0secSXvmeWdQKfqw54=279 [Toxic Masculinity Is A Myth, But Insecure Men Lash Out At Women](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fhealth%2Ftoxic-masculinity-fake-male-insecurity%3Futm_campaign=33724%26utm_medium=fatherlyDailyV2%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/2/01000182276cc6b7-aef9344b-72ef-41b7-85c7-2a3741be0b84-000000/lLBnDqyXL8xpTwzj-VjoAtr0Ob0=279) [The behavior is real, but the way we've come to talk about men who lash out obscures the problem.](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fhealth%2Ftoxic-masculinity-fake-male-insecurity%3Futm_campaign=33724%26utm_medium=fatherlyDailyV2%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/3/01000182276cc6b7-aef9344b-72ef-41b7-85c7-2a3741be0b84-000000/SXMBP0H0GX7fI4jF6IwsZVMURBE=279) [read this story](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fhealth%2Ftoxic-masculinity-fake-male-insecurity%3Futm_campaign=33724%26utm_medium=fatherlyDailyV2%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/4/01000182276cc6b7-aef9344b-72ef-41b7-85c7-2a3741be0b84-000000/Xlacnt1K5JKq8Fi3v-bMwyD5O5A=279) FURTHER READING [Traditional Ideas of Masculinity Trap a Lot of Men. It’s Time to Escape.](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Flove-money%2Fthe-man-box-traditional-masculine-notions-men%3Futm_campaign=33724%26utm_medium=fatherlyDailyV2%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/1/01000182276cc6b7-aef9344b-72ef-41b7-85c7-2a3741be0b84-000000/oQJzb0-_YFhS61SL09_5KsAs4-w=279) [Why Am I Unhappy? Because All American Men Are Getting Sadder.](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fhealth-science%2Fwhy-am-i-unhappy-because-american-men-are-sad%3Futm_campaign=33724%26utm_medium=fatherlyDailyV2%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/1/01000182276cc6b7-aef9344b-72ef-41b7-85c7-2a3741be0b84-000000/7R-Oxf-3eUbgDcP1UDJSwi9qdVY=279) [How the Myth of the Alpha Male Has Hijacked Modern Masculinity](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Flove-money%2Fmyth-alpha-male-vs-beta-male-hijacked-masculinity%3Futm_campaign=33724%26utm_medium=fatherlyDailyV2%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/1/01000182276cc6b7-aef9344b-72ef-41b7-85c7-2a3741be0b84-000000/TWDHIjBFUSfAilZ-Y8kWC5ytbVU=279) INEQUALITY %2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fparenting%2Fthings-boys-get-from-parents%3Futm_campaign=33724%26utm_medium=fatherlyDailyV2%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/1/01000182276cc6b7-aef9344b-72ef-41b7-85c7-2a3741be0b84-000000/7mCk-9pbXUFQC0g_swmkzF8_0UA=279 [Boys Still Get These 3 Things From Parents That Girls Don’t](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fparenting%2Fthings-boys-get-from-parents%3Futm_campaign=33724%26utm_medium=fatherlyDailyV2%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/2/01000182276cc6b7-aef9344b-72ef-41b7-85c7-2a3741be0b84-000000/ptJyRlxvo4GRfqxLRSfpEhIKIjM=279) [Gender stereotypes are still entrenched in parenting practices.](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fparenting%2Fthings-boys-get-from-parents%3Futm_campaign=33724%26utm_medium=fatherlyDailyV2%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/3/01000182276cc6b7-aef9344b-72ef-41b7-85c7-2a3741be0b84-000000/RjEMbC6beNMiO9_mJh9IEs89RaA=279) [read this story](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fparenting%2Fthings-boys-get-from-parents%3Futm_campaign=33724%26utm_medium=fatherlyDailyV2%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/4/01000182276cc6b7-aef9344b-72ef-41b7-85c7-2a3741be0b84-000000/rLqzMxncAVUG_OwOT71z2EueL50=279) ADVICE %2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Flove-money%2Fthe-worlds-most-masculine-men-on-raising-better-boys%3Futm_campaign=33724%26utm_medium=fatherlyDailyV2%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/1/01000182276cc6b7-aef9344b-72ef-41b7-85c7-2a3741be0b84-000000/QvijE3mpTdudmIjuqz6JNhsuJNg=279 [The World’s Most Masculine Men On Raising Boys](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Flove-money%2Fthe-worlds-most-masculine-men-on-raising-better-boys%3Futm_campaign=33724%26utm_medium=fatherlyDailyV2%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/2/01000182276cc6b7-aef9344b-72ef-41b7-85c7-2a3741be0b84-000000/gb4xFo6NZKqlntxALMI32j1R8pE=279) [How race car drivers, hunters, Arctic explorers, and bull riders model masculinity for their children.](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Flove-money%2Fthe-worlds-most-masculine-men-on-raising-better-boys%3Futm_campaign=33724%26utm_medium=fatherlyDailyV2%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/3/01000182276cc6b7-aef9344b-72ef-41b7-85c7-2a3741be0b84-000000/qcGJg1vhJNWWRrHAjXuo1z9mvrY=279) [read this story](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Flove-money%2Fthe-worlds-most-masculine-men-on-raising-better-boys%3Futm_campaign=33724%26utm_medium=fatherlyDailyV2%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/4/01000182276cc6b7-aef9344b-72ef-41b7-85c7-2a3741be0b84-000000/nKQeUwTHQ8kv7ojAOw0BX2QiT40=279) LESSONS %2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Flove-money%2Fwhat-men-need-to-teach-boys-today-more-than-anything%3Futm_campaign=33724%26utm_medium=fatherlyDailyV2%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/1/01000182276cc6b7-aef9344b-72ef-41b7-85c7-2a3741be0b84-000000/JNDhV3uFGi7lefCbOLY_rKeQWj4=279 [What Men Need To Teach Boys Today More Than Anything](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Flove-money%2Fwhat-men-need-to-teach-boys-today-more-than-anything%3Futm_campaign=33724%26utm_medium=fatherlyDailyV2%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/2/01000182276cc6b7-aef9344b-72ef-41b7-85c7-2a3741be0b84-000000/mRb0q6mDckShv3l3ZbioIcGPEeE=279) In Boys: What it Means to Become a Man, Rachel Giese discusses the myriad issues boys face today — [and what can be done to truly help them.](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Flove-money%2Fwhat-men-need-to-teach-boys-today-more-than-anything%3Futm_campaign=33724%26utm_medium=fatherlyDailyV2%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/3/01000182276cc6b7-aef9344b-72ef-41b7-85c7-2a3741be0b84-000000/GhnIYhis0uUJDrMeglbPNQZz784=279) [read this story](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Flove-money%2Fwhat-men-need-to-teach-boys-today-more-than-anything%3Futm_campaign=33724%26utm_medium=fatherlyDailyV2%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/4/01000182276cc6b7-aef9344b-72ef-41b7-85c7-2a3741be0b84-000000/TkTYHY54igUi7aKgSAx0X-uzGF0=279) The first thing is to just recognize that there are cultural forces at work shaping masculinity from the day the boy is born. further reading [Real Men Do Cry: 3 Ways I’m Teaching My Sons Emotional Honesty](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Flove-money%2Fteaching-sons-emotional-honesty-real-men-do-cry%3Futm_campaign=33724%26utm_medium=fatherlyDailyV2%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/1/01000182276cc6b7-aef9344b-72ef-41b7-85c7-2a3741be0b84-000000/2L9I6PKqCBNeoffQ41G6NEDqivI=279) [5 Things I Always Do to Show My Son That I Love Him](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Flove-money%2Fthings-always-do-show-son-love-him%3Futm_campaign=33724%26utm_medium=fatherlyDailyV2%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/1/01000182276cc6b7-aef9344b-72ef-41b7-85c7-2a3741be0b84-000000/sgAoU6AvTeRhLSbpnDuDRXspEvc=279) [What 15 Modern Dads Want to Teach Their Sons](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Flove-money%2Fhow-to-be-a-man-what-modern-dads-want-to-teach-sons%3Futm_campaign=33724%26utm_medium=fatherlyDailyV2%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/1/01000182276cc6b7-aef9344b-72ef-41b7-85c7-2a3741be0b84-000000/MvJxfp9ChAL-X2iRoGmeueB1lvQ=279) WRESTLEMANIA %2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fparenting%2Fdads-wrestle-daughters%3Futm_campaign=33724%26utm_medium=fatherlyDailyV2%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/1/01000182276cc6b7-aef9344b-72ef-41b7-85c7-2a3741be0b84-000000/dnFUL2DJYTBv5uUWwVy1ool6EmI=279 [Should Dads And Daughters Wrestle? Hell Yes.](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fparenting%2Fdads-wrestle-daughters%3Futm_campaign=33724%26utm_medium=fatherlyDailyV2%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/2/01000182276cc6b7-aef9344b-72ef-41b7-85c7-2a3741be0b84-000000/AKife6XeopsNavXuoutSj-S-PHk=279) [Roughhousing knows no gender, and the benefits are tremendous for both boys and girls.](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fparenting%2Fdads-wrestle-daughters%3Futm_campaign=33724%26utm_medium=fatherlyDailyV2%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/3/01000182276cc6b7-aef9344b-72ef-41b7-85c7-2a3741be0b84-000000/syL_KcOAKJVDS-twQQUYthddoxA=279) [read this story](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fparenting%2Fdads-wrestle-daughters%3Futm_campaign=33724%26utm_medium=fatherlyDailyV2%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/4/01000182276cc6b7-aef9344b-72ef-41b7-85c7-2a3741be0b84-000000/-vB1Cou8Zn_zYy52B97oaYSC4a8=279) You're receiving this email because you signed up to receive communications from BDG Media. 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