How to Raise a Kid That’s Ready For the World

How to Teach Boundaries to an Overly Affectionate Child [Fatherly](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2F%3Futm_campaign=28778%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/1/010001809ae69758-665e184b-e264-4052-b741-fac4fdcd4f24-000000/pit-7hFhDfNYakv6XdGTmET_544=269) Sure, you love your kids. But do you like your kids? Children can be frustrating. They throw tantrums, never seem to learn their lessons, and don’t consider the feelings of others. But it doesn’t have to be that way. (Or at least, it doesn’t have to be that way all the time.) There are parenting tricks you can use to raise a kid with the qualities you want to see in them, whether that be confidence, creativity, or kindness. It just takes the correct know-how, and, yeah, a lot of patience doesn’t hurt. PARENTING %2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fparenting%2Fhow-to-raise-strong-self-assured-kid%2F%3Futm_campaign=28778%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/1/010001809ae69758-665e184b-e264-4052-b741-fac4fdcd4f24-000000/2ib6F0-NBUtJH1sF6whewp1hUvs=269 [How to Raise a Strong Kid (But Not a Selfish Bully)](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fparenting%2Fhow-to-raise-strong-self-assured-kid%2F%3Futm_campaign=28778%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/2/010001809ae69758-665e184b-e264-4052-b741-fac4fdcd4f24-000000/SdZclDnVkTnxGZJYxmew16oMqGs=269) No one wants to raise a pushover. Most people don't want to raise bullies, either. [Here are 5 tricks to help you find the right balance.](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fparenting%2Fhow-to-raise-strong-self-assured-kid%2F%3Futm_campaign=28778%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/3/010001809ae69758-665e184b-e264-4052-b741-fac4fdcd4f24-000000/TLAQdCLpzMpONSqc61-KayL6T5Q=269) [READ THE STORY](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fparenting%2Fhow-to-raise-strong-self-assured-kid%2F%3Futm_campaign=28778%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/4/010001809ae69758-665e184b-e264-4052-b741-fac4fdcd4f24-000000/McPZDV9DexlUh3hJtcVym35ZQFk=269) TIPS AND TRICKS How to Discipline Stubborn, Unpunishable Kids Some children are uniquely stubborn and refuse to listen. When it comes to discipling them, it’s all about setting boundaries. Here’s how. 1. Recognize That You Can’t Change Them “If you have a strong-willed child who doesn’t listen, who doesn’t like boundaries, or who is combative about them, acknowledge that you have no control over their personality, but you do have control over how they learn,” says parenting educator Sharon Silver, founder of Proactive Parenting and author of Stop Reacting and Start Responding. 2. Don’t Back Down in a Fight Be very clear that you’re not giving up your authority. “You are drawing a line in the sand and regardless of emotion, it cannot be crossed,” Silver says. “When your child throws a tantrum or gets angry or shouts at you or acts aggressively, show them where the line is. Be the adult and take control of the action in the situation. Say, ‘I see you’re really angry. How can you make yourself feel better?’ This approach empowers the child and allows them to feel heard.” 3. Set Clear Rules, Before You Need Them “As a family, you need to sit down at a normal time — not during or after a conflict — and make umbrella rules,” Silver says. “These umbrella rules are three simple rules that act as a navigation bar and set up the boundaries for behavior that applies to everything: friendships, school, home life, and public behavior.” These three rules are to be safe, be kind, and be respectful. Make it clear to your child that if a behavior isn’t safe, kind, and respectful, it isn’t appropriate. For more, check out the full story [here](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fparenting%2Fhow-to-discipline-your-stubborn-child%2F%3Futm_campaign=28778%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/1/010001809ae69758-665e184b-e264-4052-b741-fac4fdcd4f24-000000/PVzZjUAmnyHCCzhj7l64ATODCbM=269). FURTHER READING - [Punishment for Kids Who Don’t Respond to Punishment](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fparenting%2Fhow-to-discipline-kids-who-dont-respond-to-punishment%2F%3Futm_campaign=28778%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/1/010001809ae69758-665e184b-e264-4052-b741-fac4fdcd4f24-000000/blbm0evQoPWUXc228UiWogZ0NR8=269) - ​​​​​[8 Things a Parent Should Never Say to Their Child](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fparenting%2Fbad-child-discipline-phrases-parents-should-never-say%2F%3Futm_campaign=28778%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/1/010001809ae69758-665e184b-e264-4052-b741-fac4fdcd4f24-000000/e3kMs_B4K9kzuycZf0vmw76rBQQ=269) - [The 11 Long-Term Benefits of Discipline for Kids](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fparenting%2F11-long-term-benefits-of-disciplining-your-kids%2F%3Futm_campaign=28778%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/1/010001809ae69758-665e184b-e264-4052-b741-fac4fdcd4f24-000000/llWBlVU0Tl-ij_04qQb9EyAvD7I=269) GROWING UP %2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fparenting%2F22-skills-every-kid-time-theyre-10%2F%3Futm_campaign=28778%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/1/010001809ae69758-665e184b-e264-4052-b741-fac4fdcd4f24-000000/PHUthinsLcdpC4BkAfmodlzSCHY=269 [22 Skills Every Kid Should Have by the Time They’re 10](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fparenting%2F22-skills-every-kid-time-theyre-10%2F%3Futm_campaign=28778%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/2/010001809ae69758-665e184b-e264-4052-b741-fac4fdcd4f24-000000/mpv1AjRbBBosiRLVIG2u-WCpBWQ=269) Your kid’s school teaches them reading, writing, and arithmetic. [But what about everything else they need to know?](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fparenting%2F22-skills-every-kid-time-theyre-10%2F%3Futm_campaign=28778%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/3/010001809ae69758-665e184b-e264-4052-b741-fac4fdcd4f24-000000/ltIk8C8hE2wnUN9JvAXvEewqGBc=269) [READ THE STORY](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fparenting%2F22-skills-every-kid-time-theyre-10%2F%3Futm_campaign=28778%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/4/010001809ae69758-665e184b-e264-4052-b741-fac4fdcd4f24-000000/z_HUgvOhzqzgfsaxlN0W6OUDv4I=269) PARENTING %2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Flove-money%2Fcompassionate-children-come-from-parents-who-do-these-8-things%2F%3Futm_campaign=28778%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/1/010001809ae69758-665e184b-e264-4052-b741-fac4fdcd4f24-000000/Wb81dkQDara34jPCYjkEyQBQszw=269 [Compassionate Children Come From Parents Who Do These 8 Things](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Flove-money%2Fcompassionate-children-come-from-parents-who-do-these-8-things%2F%3Futm_campaign=28778%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/2/010001809ae69758-665e184b-e264-4052-b741-fac4fdcd4f24-000000/j5usLZrem2gH47stZYMa-Wen4Yc=269) [In general, parents need to take the long view.](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Flove-money%2Fcompassionate-children-come-from-parents-who-do-these-8-things%2F%3Futm_campaign=28778%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/3/010001809ae69758-665e184b-e264-4052-b741-fac4fdcd4f24-000000/X3lSYvkKRe2tFMQ3sI5USTGfZuU=269) [READ THE STORY](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Flove-money%2Fcompassionate-children-come-from-parents-who-do-these-8-things%2F%3Futm_campaign=28778%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/4/010001809ae69758-665e184b-e264-4052-b741-fac4fdcd4f24-000000/EgIAW015FmlLFbgQEak88AXdz60=269) “Kids should know that gratitude is part of the appreciation of life, because when one is appreciative of one's life, one is generally going to be kind to other people.” — Dale Atkins, co-author of The Kindness Advantage: Cultivating Compassionate and Connected Children FURTHER READING - [How to Raise Creative Kids (And Why It’s Important)](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fparenting%2Fhow-to-raise-creative-kids-and-why-its-important%2F%3Futm_campaign=28778%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/1/010001809ae69758-665e184b-e264-4052-b741-fac4fdcd4f24-000000/-6er8YlKu7xguiHZhrOZqNWNsik=269) - ​​​​​[Hardworking Kids Come From Parents Who Do These 6 Things](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fparenting%2Fhow-to-raise-a-hardworking-king-not-workaholic%2F%3Futm_campaign=28778%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/1/010001809ae69758-665e184b-e264-4052-b741-fac4fdcd4f24-000000/EtX1VmV4y5kDKc7HsLz-eFU5jjU=269) - [5 Tips for Parents Who Want to Raise Humble Children](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Flove-money%2Fhow-parents-can-practice-humility-with-their-kids%2F%3Futm_campaign=28778%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/1/010001809ae69758-665e184b-e264-4052-b741-fac4fdcd4f24-000000/tedJ7CwiYbecYiLeAI-yO7aVoOA=269) PARENTING %2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fparenting%2Fdeal-overly-affectionate-child%2F%3Futm_campaign=28778%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/1/010001809ae69758-665e184b-e264-4052-b741-fac4fdcd4f24-000000/iq80zZJDlhCbA5urYrEyMR-mNBU=269 [How to Teach Boundaries to an Overly Affectionate Child](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fparenting%2Fdeal-overly-affectionate-child%2F%3Futm_campaign=28778%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/2/010001809ae69758-665e184b-e264-4052-b741-fac4fdcd4f24-000000/Bhkc50NG_qV228kPj6spnPqbprg=269) Children who live for hugging and kissing need to be shown good boundaries by parents, [while being given tools to express affection appropriately.](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fparenting%2Fdeal-overly-affectionate-child%2F%3Futm_campaign=28778%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/3/010001809ae69758-665e184b-e264-4052-b741-fac4fdcd4f24-000000/gGgeoz5Ooy683OaZRIkqrnBIvzc=269) [READ THE STORY](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fparenting%2Fdeal-overly-affectionate-child%2F%3Futm_campaign=28778%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/4/010001809ae69758-665e184b-e264-4052-b741-fac4fdcd4f24-000000/a2gqUXddvTMJKLU-60QDNzlLtDU=269) You're receiving this email because you signed up to receive communications from BDG Media. 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