Youâll Need $5200 More This Year to Live the Exact Same Life [Fatherly](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2F%3Futm_campaign=26017%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/1/0100017ffb426fb8-970b2d5a-d216-41fb-974f-329258301e23-000000/TaWN5VB-pspI__mngIo6pzEROWY=265) What do you wish you knew about your partner before having kids? Itâs a good question to ask, especially if youâre just starting to build your family. Posed to those who are knee-deep in parenting, the question reveals insight into areas of contention that mightâve been avoided if conversations were had earlier. And, as itâs easy to assume you know everything about your partner, the question can also help further shade them in. Understanding their thoughts about, say, discipline, family boundaries, and how their specific strengths and weaknesses slot into yours might not seem like things Present You need to know. But Future You, who has some more miles on the odometer? Heâll damn well appreciate it SELF %2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Flove-money%2Fwhat-i-wish-i-knew-about-my-partner-before-having-kids%2F%3Futm_campaign=26017%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/1/0100017ffb426fb8-970b2d5a-d216-41fb-974f-329258301e23-000000/KuM5ROK_PqEYPpLq9npQ15JLZfE=265 [What I Wish I Knew About My Partner Before Having Kids, according to 12 Men](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Flove-money%2Fwhat-i-wish-i-knew-about-my-partner-before-having-kids%2F%3Futm_campaign=26017%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/2/0100017ffb426fb8-970b2d5a-d216-41fb-974f-329258301e23-000000/uVj7PBnC137MLhJ6cBcICaHhMfc=265) As experienced fathers can attest, [asking these questions early will help you both in the long run.](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Flove-money%2Fwhat-i-wish-i-knew-about-my-partner-before-having-kids%2F%3Futm_campaign=26017%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/3/0100017ffb426fb8-970b2d5a-d216-41fb-974f-329258301e23-000000/waOWm1g3tfcctsT0A4-_QnL_sZg=265) [READ THE STORY](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Flove-money%2Fwhat-i-wish-i-knew-about-my-partner-before-having-kids%2F%3Futm_campaign=26017%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/4/0100017ffb426fb8-970b2d5a-d216-41fb-974f-329258301e23-000000/1Ez0DrOtvH2_ZnqNJKCk9xQgrag=265) TIPS AND TRICKS Ask Your Partner About What Brought Them Joy as a Child
When we asked a variety of relationship experts what questions the average person should know about their partner, this was a big one. Whether it was trips to the beach or board games, thereâs a strong pull to continue them. âThe past will show up in the present,â says Nedra Fetterman, a psychologist in Ardmore, Pennsylvania. âWe tend to repeat whatâs comfortable and familiar.â But you also want to answer the flip-side question, âWhat brought pain?â It could be overnight camp or long car rides, but the answer reveals trigger points and shame, and kids develop survival strategies like withdrawing, blaming, or looking to please. These are also helpful to know. Now, when asking such things, you donât want to unnecessarily âstep on that hot point,â as Michael S. Bishop, marriage and family therapist in Austin. But your spouseâs feelings could be interfering with the present. So rather than say, âGet over it,â go with, âI understand how hard it is, but we still need to â¦â Fetterman calls it the âTexas two-step.â By showing both empathy and boundaries, youâre offering strength and support. [Here are a few more questions you should be able to answer about your partner.](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Flove-money%2Fquestions-about-partner-you-should-be-able-to-answer%2F%3Futm_campaign=26017%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/1/0100017ffb426fb8-970b2d5a-d216-41fb-974f-329258301e23-000000/N9htAW2W3cnqA2wi2oPTDFkMrGg=265) FURTHER READING -
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[How to Ask Someone to Make a Big Change](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Flove-money%2Fask-someone-to-make-a-change-best-way%2F%3Futm_campaign=26017%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/1/0100017ffb426fb8-970b2d5a-d216-41fb-974f-329258301e23-000000/-6lNbZBsvo4_hXBT3l1-mhHbWdo=265) MONEY %2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fnews%2Finflation-rates-americans-budget%2F%3Futm_campaign=26017%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/1/0100017ffb426fb8-970b2d5a-d216-41fb-974f-329258301e23-000000/fFSmP8Ys_qN0y9goQ024Q_bGr_c=265 [Youâll Need $5200 More This Year to Live the Exact Same Life](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fnews%2Finflation-rates-americans-budget%2F%3Futm_campaign=26017%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/2/0100017ffb426fb8-970b2d5a-d216-41fb-974f-329258301e23-000000/E0CtTT2kPWJ4KCj4z-qBDWWm4Sc=265) Economists have estimated that the average U.S. household will be forced to spend $433 more a month this year [for the same things they bought in 2021.](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fnews%2Finflation-rates-americans-budget%2F%3Futm_campaign=26017%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/3/0100017ffb426fb8-970b2d5a-d216-41fb-974f-329258301e23-000000/_MNMiJFEj51hVZbS6PK8L9aa2G8=265) [READ THE STORY](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fnews%2Finflation-rates-americans-budget%2F%3Futm_campaign=26017%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/4/0100017ffb426fb8-970b2d5a-d216-41fb-974f-329258301e23-000000/TpL5aEnoW3mDvuE_E9_1j0WVzZY=265) PARENTING %2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fparenting%2Fpotty-training-at-night%2F%3Futm_campaign=26017%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/1/0100017ffb426fb8-970b2d5a-d216-41fb-974f-329258301e23-000000/w6BUmls7TU8x8AJ-UZ2yjx66QGU=265 [How to Succeed at Nighttime Potty Training](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fparenting%2Fpotty-training-at-night%2F%3Futm_campaign=26017%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/2/0100017ffb426fb8-970b2d5a-d216-41fb-974f-329258301e23-000000/D-hV13sXCT1RiDcRyjaCK0NNTos=265) [Hereâs what to remember.](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fparenting%2Fpotty-training-at-night%2F%3Futm_campaign=26017%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/3/0100017ffb426fb8-970b2d5a-d216-41fb-974f-329258301e23-000000/r5yVERWFmn64rbbDqtoFNrLZK0o=265) [READ THE STORY](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fparenting%2Fpotty-training-at-night%2F%3Futm_campaign=26017%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/4/0100017ffb426fb8-970b2d5a-d216-41fb-974f-329258301e23-000000/2sPgpvEUpTBURXavm8YnBioTg_o=265) FURTHER READING -
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