Never Ever Say “Maybe” to Your Kids

The Best Movies for Kids That Are Under 90 Minutes [Fatherly](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2F%3Futm_campaign=21710%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/1/0100017ef4d08aa4-2c237376-c9a6-4623-b1ee-8cf03f25fbc2-000000/hppWHlX4s2_1EeErhKjrAxxlBfk=257) Kids are constantly making requests. Some are easily answered: “Of course you can go play outside!” Others can be immediately dismissed: “No, you absolutely can’t have an alligator for a pet!” But there are some requests that require more thought because the outcomes are not readily apparent or fulfilling the request might be inconvenient or contingent on variables out of a parent’s control. That’s when we reach for the old standby: “Maybe.” We all say it. But, as it turns out, it’s doing more harm than good. PARENTING %2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fparenting%2Fnever-tell-your-kid-maybe%2F%3Futm_campaign=21710%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/1/0100017ef4d08aa4-2c237376-c9a6-4623-b1ee-8cf03f25fbc2-000000/72eOhahAo0cFuIi8NqqveCeGL70=257 [The Trouble with Telling Your Kids “Maybe”](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fparenting%2Fnever-tell-your-kid-maybe%2F%3Futm_campaign=21710%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/2/0100017ef4d08aa4-2c237376-c9a6-4623-b1ee-8cf03f25fbc2-000000/SuAE31_kDgKE4B_KfJGMfptTUwc=257) Uncertainty makes kids anxious, and parents look untrustworthy. [Maybe that’s a problem?](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fparenting%2Fnever-tell-your-kid-maybe%2F%3Futm_campaign=21710%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/3/0100017ef4d08aa4-2c237376-c9a6-4623-b1ee-8cf03f25fbc2-000000/ReXT21DfymdCGqgNenDpG3oCPmA=257) [READ THE STORY](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fparenting%2Fnever-tell-your-kid-maybe%2F%3Futm_campaign=21710%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/4/0100017ef4d08aa4-2c237376-c9a6-4623-b1ee-8cf03f25fbc2-000000/Vkli5raxhoNyNEJ8-hDKBGUDzVE=257) TIPS AND TRICKS 5 Things to Say to Your Kids Instead of “Maybe” 1) Straight Negation: “No. Because …” Make sure to provide reasons that are consistent with family rules and values 2) Straight Affirmation: “Yes.” But make sure that whatever is being agreed to happens within a reasonable time. Right after the request is best, but if that doesn’t work offer a deadline. 3) Affirmation, With Strings: “Yes, but …” Whether the contingency is completing or engaging in certain behavior make sure a kid has goals and a clear path to achieving them 4) The Delay Due to Outside Circumstances: “I will make a decision about this when…” Just make sure delayed decisions connected to needed information have a deadline and it’s clear what needs to be known. 5) The Delay Because You Need More Time: “I will answer after …” Be clear about when an answer can be expected. Make it sooner than later and stick with your timeline. 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