What to Do When You Don’t Trust Your Spouse

Plus, What to Do When Your Screaming Kid Makes a Scene in Public ADVERTISEMENT [18YKBanner]( [Fatherly_Seahorse]( Trust is hard to earn and easy to lose. This is especially true when you are sharing responsibilities with someone — raising children, taking care of financial assets, and looking out for each other’s emotions. But people slip up, trust wanes, and struggles arise. Just like love, trust requires hard work, good communication, and renewed connection. It’s all part of building a healthy marriage and family. So who do you really, truly trust? If your answer is not immediately “my partner,” you have some work to do. RELATIONSHIPS [18artcle1]( [What Building Trust in a Marriage Requires]( Trust takes work. [This is how you build it.]( [READ THE STORY]( [bottomquote-psd] It’s not just about getting rid of the nastiness you feel, but replacing it to build back the good stuff that was originally there, the reason you were in the relationship to begin with. [bottomquote-psd] — Loren Toussaint, PhD, professor of psychology at Luther College on [the true purpose of forgiveness.]( FURTHER READING - [The 6 Steps of the Perfect Apology]( - ​​​​​[What Parents Should Know About Forcing Kids to Say Sorry]( - [How to Stop Arguing About the Same Thing Again and Again]( ADVERTISEMENT [18YKidInclusion]( PARENTING [18article2]( [What to Do When Your Screaming Kid Makes a Scene in Public]( Noisy kids can be irritating, [but a parent’s relationship with their child is more important than other people’s judgments.]( [READ THE STORY]( TIPS AND TRICKS How to Discipline a Toddler If your kid isn’t developmentally ready for discipline, it’s not his or her fault. The point of discipline, says parenting expert Catherine Pearlman, author of the book Ignore It!, is behavioral training — creating consequences to prevent actions from happening repeatedly. If the child is as yet unable to mentally link the consequence to the action, you’re just screaming into the void and your child isn’t sure why. Instead, Pearlman recommends redirection. If your kid won’t stop throwing a toy, take the toy away. If that infuriates your little darling (it will) regale them with silly voices. “They don’t need to be punished at that age, they just need to stop doing what they’re doing,” Pearlman says. [Here is some more expert insight into how and when to discipline a toddler.]( READ WATCH LISTEN [READ]( [WATCH]( [LISTEN]( • READ • Frog and Toad are Doing Their Best Based on Arnold Lobel’s classic children’s series, this is a whip-smart delight that originally appeared online — [and it’s something all parents can relate to.]( • WATCH • Rami Malek’s 4 Best Moments Hosting SNL The Oscar-winning actor showed off his comedy chops in the best episode of the season so far. [Come for the Bond Villain’s monologue, stay for the skit where he auditions to play Prince.]( • LISTEN • To the Top 20 Halloween Songs According to Spotify data, these are the most popular spooky tunes. [Surprisingly, ‘Thriller’ didn’t take the top spot.]( WE WROTE A BOOK! [5article2]( [Get ‘Fatherhood’ Now!]( We’re proud to present Fatherhood, a parenting book that focuses on dad without assuming he’s a hapless dummy (because, he’s not). Divided between three practically and emotionally challenging stages of parenting — birth, infancy and toddlerhood — the book is full of expert driven advice on parenting, with over 900 studies and 20 quoted experts on topics from family values (Dr. John Defrain tells you how to develop them) to discipline (Berkley’s Dr. Celeste Kidd explains why it’s more about parents) and roughhousing (Bareknuckle Boxing Champ Ulysses “The Monster” Diaz on how he does it). For the newer parents, there are also more practical skills like dressing, feeding, burping, swaddling, and packing a diaper bag. This is a book that a dude will return to again and again. Pre-order it now for you or a friend and get the first copies on November 9. [BUY NOW]( TALK TO US Have a question? Comment? Want to tell us a no-good terrible story? Or a helpful parenting tip? We want to hear from you (and yes, we may publish your response in an article or forthcoming newsletter). Send your thoughts to [hello@fatherly.com](mailto:hello@fatherly.com?subject=Fatherly%20Newsletter%20Feedback). ADVERTISEMENT [18YKBanner]( [FATHERLY_LOGO]( [FB]( [IG]( [Twitter]( [View this email in your browser]( Some Spider Studios 20 W 22nd St Floor 3 New York, NY 10010-5858 You can [manage your preferences or unsubscribe]( here. Copyright © 2021 Some Spider, All rights reserved. [Link](