What to Do When You’re Feeling Resentment

Plus, Could Nature Cure ADHD? Attention Restoration Theory Says Yes. [Fatherly_Seahorse]( Resenting your husband or resenting your wife is an unfortunate reality of every relationship. Whether you think your partner is coasting by while you do all the work, not respecting you as an equal, or just driving you mad with their loud chewing, sources of resentment aren’t hard to come by. But just because the emotion feels unavoidable doesn’t mean the negative repercussions have to be. This is what to do when you feel resentment starting to fester. RELATIONSHIPS [resenting-partner]( [What to Do When You Start Resenting Your Spouse, According to 5 Therapists]( Resentment is the silent killer of relationships. [This is how to deal with it in a healthy way.]( [READ THE STORY]( TIPS AND TRICKS Want to Get Rid of Resentment Once and For All? Start By Admitting You’re Still Bothered That’s right. This can be hard, as it’s common to believe you’re shrewd and unshakable. But one of life’s incontrovertible facts is that you can do everything correctly and bad stuff happens. “Suppressing and pretending it isn’t there isn’t the answer,” says Alane K. Daugherty, co-founder of the Mind and Heart Lab at Cal Poly Pomona and author of Unstressed. The next part is asking, “What’s really upsetting?” and understanding that it’s never the easy answer. It might appear that it’s being fired or lied to, and those can sting, but with some excavation, you might discover a deeper sore spot, like feeling unworthy or a fear of never measuring up. Once you get to the root of the problem you can begin the real work of ridding your resentment. [Here are a few more tips for how to let go of resentment once and for all.]( FURTHER READING - [How to Let Go of Resentment, Once and For All]( - [​​​​​The One Piece of Marriage Advice Every Couple Should Know]( - [Yes, You Should Prioritize Your Marriage Over the Kids]( - [Why Good Men Are Bad to Their Families]( WELL MADE [12dr.infrared-patio-heater]( [Heated Seat Cushion by ActionHeat]( Whether you’re sitting on the sideline of your kid’s game or tailgating with some friends in the cold, it’s nice to have a warm place to rest your cheeks. Fully charged, the 16x14-inch seat cranks at 130 degrees for about two hours when set to high. You get medium and low heat too, which means you can eke out about five hours at a still toasty 105 degrees. The 2 1/2-inch-thick foam cushion is wrapped in a water-resistant shell so morning dew on the bleachers won't be a problem, either. [BUY NOW]( PARENTING [nature-adhd]( [Could Nature Cure ADHD? Attention Restoration Theory Says Yes.]( Attention Restoration Theory (ART) is suggesting a future of ADHD treatment [requiring little more than exposure to nature.]( [READ THE STORY]( TIPS AND TRICKS What to Remember When Disciplining a Child with ADHD Because ADHD children are typically emotionally hypersensitive and prone to volatile reactions, it’s natural for parents to worry that the type of discipline they might use with another child will only escalate the problem with a neurodiverse kid. Surprisingly, most experts advise sticking to your guns when it comes to correcting inappropriate behavior, regardless of whether or not your child has ADHD. Because of their hypersensitivity, however, it’s paramount that any corrections you give be done in a soft but firm voice: ADHD kids may react to even the slightest sound of anger. And as you should with all kids, focus on conveying that a particular behavior is inappropriate, not that your child is bad for doing it. [Here are some more strategies for disciplining children with ADHD]( ENTERTAINMENT [krysten-ritter]( [Krysten Ritter Gets Witchy for Netflix, Is Ready to Return as 'Jessica Jones' Our favorite]( [The 'Breaking Bad' alum spoke to Fatherly about getting witchy for her new show “Nightbooks”, motherhood, and the possibility of revisiting the Marvel Cinematic Universe.]( [READ THE STORY]( TALK TO US Have a question? Comment? Want to tell us a no-good terrible story? Or a helpful parenting tip? We want to hear from you (and yes, we may publish your response in an article or forthcoming newsletter). Send your thoughts to [hello@fatherly.com](mailto:hello@fatherly.com?subject=Fatherly%20Newsletter%20Feedback). [FATHERLY_LOGO]( [FB]( [IG]( [Twitter]( [View this email in your browser]( Some Spider Studios 20 W 22nd St Floor 3 New York, NY 10010-5858 You can [manage your preferences or unsubscribe]( here. Copyright © 2021 Some Spider, All rights reserved. [Link](