Sex and Happiness

Plus, How to Express Happiness [Fatherly_Seahorse]( Want to be a little bit better in bed? Who doesn’t? Even if your sex life is the stuff that songs and sonnets are written about, it’s not a bad idea to brush up on the fundamentals. Because, chances are, there’s advice to remember. About technique, sure. But also about emotional intimacy and closeness outside of the bedroom. All are worth keeping in mind. SEX [19sex-tips-men-1]( [24 Ways to Be a Little Better in Bed]( Good sex life? Good for you! [Now, make it great.]( [READ THE STORY]( [bottomquote-psd] A sex script ... gives you a sense of a structure that you can drop into, that you don’t have to worry about, that you don’t have to think about. It’s like a nice drive that you know how to take. [bottomquote-psd] — Dr. Ian Kerner, renowned sex therapist and author on how create a “sex script” that works to help spice things up for you and your partner. Here’s [how to create one that works for you.]( FURTHER READING - [How to Have Amazing Sex with a Middle-Aged Woman, According to Middle Aged Women]( - ​​​​​[How a Couple’s Sex Life Changes When Trying to Get Pregnant]( - [The Best Sex Positions For Parents]( WELL MADE [19trail-2650-hiking-shoe]( [Trail 2650 Hiking Shoe by Danner]( Looking for a nice pair of fall hiking shoes? This Danner Trail 2650 is rugged and sporty enough to wear with jeans or pants, and comfy enough that you'll keep reaching for them. They also happen to be a very solid pair of trail shoes for any day-long trip you have in mind. Just check the weather first — they aren't waterproof. [BUY NOW]( HAPPINESS [19how-to-be-happy-web]( [How to Express Happiness]( Feeling happy is one thing. Expressing it is another altogether. [But if you understand how to do it without coming off as smug, you'll reap serious rewards.]( [READ THE STORY]( TIPS AND TRICKS 3 Phrases a Happy Couple Never Says to Each Other You know not to say any of these. But it helps to be reminded. “Grow up!” This is a belittling phrase, but it also operates on the assumption that you are in the right and your partner is wrong, adding an element of invalidation as well. In short, assumes that however they are feeling is childish or wrong. A big mistake. “This is your fault.” Whenever something goes wrong, there’s a natural instinct to try and figure out what happened and why. This tends to lead to the assignation of blame, and most people’s first instinct is not to point the finger at themselves. However, if you start laying it all at your partner’s feet, then all you are doing is fostering resentment and anger. “I wish I never listened to you.” Everyone makes mistakes. Everyone makes poor choices. But it’s important not to castigate your partner when a decision leads to an unfortunate outcome. At the end of the day, you both made the decision jointly, even if your partner may have persuaded you. By saying this, you are invalidating them and making them feel worthless and as though their thoughts and ideas are not worth considering. Here are some other [phrases you should be sure to avoid.]( Q&A [19laura-dern]( [Laura Dern Is Taking On the Vape Industry to Save Our Kids]( Our favorite 'Jurassic' hero talks to Fatherly about raising teenagers, the big lessons she wants to teach her kids, and her school anti-vaping campaign. [READ THE STORY]( [bottomquote-psd] I want [my daughter] to learn from me how to stand up for your voice, how to advocate for others, how to find your passion, and follow it with everything. [bottomquote-psd] TALK TO US Have a question? Comment? Want to tell us a no-good terrible story? Or a helpful parenting tip? We want to hear from you (and yes, we may publish your response in an article or forthcoming newsletter). Send your thoughts to [hello@fatherly.com](mailto:hello@fatherly.com?subject=Fatherly%20Newsletter%20Feedback). [FATHERLY_LOGO]( [FB]( [IG]( [Twitter]( [View this email in your browser]( Some Spider Studios 20 W 22nd St Floor 3 New York, NY 10010-5858 You can [manage your preferences or unsubscribe]( here. Copyright © 2021 Some Spider, All rights reserved. [Link](