Fake It Until You Make It

Guess what? In some sense, we’re all faking it until we make it. That’s the gig. November 12, 2020 Today's Issue: Fake it Until you make it Our best parenting advice? [Fake it until you make it.]( Here's [how to recover from burnout]( and chronic work stress. This is [the hardest apology I ever had to give]( my wife. We spoke to Vince Vaughan about [running a schoolhouse, playing a teenager, and the enduring power of 'Swingers.']( Here's how to [trick yourself into saving more money.]( This will be [the most exciting Disney+ release]( of 2021. Ever feel like, well, you’re just winging this whole parenting thing? Join the club. That’s something a lot of parents can relate to at one time or another. Raising kids throws too many situations thrown at one person to really make them 100-percent confident in their ability all the time. Show us a man who has never doubted his parenting skills, and we’ll bring a fire extinguisher. Because his khakis are definitely on fire. But for anyone who feels unqualified in their role as a parent, who has a lingering sense that, at any moment, someone’s going to tap them on the shoulder and say, “Hey buddy, the jig is up,” it’s smart to take action to rid yourself of that feeling, also known as imposter syndrome. Because guess what? In some sense, we’re all faking it until we make it. That’s the gig. “When we find ourselves faced with any significant new challenge, we can have doubts that make us feel like we don’t belong or like we’re not up to the task,” clinical therapist Paul Greene, PhD, told Fatherly. “Parenting in particular is fertile ground for imposter syndrome because it’s the biggest responsibility most people have. Imposter syndrome tends to rear its head when we’re trying to do something that feels consequential or impressive to us. And what could be more consequential than raising a child?” One way to help avoid this gnawing feeling? Talk to your partner. Praise their efforts. Give them reassurance and ask them to do the same for you. And you both would do well to set reasonable, realistic expectations for one another. Everyone’s going through a hell of a lot right now. The last thing we need is to be our own worst enemy. [parentimposter-header]( Love & Money [Imposter Syndrome Makes Parents Feel Unqualified. Here’s How to Fight it.]( Ever feel like you're faking your way through parenting? You're not alone. Here's why the feeling strikes — and how you can defeat it for good. [Read More]( ADVERTISEMENT [Learn more about RevenueStripe...]( [burnout]( Love & MOney [How to Recover From Burnout and Chronic Work Stress, According to a Psychologist]( Feeling burnt out (who's not?). Here's how you can get yourself back to normal. [Read More]( [hardestsorry-sm]( Love & Money [The Hardest Apology I Ever Had to Give to My Wife]( Apologies are essential to the health of any relationship, but some sorries are harder to give than others. Here, 13 husbands share the most difficult one they ever had to give — and why it was so hard. [Read More]( [vince-vaughn]( News [Vince Vaughn On Running a Schoolhouse, Playing a Teenager, and the Enduring Power of ‘Swingers’]( That guy you loved in 'Swingers' and who just returned for the comedy-horror 'Freaky,' tells us why he's running a school house. [Read More]( [unnamed]( Love & Money [Trick Yourself Into Saving More Money With This Psychological Tactic]( In this edition of "Bank of Dad" our columnist tackles the age-old question: how the hell can I get better at saving money? [Read More]( [wandavision-black-and-white-disney]( Play [‘WandaVision’ Disney+ Release Date Means 2021 Is Going to Be Great]( The hotly anticipated Marvel series will ring in the new New Year. [Read More]( ADVERTISEMENT [Learn more about RevenueStripe...]( ADVERTISEMENT [Learn more about RevenueStripe...]( Not subscribed to Fatherly? [Sign up here](. [ADVERTISE WITH US 394 Broadway, 2nd Floor | New York, NY 10013]( Add today@mail.fatherly.com to your safe-sender list so our emails get to your inbox. [Manage Email Preferences]( [|]( [View in browser](