Brain Food: Kind vs. Nice

FS | BRAIN FOOD No. 469 — April 24, 2022 — [Read on FS]() Welcome to Sunday Brain Food: a weekly newsletter full of ideas and insights that never expire. FS “You can tell how good someone is at making decisions by how much time they have. Busy people spend a lot of time correcting poor decisions, so they don’t have time to make good decisions. Good decisions need good thinking, and that requires time.” → [How to Think]() TKP Podcast “Another thing that’s very important to me is kindness, and kindness over niceness. The easiest example I can give is that a kind person will tell you, you have spinach in your teeth and a nice person won’t because it’s uncomfortable, right? But the kind person is going to set you up for a much better rest of your day because you’re not running around with spinach in your teeth.” Sarah Jones Simmer joins me on The Knowledge Project. We dive into her experience scaling Bumble, hiring T shaped people, female-led companies, fundraising, setting boundaries, and how she learned to re-focus on what matters. → Listen on [FS](=) (with show notes), [Apple Podcasts](=), [Spotify](=), watch on [YouTube](=), or [read the transcript](=). Insight "They laugh at me because I'm different; I laugh at them because they're all the same." — often attributed to Kurt Cobain Tiny Thought There is a rule that has helped me put failures and victories into their proper perspectives. The 24-hour rule states that you turn the page every day. No matter what. You can celebrate or cry but tomorrow you turn the page. Tomorrow is a new day. We all know the person at the office that hangs on to the past. They remind of us of the project they worked on 10 years ago that was a success. Or they let a temporary defeat turn into a permanent one. They are anchored to the past and it prevents them from seeing the future. Learn from the past but don’t hang on to it. Yesterday is irrelevant. ([Share this Tiny Thought on Twitter]()) Explore Your Curiosity "All of this pretending and performing—these coping mechanisms that you’ve developed to protect yourself from feeling inadequate and getting hurt—has to go. Your armor is preventing you from growing into your gifts. I understand that you needed these protections when you were small. I understand that you believed your armor could help you secure all of the things you needed to feel worthy and lovable, but you’re still searching and you’re more lost than ever. Time is growing short. There are unexplored adventures ahead of you. You can’t live the rest of your life worried about what other people think. You were born worthy of love and belonging. Courage and daring are coursing through your veins. You were made to live and love with your whole heart. It’s time to show up and be seen." [Link]( "When our public square is governed by mob dynamics unrestrained by due process, we don’t get justice and inclusion; we get a society that ignores context, proportionality, mercy, and truth.” [Link]() Sponsored by MarketerHire Stay safe, — Shane P.S. Running up [walls]() (and the physics [behind it](=)). Free Version You're getting the Free version. Members get so much more. [Upgrade]( = Overwhelmed by email? No need to unsubscribe. [Try a 30 day break](). You won't get any emails from us for 30 days. [Update your profile]( to change your email address or [unsubscribe from everything](. 201-854 Bank Street, Ottawa, ON K1S 3W3