The paradox of sexual power

Driving a sharp 250% drop in frequency [Image](https://) Greetings Everyday Spy, You've been told a big lie about men and women and sex. Sex isn't about being a man or a woman. It's about being human. Men don't see sex as a game to win. Women don't see sex as a forever thing. These ideas about sex aren't based on science. They come from TV, movies, and the internet. For 160 years, scientists have been learning about sex. But people started having sex long before we started understanding it. What you believe about sex comes from how you were raised. Most Americans think: - Sex is about showing love between two people. - Not having sex before marriage is healthy. - Sex is only natural between a man and a woman. Science has shown that these beliefs are not true. They all make one big mistake about human sexuality - 'desire.' I've been lucky to have caring sexual partners. And my wife likes to learn about sex, too. When I started CIA training, I learned about what really motivates humans. I was surprised that 'sex' wasn't one of these motivations. But movies and books put sex at the center of everything! Sex isn't a core motivation because it's not a 'desire' - it's a 'drive.' The difference between 'desire' and 'drive' is big in psychology. Desire happens when we need something we don't have. Like money, confidence, or fun. Drive happens when something makes us want to do things. Like staying alive, being hungry, or being curious. Our culture treats sex like a desire, but it's really a drive. In 1958, a scientist named Karl Pribram said there are 4 basic drives for humans. These drives give us endless energy to reach our goals. They are: feeding, running away, fighting, and sex. Pribram found that every feeling and action we have comes from one of these 4 drives. For example, my wife and I were once bothered by a homeless man in Tampa, FL while we were out on a date night. When he yelled at us and waved his arms, I wanted to fight. My wife wanted to run away. After that, she was upset and I wanted to help her feel better. She was driven by feeding. I was driven by sex (in the form of helping - keep reading...). Our 'desire' for a nice date didn't help us when the man bothered us. And it didn't make us feel better after. We were 'driven' by the four drives. Driven to act differently based on who we are, but driven anyway. And of all 4 drives, it was the sex drive that made me want to care for and comfort my wife. Your sex drive isn't just about wanting sex - its greatest power comes from helping others. Consider this different perspective: The Mangaian tribe sees sex as an energy source - a 'drive.' They know sex is good for making babies and connecting with others. But their culture teaches that the most important part of sex is using it to help others. The Mangaians learned that helping others with sex can give you endless focus, new ideas, courage, and strength. The greatest power from sex comes from helping - helping your partner, your community, and your family. Most Americans choose one sexual partner at a time. But that's not true everywhere. No matter how many partners you have, you get more power by making them feel good than by them making you feel good. Just like it's more rewarding to help your community and family than to let them help you. The way Americans think about sex has trapped them. This happens when you're trying to get power, which makes you lose the power you have. When sex is treated like a desire, you use up energy and time trying to feel good. But you never feel as good as you want because you have to keep using more energy and time to have more sex. That's the trap of sex. Spies use their sex drive to help others - in the bedroom and in their work. We always try to learn about what our partners like. We see our sex drive as something that makes us strong, not ashamed. And because of that... We have a kind of human connection and energy that others can't have. Because they are trapped by what society or culture tells them. There is an old Hindu story about the Goddess Kali killing a demon that was thought to be impossible to beat. In old paintings, she is covered in blood with many arms holding weapons and the heads of her enemy. But in her rage to kill, she stepped on her husband - Lord Shiva. Blinded by her power, the Goddess didn't see her lover until he was hurt under her feet. When she realized what she did, she stuck out her tongue in shame. She found herself trapped - and she was embarrassed. [Your sex drive gives you amazing power to build,,]( but also to destroy. Learn to use your sexuality to make others feel good. You will be surprised by how good they make you feel in return - as partners and friends. If you want to learn how spies use sex to make their partners feel good, stay tuned for my next article! Godspeed, #EverydaySpy P.S. Sex & Spies shows you how to [massively boost the quality of your sex with science-backed intel about your human sex drive.]( These are the tactics few - if any - outside of intel agencies ever take advantage of. Andrew Bustamante, Founder of EverydaySpy.com, is a former covert CIA Intelligence officer, decorated US Air Force Combat Veteran, and respected Fortune 500 senior advisor. Learn more from Andrew on his Podcast (The Everyday Espionage Podcast) and by following @EverydaySpy on your favorite social media platform. This email was sent to {EMAIL}. Don't want to receive these emails anymore? [Unsubscribe]( EverydaySpy, 411 Walnut St. #20309, Green Cove Springs, FL 32043