Inside My Complicated Marriage

A lament and an ode to the 50-something man in my house. [View in Browser]( [Esquire Sunday Reads]( My Aging Husband I have a man in my house, and he’s been aging for a long time now—I want to say 50-odd years. In my understanding, this aging process was supposed to refine all of his flavors, making him more robust yet more patient, more tenacious yet more caring. And while I have observed a notable uptick in tenderness and affection, I was under the impression, based on the novels I’ve read and the movies I’ve seen, that he’d become increasingly independent and bold and courageous over time. This has not been my experience with the man in my house. While I enjoy and treasure this man very much, lately he’s seemed to dislike rapid changes in temperature. He has a minor foot injury that he updates me on daily instead of, say, boarding a nuclear submarine in search of spies. The man in my house is losing his hair, but he says the Rogaine he bought is “too sticky.” To be fair, this man looks good with or without hair. But when I mention the countless painful treatments I’ve used to maintain my girlish good looks, my man no comprende—a verb he would understand if he learned Spanish as he’s been threatening to do for more than a decade. I don’t mean to suggest that this man is lazy. Quite the opposite! He just has so many goals. Sometimes I think the goals themselves are the problem. He’s trying to do too much! It’s as if years of adult responsibilities have finally caught up to him, and now, instead of feeling daunted by, say, a battalion of assassins, he’s undone by a teenager with too much homework. [Read the Full Story]( [MORE FROM ESQUIRE]( Ben Stiller Sees the World Differently Now Ben Stiller had achieved all the success a person could want, and more. 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Elden Ring is a Masterpiece. I am 50 hours into Elden Ring. While I was writing this review, all I wanted to do was play more Elden Ring. By now, you’ve already heard that FromSoftware's ultra-anticipated, open-world fantasy epic—with a story by Game of Thrones scribe George R. R. Martin, no less—is a masterpiece. And it is. Mark my words: Elden Ring will join games such as Smash Bros., Breath of the Wild, Grand Theft Auto, and Dark Souls as points of comparison for every one of its imitators over the next decade. But you wont understand just how stunning Elden Ring is until you play it. So if you’re still reading this (instead of going to play the game by whatever means necessary), read on for a spoiler-free review of Elden Ring. Just know every moment you waste reading my silly little review is a moment you could be memorizing spells, or finding treasure, or getting your ass handed to you by one of the most horrific monstrosities you'll ever see. 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The event was reported in the local paper in Alliance, Ohio, dispassionately listing the usual things that are printed when a beloved member of a community dies: where she worked, who she is survived by, and details about where the celebration of her life would be held. Nothing was mentioned about the infamous pictures that she appeared in as part of a series for Life magazine, an event that would alter the course of her family forever. Nothing was said about the struggle she had faced for years trying to find money for college. And nothing certainly was mentioned about the time her mother’s dreams were put on hold after being fired from her job for participating in the magazine spread. Instead, niceties appeared in her small hometown paper and the death of the little girl in her Sunday best standing alongside her aunt outside of a “Colored Only” entrance in 1956 was ignored by the national media. 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