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Not "No, thanks." Not "nope." Just "No." Clear, unambiguous, empowering "No." But not in a mean way. [View in Browser]( [Esquire Sunday Reads]( How to Tell People "No." Yes suggests pleasure. It wants something. Salesmen train themselves to use yes at the beginning of a sentence, no matter what, which is why when you say it enough, the word yes starts to feel like a con. But no is cold and heavy. It puts an end to things. In that way, it is a word of control. Its very use suggests a speaker who actually knows something, who won't bend, who won't give in to what you want simply because you want it. No says the case has not been made. Cops use it. Operators use it. Good teachers, too. I'd always wanted to be a guy who simply said no. So that's what I did for a month. Whenever I didn't want to do something, I didn't hesitate, didn't explain. I just said no. I didn't say it more often than usualâthis was not a diet. I was just going to say no. Not "Hell no." Or "No way." Or "Nope. Sorry." Just "No." I was going to change this one behavior, my own tendency to elaborate, to explain, to set the record straight when turning people down, when risking the disappointment of others, just to see what it changed in the equation of influence. [Read the Full Story]( [MORE FROM ESQUIRE]( The Worldâs Most Daring Mountaineer on What It Takes: âIf You Give Up, You Dieâ Within the first 21 minutes of Netflixâs recent documentary 14 Peaks: Nothing Is Impossible, you witness the following: a man declares he will climb all of the worldâs mountains with summits above 8,000 meters in the space of seven months. He climbs the first, which turns out to be a ferocious deathtrap by the name of Annapurna, and descends to basecamp only to learn a climber from another group was lost on the mountain. He promptly helicopters out with his team to climb again and reach the oxygen-deprived man, bringing him down just in time to save his life. 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Simply put, theyâre declarative badges of honor, confirming that every doubled-over expression of pain, every gruesome concussion and bloody laceration, and every burst of vomit and explosion of fecal matter, is the real outrageous deal. [Read the Full Story]( The Thirteenth Day The great ship rolled magnificently on over the waves until the shore receded from sight and the clamoring gulls along with it, and Amanita and I clicked glasses again while I wished her a felicitous fortieth wedding anniversary, even as the shipâs captain was receiving the command over the radio to return to port. And why? Because it had been discovered that one of the passengersâa man from Wuhanâhad come down with a fever. Can you say COVID-19? I can. And Iâve said it all too many times since that first day. I canât help thinking that the term sounds more like some version of linoleum tiling you might install in the kitchen than a contagious disease that could burn through the world of humanity and force a ship as unconquerable as the Beryl Empress to become a floating prison. [Read the Full Story]( The Rise of Elevated Stupidity Stupidity is saying two plus two equals five. Elevated Stupidity is doing the same thing, except you invoke Pythagoras, decry cancel culture when someone corrects you, then get a seven-figure book deal and a speaking tour out of it. Elevated Stupidity has permeated all facets of lifeâreality TV, social media, Congress, your group chat, and your softball team. Elevated Stupidity stems from the idea that being good at arguing is the same thing as being correct. That rhetorical skillâor at least a degree of big debate-club energy sufficient to wear out oneâs opponentâis the equivalent of intelligence. 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