The Reluctant Man’s Guide to Therapy

Therapists may be trained to help us with our emotional problems, but they have just as many themselves—and that’s at the best of times. [View in Browser]( [Alternate text] [SHOP]( EXCLUSIVE [SUBSCRIBE]( [The Reluctant Man’s Guide to Starting Therapy]( [The Reluctant Man’s Guide to Starting Therapy]( By now you know it's okay—healthy!—to talk about your feelings. But do you know it's okay—and encouraged, by us, in this story—to pay someone to listen to a weekly (or twice-monthly or thrice-weekly) spelunking through your psyche? Probably not, if the numbers are any indication: Men are half as likely as women to seek help for their mental well-being. That's true not just here in 'Murica—that's true around the globe, across races and ethnicities and ages. We're emotional escape artists, masters at avoiding our inner discomfort. Some of us hoover drugs and alcohol, seek thrills through bad behavior, withdraw from the world. But the common narrative leaves out a few crucial details. The research shows that men do want to heal, we do accept help, and we do share our fears and doubts and moments of darkness. We just prefer to do it on our own terms, and—here's where it gets tricky—we often don't know how to articulate what those terms are. So, to all you therapy skeptics, you on-the-fencers, and you true believers alike: Join us as we knuckle-drag our way on this fifteen-step tour across the therapeutic landscape. [Read More]( [The 10 Best Bluetooth Shower Speakers for Blasting Your Music]( [The 10 Best Bluetooth Shower Speakers for Blasting Your Music]( Because showering without a soundtrack is unthinkable. [Read More]( [So You Want to Read 'Dune.' Here's How to Tackle the Series in Order.]( [So You Want to Read 'Dune.' Here's How to Tackle the Series in Order.]( 21 novels with no obvious road map. Let's dive in! [Read More]( [How to Feel Normal]( [How to Feel Normal]( There has been a change in my life that is massive and boring, miraculous and quotidian. After decades of failing, flailing, and frustration, I am on medication and in therapy for ADHD. My brain is finally beginning to work properly, and the biggest breakthrough is the smallest: now I rinse the last dish. [Read More]( [Good Bedding Is Crucial. These Are Our 20 Favorite Places to Buy It.]( [Good Bedding Is Crucial. These Are Our 20 Favorite Places to Buy It.]( These brands have the best stuff—from featherlight linen to organic cotton to sweat-proof duvets. [Read More]( [Why More Men Are Reading Romance Novels]( [Why More Men Are Reading Romance Novels]( They can revitalize your sex life, leading to some good, not-so-clean fun. [Read More]( [Shooting Contests, Love Triangles, and Feuds: Inside Ernest Hemingway's Years As An Esquire Writer]( [Shooting Contests, Love Triangles, and Feuds: Inside Ernest Hemingway's Years As An Esquire Writer]( Ernest Hemingway was many things: an acclaimed writer, a once-in-a-generation talent, a global celebrity, and, according to Esquire founding editor Arnold Gingrich, “one of the best friends this magazine ever had.” Beginning with the magazine’s first issue in October 1933, Hemingway contributed to Esquire for many years, making the up-and-coming publication the home of some of his best-known works, including “The Snows of Kilimanjaro” and the short essay that would later become The Old Man and the Sea. Occasioned by the release of Hemingway, Ken Burns and Lynn Novick’s new PBS documentary, Hemingway has come back into the spotlight, as has his long partnership with Esquire, then an upstart magazine that grew into a literary powerhouse thanks in no small part to Hemingway’s influence. [Read More]( [Join Esquire The Select for $40/Year. Learn More!]( Follow Us [Unsubscribe]( | [Privacy Notice/Notice at Collection]( esquire.com ©2022 Hearst Magazine Media, Inc. All Rights Reserved. Hearst Magazines, 300 West 57th Street, New York, NY 10019