What Happens When Your Therapist Dies?

Therapy sometimes runs its course, and in the fall of 2017 we had our last session. He looked unchanged from that first meeting. Newly divorced, he’d soon leave New York for the country life he’d always wanted. He offered to extend our working relationship—which, I felt, had long ago waned in its efficacy, fortified instead by its continuity and his reliability. I declined. He smiled and reminded me of the skinny, energetic guy who walked into his office 21 years before. Then, the way a father might, he listed all the ways in which I’d grown up. He knew more about me than anyone in the world. Then all that information, context, data, vanished forever. [View in Browser]( [Esquire]( [SHOP]( EXCLUSIVE [SUBSCRIBE]( [What Happens When Your Longtime Therapist Dies?]( [What Happens When Your Longtime Therapist Dies?]( Therapy sometimes runs its course, and in the fall of 2017 we had our last session. He looked unchanged from that first meeting. Newly divorced, he’d soon leave New York for the country life he’d always wanted. He offered to extend our working relationship—which, I felt, had long ago waned in its efficacy, fortified instead by its continuity and his reliability. I declined. He smiled and reminded me of the skinny, energetic guy who walked into his office 21 years before. Then, the way a father might, he listed all the ways in which I’d grown up. He knew more about me than anyone in the world. Then all that information, context, data, vanished forever. [Read More](   [The 10 Best New Balance Sneakers You Can Buy on Amazon]( [The 10 Best New Balance Sneakers You Can Buy on Amazon]( Shoe shopping has never been so easy. [Read More]( [The Unforgettable Power of Anna Sawai]( [The Unforgettable Power of Anna Sawai]( As Mariko on FX’s Shōgun, the actress put together one of the year’s most awe-striking performances. [Read More](     [Jeans That Look Classic and Cool for Guys of Any Age]( [Jeans That Look Classic and Cool for Guys of Any Age]( We are living through a Great Pants Upheaval. Circa 2020, the cool kids chucked their skinny trousers and embraced voluminous pants. Amid this upheaval, the question you are probably asking yourself is, what kind of pants should I wear? Some people might tell you that’s a personal question. Those people are cowards. Here’s the answer: You should wear Buck Mason’s Japanese Loomstate Selvedge Full Saddle Jeans. [Read More](   [The Cowboy Boots We Love]( [The Cowboy Boots We Love]( There's a reason we keep coming back to Tecovas. [Read More]( [Supreme Court Is Apparently Fine with the Assault on the First Amendment That Is Mckesson v. Doe]( [Supreme Court Is Apparently Fine with the Assault on the First Amendment That Is Mckesson v. Doe]( This one comes out of the Fifth Circuit Court of Appeals, the federal judiciary’s primary petri dish for growing really bad ideas. [Read More](     [Shōgun Episode 9 Is the Best TV Episode of the Year]( [Shōgun Episode 9 Is the Best TV Episode of the Year]( It’s rare that a TV character’s death truly surprises me. I’ve witnessed tons of well-written deaths, sure, as well as endings for characters that I didn’t see coming. But to really shock me? It’s no easy feat. (I watch TV for a living, people.) And yet! Shōgun’s body count continues to put my jaw on the floor. So imagine my delight when episode 9—which I’ll outright say is the best TV episode of the year so far—left me stunned once again. [Read More](   [ESQ Membership]( [LiveIntent Logo]( [AdChoices Logo]( [How satisfied are you with the content of this newsletter?]( Follow Us [Unsubscribe]( | [Privacy Notice]( | [CA Notice at Collection]( Esquire is a publication of Hearst Magazines. ©2024 Hearst Magazine Media, Inc. All Rights Reserved. This email was sent by Hearst Magazines, 300 West 57th Street, New York, NY 10019-3779