Allowing Others To Be

  [View Online]( INSPIRATION [Allowing Others To Be]( People that want to control others are, at the core, consumed with their own fears and projecting those fears onto others. We all know what it’s like to want to be in control. In some ways, exerting control is an important survival skill. For example, we have every right to be in control of our own bodies and our own lives. Taking control in these cases is empowering and necessary. Controlling behavior in the negative sense comes from a tendency to reach beyond our own boundaries and into the lives of others. Many people do this with the rationalization that they are helping. This can happen with parents who are still trying to force their grown children into behaving in ways that they find acceptable. It can also happen when people try to control their partners’ behavior. If you have control issues, you will see that in one or more areas of your life, you feel the need to interfere with what is happening rather than just allowing events to unfold. Almost everyone has at least one situation or relationship in which they try to exert control. This often happens because someone’s behavior makes us uncomfortable. We may feel it makes us look bad, or it embarrasses us. For example, if your best friend tends to drink too much, you might spend an entire party just trying to prevent her from doing so. This is different from directly confronting her about the problem and allowing her to decide what she should do. Controlling behavior generally goes hand in hand with an unwillingness to be direct about what you want, as well as an inability to let go and let people live their own lives. If you are the one that is controlling, it’s probably because you feel as if you are out of control and it scares you. Try to pick one thing you could just let unfold without any control on your part. Examine how it made you feel both before and after, and examine why you wanted to control the situation. It is hard sometimes to allow others to be who they are, especially if we feel we know what’s best for them and we see them making choices we wouldn’t make. However, if we are to be respectful and truly loving, we have to let people go, trusting that they will find their own way in their own time and understanding that it is their life to live. Just reminding yourself that the only life you have to live is your own is the first step to letting go. Did you like this Inspiration? ❁ Did you miss yesterday's inspiration? Click [here]( to view them all. ♥ Love this inspiration? Share with a friend](   DailyOM Course Spotlight [Hold Your Own During Control Dramas]( By Dr. Jody Janati The foundation for living a drama-free life is being able to identify controlling behaviors and having the skills to navigate them with grace. In this insightful course, communications consultant Dr. Jody Janati provides expert guidance on how to negate control dramas using proven solutions. With detailed teachings and real-life tips, you’ll learn how to respond to others and protect your energy in moments of stress and conflict. Highly effective communication techniques will help you set and maintain healthy boundaries, so you can manage any conflict like a pro. [Learn More]( New Courses - [Increase Your Muscle Tone After 40 for Women]( - [Fix It With Food: Heal Your Body]( - [A Vagus Nerve Belly Bloat Rescue]( - [10-Minute Abs Workout to Banish Menopausal Belly Fat]( - [Fearless Aging With Meridian Tapping]( Recommended For You [Perfect Posture in 14 Days]( [Learn More]( [Sex and Intimacy After 40]( [Learn More]( [Letting Go of the Past With Writing]( [Learn More]( [Breaking Up Without Breaking Down]( [Learn More]( [21-Day Plant-Based Plan for a Lighter, Happier YOU!]( [Learn More]( [Beneficial Stretches for the Inflexible]( [Learn More]( Top 10 Courses 1. [12-Minute Standing Abs Workout]( 2. [The Vagus Nerve Miracle]( 3. [The 10-Minute Method to Naturally Tighten Your Face]( 4. [The Science of Medical Intuition]( 5. [Increase Your Muscle Tone After 40 for Women]( 6. [Clearing Physical and Emotional Clutter]( 7. [The Art of Manifesting Your Soulmate]( 8. [Next Level Fascia Miracle: The Lymphatic Secret]( 9. [Holistic Vagus Nerve Stretches for Immediate Relief]( 10. [The Menopausal Middle Menu Plan]( Explore 350+ Courses There's something for everyone. What do you want to learn today? [Browse by Topic]( [DailyOM Logo](   [Facebook]( [Instagram]( [Pinterest]( [Twitter]( You are receiving this email because you're subscribed to DailyOM. You are registered with {EMAIL}. [Inspirations]( | [Courses]( | [Horoscopes]( [Remove me from this list]( | [Help/FAQ]( Copyright © 2024 [Everyday Health, Inc.]( All rights reserved. DailyOM is among the federally registered trademarks of Everyday Health, Inc. and may not be used by third parties without explicit permission. 114 Fifth Avenue, 15th Floor, New York, NY 10011 Subject to our [terms of service]( and [privacy policy](.