Too Many Things

  [View Online]( INSPIRATION [Too Many Things]( We all want to provide our children with a good and happy life, but most of us know deep down that material possessions play a very small role. One of the greatest things about children is that they have the ability to entertain themselves for long periods of time with something as simple as a cardboard box, a container, or a set of measuring spoons. It makes you wonder why we feel the need to buy them so many toys that they won’t even have time to play with them all before they grow out of them. Often, if we take the time to question our compulsion to constantly give our children new toys and clothes, and to spoil them with food that is not even good for them, we will find that we are trying to fill up the space to avoid our own difficult feelings and pain. If you feel yourself wanting to spoil your child with material possessions, take a moment and see if you can feel where your motivation is coming from. We may be inundating our children with things they don’t need out of our own desire to create a feeling of abundance that was lacking in our own childhood, or out of a need to feel liked by our children. Both of these motives tend to be unconscious, stemming from unresolved issues from our own upbringing or even our adult life. These unresolved feelings naturally come up when we find ourselves in the role of a parent, often as our child reaches the age we were when these traumas were most pronounced. Spoiling your children will not save you or make your pain disappear, only acknowledging and working on your emotional issues can do that. What our children really need us to provide for them is both a sense of safety and a sense of freedom and love of which there can never be too much. If we are able to do this well, material possessions need not take center stage. We all want to provide our children with a good and happy life, but most of us know deep down that material possessions play a very small role. We confuse our children when we seek to make them happy through buying them things. When we do this, they take our cue that happiness comes in the form of toys and treats, rather than in the joy of being alive, surrounded by love, and free to explore the world. ❁ Did you miss yesterday's inspiration? Click [here]( to view them all. ♥ Loved this inspiration? Share with a friend](   DailyOM Course Spotlight [How to Parent Like A Buddhist]( By Cynthia Kane Learn how to cultivate beautiful relationships with your children. Join mindfulness and communication expert Cynthia Kane in this course as she teaches Buddhist-inspired parenting principles that create nurturing, respectful rapport with kids. You’ll receive holistic tools to transform your current patterns and insightful guidance to help you have more open, mutually loving connections with each member of your family. [Learn More]( New Courses - [Psoas Stretches to Relieve Lower Back Pain]( - [Wall Workout to Reshape the Body at Any Age]( - [The Art of Manifesting Your Soulmate]( - [Sacred Sexuality: Open the Energy of Intimacy]( - [Transitioning Through Divorce: Grieving the Loss of Marriage]( Recommended For You [Yoga for People Who Can't Touch Their Toes]( [Learn More]( [Breaking Through Fear and Anxiety]( [Learn More]( [Go Sleeveless in 14 Days]( [Learn More]( [Speaking Your Truth in Relationships]( [Learn More]( [Tone and Tighten Your Tummy]( [Learn More]( [Relationship Rescue: 10 Steps Before Calling A Therapist]( [Learn More]( Top 10 Courses 1. [The Vagus Nerve Miracle]( 2. [A Year of Writing to Uncover the Authentic Self]( 3. [Psoas Stretches to Relieve Lower Back Pain]( 4. [Overcoming Body Stiffness]( 5. [Intimacy Without Responsibility]( 6. [Next Level Fascia Miracle: The Lymphatic Secret]( 7. [A Year to Clear What Is Holding You Back!]( 8. [Shedding Your Menopausal Middle in 10 Days]( 9. [The Feldenkrais Way to Heal the Body]( 10. [Write Heal Transform: A Magical Memoir Writing Course]( Explore 350+ Courses There's something for everyone. What do you want to learn today? [Browse by Topic]( [DailyOM Logo](   [Facebook]( [Instagram]( [Pinterest]( [Twitter]( You are receiving this email because you're subscribed to DailyOM. You are registered with {EMAIL}. [Inspirations]( | [Courses]( | [Horoscopes]( [Remove me from this list]( | [Help/FAQ]( Copyright © 2023 [Everyday Health, Inc.]( All rights reserved. DailyOM is among the federally registered trademarks of Everyday Health, Inc. and may not be used by third parties without explicit permission. 114 Fifth Avenue, 15th Floor, New York, NY 10011 Subject to our [terms of service]( and [privacy policy](.