Changing the Way We Relate

[View Online]( [DailyOM]( [Changing the Way We Relate]( It is dishonest to enter into a relationship with the idea that you are going to change or fix them. A relationship, in the truest sense of the word, means relating to another. Usually when we say that we relate to someone, it is because we’ve found common ground. But part of relating is finding ways to make ideas that seem different come together. So often when we choose relationships, we try to fit another person into our predetermined ideal. When they don’t fit perfectly, we may try to make them over, creating our own vision from the raw material they’ve brought. But unless someone asks for guidance and direction, entering into a relationship with someone we want to change is dishonest. Then our relationship becomes with someone we’ve imagined, and anytime our partner steps outside of that imaginary projection, we will be disappointed. An honest relationship is one in which we accept each other as whole individuals, and find a way to share our life experiences together. Then, whenever we want, we can choose as a couple to give the relationship a makeover by renewing the way we interact. By wanting to give another person a makeover, we are basically saying we don’t accept them for who they are. If we take a moment to imagine the roles reversed, we can get a sense of how it would feel if our beloved only committed to us because they thought we were, or would become, someone else entirely. In such an environment, we are not relating to each other from a real place, and we are keeping ourselves from being able to learn and grow from the different viewpoints that our partners offer. If we feel that a change is needed in our relationship, the only makeover that we truly have the power to make is on ourselves. By accepting our partners for exactly who they are — the ideal and the not-so-ideal — we will create an energetic shift in our relationships, and we may find ourselves really appreciating our partners for the first time. Working from within, we determine how we relate to the people and the world around us, and when we can accept it and embrace it all, without conditions, we make every act of relating a positive one. [ ] DailyOM Course Spotlight [8 Steps for Transforming Relationships]( By Gina Lake Bring more connection, understanding, and happiness into your heart and your life with this course by spiritual teacher Gina Lake. Learn the simple principles that help you feel closer to your partner and dissolve the subconscious ways many of us sabotage love. Establish a new relationship with your thoughts and allow the divine to flow more freely between you and others. [Learn More]( [ ] New Courses - [7 Days to Rewrite Your Dream Career]( - [The Menopausal Middle Menu Plan]( - [Shakti Warrior Dance to Unleash Feminine Energy]( - [Be Ridiculously Happy in Your Relationship]( [ ] Top 10 DailyOM Courses - [Ending the Aftershocks of Traumatic Experiences]( - [Activate Your Fascia, Free Your Body]( - [The Menopausal Middle Menu Plan]( - [How to Heal the Mother Wound]( - [Somatic Exercises to Relax and Release]( - [A Year to Clear What Is Holding You Back!]( - [How to Work with the Spirit World]( - [Clearing Physical and Emotional Clutter]( - [Speak With Purpose, Not Impulse]( - [A Year of Writing to Uncover the Authentic Self]( [DailyOM]( [ ] [facebook]( [instagram]( [pinterest]( [twitter]( You are receiving this email because you are signed up to receive emails from DailyOM. You are registered with {EMAIL}. [Inspirations]( | [Courses]( | [Horoscopes]( [Remove me from this list]( | [Help/FAQ]( Copyright © 2022 [Everyday Health, Inc.]( All rights reserved. DailyOM is among the federally registered trademarks of Everyday Health, Inc. and may not be used by third parties without explicit permission. 114 Fifth Avenue, 15th Floor, New York, NY 10011 Subject to our [terms of service]( and [privacy policy](