Controlling Behavior

Controlling Behavior People that want to control others are, at the core, consumed with their own fears and projecting those fears onto others We all know what it’s like to want to be in control. In some ways, exerting control is an important survival skill. For example, we have every right to be in control of our own bodies and our own lives. Taking control in these cases is empowering and necessary. Controlling behavior in the negative sense comes from a tendency to reach beyond our own boundaries and into the lives of others. Many people do this with the rationalization that they are helping. This can happen with parents who are still trying to force their grown children into behaving in ways that they find acceptable. It can also happen when people try to control their partners’ behavior. If you have control issues, you will see that in one or more areas of your life, you feel the need to interfere with what is happening rather than just allowing events to unfold. Almost everyone has at least one situation or relationship in which they try to exert control. This often happens because someone’s behavior makes us uncomfortable. We may feel it makes us look bad, or it embarrasses us. For example, if your best friend tends to drink too much, you might spend an entire party just trying to prevent her from doing so. This is different from directly confronting her about the problem and allowing her to decide what she should do. Controlling behavior generally goes hand in hand with an unwillingness to be direct about what you want, as well as an inability to let go and let people live their own lives. If you are the one that is controlling, it’s probably because you feel as if you are out of control and it scares you. Try to pick one thing you could just let unfold without any control on your part. Examine how it made you feel both before and after, and examine why you wanted to control the situation. It is hard sometimes to allow others to be who they are, especially if we feel we know what’s best for them and we see them making choices we wouldn’t make. However, if we are to be respectful and truly loving, we have to let people go, trusting that they will find their own way in their own time and understanding that it is their life to live. Just reminding yourself that the only life you have to live is your own is the first step to letting go.  [PRINT](  [SAVE](  [DISCUSS](  --------------------------------------------------------------- DailyOM Course Spotlight [Chair Yoga for Healing, Strength and Mobility]( by Sadie Nardini Chair yoga is an incredible workout solution for re-building body strength, toning muscles, and improving overall balance and stabilization, and it can be done by anyone able to get into a seated position. With this restorative 10-day course from yoga expert, Sadie Nardini, you’ll be guided through a specific blend of short yoga and fitness exercises that gently target common areas of weakness, tension, and inflammation and open up your body in different yet complementary ways. In less than two weeks, you’ll have all the tools you need to actively support your best physical health, with the ability to grow in strength, flexibility, and stamina for a lifetime. [Learn More]( --------------------------------------------------------------- Top 10 DailyOM Courses 1. [4 Minute Metabolism Booster]( 2. [Unhinge Your Hips and Hamstrings]( 3. [Somatic Stretching to Relax and Release]( 4. [Shedding Your Menopausal Middle in 10 Days]( 5. [Strengthening Your Pelvic Floor]( 6. [A Year of Writing to Uncover the Authentic Self]( 7. [21 Tapping Meditations for Emotional Eating and Beyond]( 8. [The 2 Week Fascia Miracle]( 9. [Toned Inner Thighs in 13 Days]( 10. [5 Week Kundalini Yoga for Chakras]( New Courses • [Somatic Stretching to Relax and Release]( • [Awaken Your Chakra Energy]( • [The Problem Area Workout]( • [The Complete Program to Uncovering Your Truth Special 4-Course Bundle]( > [More Courses]( --------------------------------------------------------------- [Home]( | [Inspiration]( | [Courses]( | [Horoscopes]( [Email Settings]( | [Unsubscribe]( | [Privacy Policy]( | [Help/FAQ]( © 2022 DailyOM - All Rights Reserved No portion of this site can be reprinted without express permission. Subscribed as {EMAIL}